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dating, feminism, male privlidge, marraige, masculinity, men, relationships
In our culture today, few talk about the nobility of men. We’re much more likely to hear about how they are abusers, users, creeps, cowards, oppressors, buffoons, women-haters, skirt-chasers, wussies, and so on.
Images in the popular media portray men as simple stereotypes: The clueless and useless man the wife rolls her eyes at and pats on the head. The macho player cad who leaves a trail of broken hearts in his wake. The ruthless misogynistic jerk. The bitter, angry man. And yes, there are these men. But I would argue they are the few, not the many.
The more I study men in various places around the manosphere, the more I see another side: a true and steady nobility. While men don’t go on and on about their feelings and thoughts as openly as women do, when they do share their inner thoughts they often reveal still water that runs deep.
Another thing I see is that many men today are hurting, deeply. They wonder why their marriages aren’t working. They want nothing more than to find a girlfriend. They mourn the loss of children they are denied access to by court order. They are afraid to be accused of sexual harassment for looking the wrong way. They are afraid to approach a woman to talk to her and to be mistaken for a pervert. They can find a girl to sleep with but not one who will give him her heart. Their concerns are marginalized, their voices unheard. They are hobbled to the post by assumptions that they are the cause of all the world’s (and women’s) problems. And if they dare complain or speak up, they are accused of male privilege (or worse).
But the truth is, most men are simply wonderful. They are achingly handsome. They are intelligent. They are strong. They are brave. They are loyal. They are kind. They are helpful. They are virtuous. They are hard working. They are honorable. They are tough. They are heroic. They are sexy. And some might say, they love deeper and truer than women do.
So while it’s been a long time since we’ve needed them to slay actual dragons, they are out there doing it in big and little ways for their maidens each and every day. And I, for one, adore them for it.
And here’s a little secret you may not hear so much anymore in a post-feminist world: Men aren’t our enemy. They want to be our allies. It’s ok to love men, to respect them, to honor them, to swoon over them. They like it. It won’t make you less of a woman. And it doesn’t happen nearly as much as it should.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
Thank you for saying kind things about the boys. You could start a movement. Here’s a video with some longhair music for inspiration.
Great post and I will be interested to see what kind of discussion comes from this post.
Good job and well said.
I wouldn’t romanticize men; some are good, some are mediocre, some are disappointing. I would celebrate those qualities, once demonstrated, that are good. I think very few of us are noble, no matter our best intentions.
Yes, I see what you are saying and agree. I oppose dualistic thinking in general, that everything is A or B, good or bad, right or wrong, black or white. So thank you for pointing out there is a lot of space between A and B. Celebrate the good. I like that!
I think you are a man pretending to be a woman,
Now they are blushing…
This will probably be addressed in a later post, but as I am going through the archives oldest to newest, I’ll leave an insight for those following the same path.
Because of men’s perceived rough treatment by society (rightly or wrongly), many men have gone into social hibernation. The lingo term for it in the manosphere is MGTOW, Men Going There Own Way. Don’t Google that, you’ll just get more sorrow than enlightenment. Judging by the marriage statistics for the younger demographic, MGTOW males may be becoming a silent majority, thus making the less-than-noble men more visible and objectionable.
Even if women could use their intuition to identify a MGTOW in order to coax him out of his cave, there is still the language barrier. What I call the GBSL (gender based sign language) of flirtation and subliminal communications is supposed to signal intent. Unfortunately we men were never given a dictionary, not even a Rosetta stone. The seduction community has a draft dictionary in development, but it is still very much a work in progress. The players already have a leather bound edition.
Sorry to say it this way, but ladies who want to get their noble men are going to have to “man up”. You’ll need to take risks like men do, put yourself out verbally and risk rejection like men do, and have the vulnerability to present your best and worst sides like men do. Don’t worry about being too forward. It’s a respectable filter for isolating the players and wussies while passing through noble men. Your subject of interest may still not be fluent in GBSL but at least you’re off to a good start.
By the way, I’m not over-revealing Man Code here. The manosphere is particularly harsh on weak men for allowing the problems to perpetuate. I think we tacitly agree that if women and men collectively could just get along better, it makes all our lives easier.