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There he is, looking at you from across the room. Wow, he’s cute! Your heart jumps. Before long, the two of you are maneuvering your way closer to each other. Oh my goodness, he’s saying everything you’ve ever hoped to hear. I’s just like in the movies! How could you ever be so lucky. Maybe this is IT?!?

So you bounce it off your girlfriends, who are all equally swept up in the romantic tale. Go for it, they urge you. Don’t let this one get away!

Screech. Brakes. Reality check.

If he’s that smooth, it’s probably because he’s done this little ditty before. I know you don’t want to hear that. I know I am throwing a big wet blanket on your true love tale. Trust me, I am a big fan of true love myself.

But ask a few guy friends, describe the interactions, and you will get a whole other take on who this guy is and what he is up to. If something is too good to be true, it likely is.

Maybe he really is that great guy he portrays himself to be. But watch out. Take your time. Don’t be a sucker. Slow it down. If he’s just spinning tales, he’ll tire of the game not working as quickly and easily as usual. And you will not be left reaching for tea and hankies.

If he’s actually a good guy, that will come to light too. It happens. We’ve all heard the tales.

But before you jump in heart first, do a little fact checking and recon, so you know exactly what you are getting yourself into. The best part about not being a sucker, is that you save yourself from getting hurt. And that’s a mighty wise thing for a gal to do.

Let those who have ears hear.