Ladies, do you ever feel like you are speaking French (or Vesuvius) and he is speaking German (or Martian) and there are no translators in sight?
The more I think about it, the profoundly different ways that the male and female mind work, likely create much of the strife in the battle between the sexes.
And if so, I am starting to realize that’s going to take a whole lot of patience, understanding, and hopefully a decent ability to play charades to make that work.
To complicate things further, each gender approaches the other more like they would like to be approached than how approach actually works for the opposite sex.
And then there are on top of that, lots of other problems, including a totally topsy-turvey sexual market place (smp) and marriage market place (mmp) that resembles the wild-wild west.
If any of you know how all that works, please share it in the comments, because I personally am stumped!
But I think it’s in everybody’s best interest to get it figured out. Or if not that, at least back up on all four wheels, ok maybe three good wheels and a partial flat, something better than this anyway.
Let those who have ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
Redpillgirlnotes,
I’m so confused. You’re so confused. All the boys and girls are confused. Why do I have the feeling that this will never get sorted out?
Even *within* genders, there are huge differences in how people’s minds work…what an extreme extrovert likes vs an extreme introvert, or a sensing type versus an intuitive type (using Myers-Briggs terminology)…I think it is useful to study personality classification schemes such as M-B, even if they are very coarse & crude as models of reality, just to reinforce one’s understanding that other people may be quite different from oneself.
On a macro level it may never get sorted out, or not in our lifetimes likely. On a micro level, like minded individuals can find and create their own happiness, or that’s my hope anyway!
Indeed this is true as well. I am an INFP, have tested thus four different times at different points in life and it fits me to a T when I read about it. In college, career exploration (aka what do I want to be?) class we took the test and then were split into groups to map out our perfect workplace. There were four INFP in the class, which was a huge percentage considering there are only 4% in the general population, but it makes sense INFP would be drawn to such a class, to examine all the shades of gray, ponder from all angles before deciding. Anyway, so at the end all the groups gave their presentation and they had all created model good little corporate worlds, while ours was very akin to the .com world (several years prior) — a flat structure, promotion based on merit, casual environment, lots of creativity. Funny thing was as we shyly presented our vision, turned out everyone wanted to work for us! Lol.
You might be amazed that there are some very, very smart pick up artists who are figuring it all out, for real! I make this observation from the perspective of my school training as a Theoretical and Formal Linguist, and years of experience acquiring three foreign languages. The models under development include charts, graphs, PowerPoint slides, and training videos.
I’ll give an intro here. Imagine two deaf people communicating in sign language. Believe it or not there are different sign languages in the deaf world that are not mutually intelligible. Wikipedia lists dozens and dozens of sign language dialects. What I call Gender Based Sign Languages (GBSL) is a way to group the more or less common ways for women to send subliminal communications to men and for men to send subliminal communications to women. For example, a woman twirling her hair is usually a sign of interest to a man (Indicator of Interest or IOI in pick up artist jargon), but a man will not twirl his hair to show interest to a woman. It’s very much like bird songs used as mating calls.
Imagine if two song birds, a male and a female but from different species, started interacting. The male bird can sing his heart out, but it might as well fall on deaf ears, as the female bird doesn’t understand his specie’s song. Romantic intent goes unrewarded.
Because of modern man’s social conditioning, regardless of what innate GBSL ability may be hardwired into our brains, the communication gets stifled or mis-communicated. Girl signals to boy, boy misses or misunderstands signal and doesn’t communicate back to girl, girl can’t initiate communication because society says that makes her evil, and so the courtship ritual fails. Or man says I want sex, woman says I want a relationship (all through coded spoken language), neither understands that needs and interests could be partitioned and spanned across multiple partners, no consensus is reached, and nobody gets laid.
Now to further complicate matters, we have two brains chattering in our heads, and they don’t cooperate well with each other. Hindbrain, animal brain, says I want stuff and I can make you happy. Forebrain, evolved brain, says I think and understand stuff. Hindbrain says to forebrain, “I want…”, forebrain says to hindbrain, “But we can’t…”, hindbrain counters with, “I don’t care what you think…and furthermore I’ll get you drunk and shut you down…”, forebrain says “he seems nice enough”, and then hours later somebody wakes up in a strange bed, filled with shock and maybe regret.
This reply could easily get TL;DR. I left in the juicy parts. To find a solution I say use words, go slow, be honest and direct, play nice, and be forgiving. It couldn’t be much worse than the way we’re doing it now.