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Hey you, running around in pajama bottoms and flip flops, did you know guys cringe at gals running around in pajama bottoms and flip flops and letting it all hang out like nobody cares how you look?
Yep. they do.
Well if you are a college hottie you might get a pass, but in general guys like girls who look good.
I know, I know…how sexist. That’s objectifying and shallow. He should love me for who I am. Right?
Well sister, men are visual creatures like it or not. Very visual. As in they notice and rate every woman they run across in every situation all day long, apparently. From the gal at the coffee stand to the woman in line in front of them at the bank to the girl next door, all of them, all of the time. They aren’t consciously doing it. They just DO it.
Why? Who knows. I suspect it has something to do with their need not so long ago to be always alert to their surroundings because being super observant really helps one be a good hunter or warrior.
Likewise, when sizing up a potential mate, these men were looking for all the signs that said she’d be good at having babies. Studies show it is the very same signs of fertility that men are naturally attracted to.
And let’s face it, women are also attracted to men who look a certain way. Often the same signs that show he would make a fine hunter and warrior. So we must be sexist, too?
Now it is true, some women are already too keenly aware of their body image and obsess over every tiny flaw and spend entirely way too much time and money on their appearance already. This post is not for them. To them I would say, relax. Guys don’t like that either. And chances are you look great but are so uptight about it you can’t enjoy it.
However, there are many women who have taken it to the other extreme. They put little to no emphasis on their appearance, and yet they expect men to overlook all that.
The biggest thing a gal can do to improve her physical appeal is to maintain an ideal body weight. Not too fat, not too thin. With 2 in 3 women overweight or obese, this is an area where a gal can easily stand out from the crowd. But not with fad diets or crash diets or whatever, which only set up a boomerang effect that leads to even more weight gain in the future. Better to eat a highly nutrient rich but lower calorie diet made up of good, sound food than to try to subsist on less of the “typical American diet.” The Paleo Diet is a good example.
And be active. Eating well is where it starts because eating 400 calories is a lot easier than burning 400 calories, but regular and robust physical activity helps too because it builds muscle which in turn burns more calories day and night. And don’t worry, you won’t look like The Incredible Hulk if you work out. A women’s hormones keep muscle mass from building in the same way a man’s does. If you don’t like to work out, then adopt a strenuous physical hobby. Wake-board chicks have killer abs and are super lean as a side effect of that very strenuous sport, for example. And have you ever seen wake-board guys? Holy smokes! Not a bad “two birds with one stone” effect, if you know what I mean. Similar for other such active hobbies. Worth doing for the masculine eye candy alone!
Ok, then from there, think “feminine.” Long hair. Pretty dresses or skirts. Jewelry. Tasteful make-up. Shimmer. Sparkle.
Tasteful goes a long, long way. Looking feminine does not equal looking like a streetwalker. Leaving something to the imagination is far more powerful than letting it all hang out.
It’s not rocket science. And it doesn’t decrease your power or worth as a person or reduce the inner you. In fact, it increases your all around appeal. And whether you are married or single, looking good for your man or looking good for your potential man is not a bad strategy.
And by the way, a gal feels better about herself and more confident when she knows she looks good, too. So it’s not just for him.
Chances are the ones who will be complaining and getting all bent out of shape about this are the women in flip flops and pajama pants.
I second this. I try and look my best all the time.
Yep. Looks are all we care about when we 1st notice you. In that initial fraction of a second we have no idea if you are funny, kind, loyal etc.
This maight be stated as “Look Sharp”. It’s a visual cue to self esteem.
Keep America Beautiful. Don’t be a slob.
That’s all.
Don’t be a slob! Like how you throw in the patriotic angle fuzzie! Keep America Beautiful 🙂
Thanks for adding that scfton. Good point, in a split second a gal presents an image of who she is by how she looks. So gals should ask themselves if the image they are presenting matches who they are and want to be. Well said!
And I am sure the ladies appreciate it! A guy who looks his best is a joy to behold as well! Indeed!
Another thought, when I was growing up women were being told it was practically a crime to look feminine or pretty, that doing so would somehow undermine a woman being taken seriously or some such nonsense. Androgeny was the way. play it down. I say baloney. In the past few years I have been girl-ing it up and nobody treats me any lesser for it. In fact, it seems to have the opposite effect! Who knew?
Who knew? Me. As cynical as I am, I can still fall hard for good girl game.
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Redpillgirlnotes,
You have my email. Let’s talk.
So very true.
Thanks for stopping by sgt Ted! 🙂
women were being told it was practically a crime to look feminine or pretty
Another feminism lie
Gee, maybe I should have scanned ahead and saved the Mac&Cheese parable for this post.
Hmm…encore…
A little tidbit of insight from the Seduction Community is the power of jealousy. This is not about the danger of losing or sharing your mate with another woman type of jealousy. That comes from insecurity. We’re talking when a man in a bar is fair game and different women will compete for his affection. First dibs is not ownership in the dating world.
What’s interesting here is this is not coming from the perspective of a man thinking about trading up. Is woman A hotter than woman B and a giant leap from woman C?…No. This is coming from, “He obviously fancies her, and what does she have that I don’t have, and wouldn’t he and I make a cuter couple?”
Miss First Dibs is getting off on these other women’s attention, because it just affirms that she has good taste in men.
“My God, he must be a hunk because women are throwing themselves at him.”
So this is just a little twist on why you should look good when you are out with your man in public. You looking good makes him look better to other women. These women validate his good looks by paying attention to him. You see these women’s validation, and it just makes him look better in your eyes. He wins, you win, the other women learn to be jealous or up their game.