I have not gotten a solid 8 hours of sleep in years. Last night I got three. Interrupted twice by a three-year-old yelling, “mommy” from the other room. The alarm will go off in 10 minutes. Then my day will start. A flurry of getting school clothes and lunches packed and kids dropped off followed by somehow getting 12 hours of work done in a five hour window before school is over and the babysitter drops the kids back off. And oh yeah, I am sick. But it doesn’t matter because it’s all me. If I don’t do it, nobody will. Like the laundry, dishes, gardening, housecleaning. I do all that, too. Yep. Living the glamorous life. The single independant woman.
Who needs a man? Like a fish needs a bicycle, right?
What a crock.
Let those who have ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
Redpillgirlnotes,
Anything I say will probably come off as patronizing. Keep slugging. You didn’t ask for this. Here is one of my favorite Mama Bear videos.
It’s kind of fun to see Baby Bear scamper off. He knows he’s in trouble.
@ fuzzie, thanks 🙂
More Mama Bear to cheer you up!
I’m so sorry, Bloom. 😦
Hope you feel better soon. It really sucks to be sick…especially with a three year old (or younger) in the house!
Not that it’s any consolation, but I’ve had a lot of days/weeks like that, even though I’m married (none recently, life’s very good now, huge knock on wood). Lots of deployments for the spouse, plus a fulltime work schedule=single mom situation, even if married.
But remember, dear Bloom! …This too shall pass…We’re all the measure of the storms we’ve encountered and been able to overcome. Without the bad stuff, one appreciates the good stuff a lot less. I look back at my life and think, “Damn! How did I do that? That is bad*ss!” (mostly over the types of trying times like you are experiencing now)
Good luck, Bloom. (((hugs)))
Fuzzie! That video is unbelieveably precious! 🙂
@ Liz thanks for the encouragement, yes this too shall pass. I remember you posting about when your hubby was deployed and you were solo parenting (plus the worry about his safety, I am sure!) it’s not as seen on TV, single parenting, that’s for sure! Hugs back and thanks 🙂
Liz,
Your words are better than anything I could come up with. You know what it’s loke.
Redpillgirlnotes,
People are pulling for you!
@ fuzzie, thanks. Like Liz says, this too shall pass. I usually don’t share these moments but I thought this morning maybe it is good to share this side of being a single parent. When my friend considering a frivorce complains how she does it all now, as a stay at home mom, I try to get her to see as a single mom she’d still be doing all she does now, plus working full time, and carrying the emotional load of all that responsibility as well. It isn’t as easy as I make it look, maybe I need to start sharing these moments w her, the real reality. Hope she doesn’t have to live it herself to finally understand…
Redpillgirlnotes,
She is responsible for her own decisions. All you can do, you have already done. Maybe this post might help.
@ fuzzie true re: her own decisions. I do think I am going to make a point of complaining to her about my struggles more often, a secret ploy to employ the teachable moment. Oh and all my dating is not so fun and easy stories, too.
I am a big believer in bucking up and having a good attitude but maybe in her case I could show the weakness and struggles more. And I hope others in her situation reading this will reconsider too. If it can at all be avoided, single parenting should be. I would never advise someone who is being abused or in a severely dysfunctional/toxic situation etc. to stay for the kids. But if its just “I am unhaaaapy and bored or just want change” then yes, work it out. Or live to regret it when the cold hard reality hits.
Maybe I should write a book about that! I just might…. (But not today! Lol.)
Love this!! So true!!
Redpillgirlnotes,
Speaking of dating, you might tell her that one of your fans is a bear living far away. That should send her straight back to her husband and she may never give another thought to leaving him.
@ reinventing, thanks! 🙂
Lol fuzzie I am not sure I am following that! If you are representative of bears, you are pretty darn great I would say! Even tho you are at a distance I value your steadfast encouragement and support! You’re one of the good ones!
As a familiar of Fuzzy’s, I can confirm that he does indeed live far away. Rumor has it that he has ventured as far as a planet satellite of the Bear Star system, there to engage in the heroic rescue of a helpless maiden. He went in the company of Yoda and a certain intergalactic poet, whose name escapes me. Of him you once wrote yourself, that a gentle melancholy pervades his rhyme…
Redpillgirlnotes,
Shhhh… Don’t let her know that! Let her think that I am a grouch!
Cill,
That was a long, long time ago in a galaxy far, far away.
@ Cill – look at you and crew, the international, Intercontinental, and Intergalactic (!?!?) wing man for the fuzzster! Nice!
@ Fuzzie the grouch, ummm I heard that! Ha! 🙂 Curmudgeon bordering on cute grouchy or icky black cloud toxic grouchy?
@ Fuzzie I bet Padawan could reply to that long long time ago thing in verse!
Ooooh… Padawan!?! What say thee?
“look at you and crew”
Ah, you refer to me and my wee nephew Meddy (short for Medicine Ball). I don’t know how useful Meddy would be in a space vessel, but in a sea vessel he’s good for ballast. That’s a fact.
Redpillgirlnotes,
Tell her whatever will make her run from the room screaming and into her husband’s arms.
Now, if you have trouble getting the younger one back to sleep, try this.
The Word is mightier than the Sword (by Padawan, Poet Laureate 2104 – ?)
The fair maiden disappeared
By kidnapping, it was feared
So Yoda and crew
A plan they drew
And space ships they also prepared
Across space they flew out far
To a planet of the Bear Star
And sure enough
They saw her trussed
In a room with the door ajar
Yoda’s bright light-sabre swished
While Meddy shook his wee fist
And bold Padawan
With Fuzzy his man
Saw her about to be kissed
It was Jabba the loathsome brute
About to give her a beaut
His knees were bent
With evil intent
To add to his ill repute
So Padawan chanted his verse
And Jabba started to curse
With hands on his ears
He fell down in tears
As the verse got steadily worse
When Jabba fell comatose
They snatched her from under his nose
Out they did skip
And into their ship
Without need for battle or blows
D’ya reckon the threat a fate worse than death from Jabba would be enough to propel her back into her hubby’s arms? But unfortunately, Fuzzie’s video will make the kids more hyperactive than sleepy.
Padawan, you have outdone yourself!
I wish I could like that many times, padawan!
Bloom swoons at padawans poem of heroic adventures way far from home. Her poem of appreciation for rescue to come…When dinner is done. Must compose some worthy prose!
That new phew of yours is showing great promise! Tell him g’day from a gal who is far away, but who would virtually coochie coo under his chin and play patty cake all day if only to win dear Meddy over to to grant her a grin! 🙂
@ fuzzie indeed! That padawan and cill are true friends to you indeed!
And @ cill I have not forgotten the venison spice mixes. Soon! 🙂
Aha! You have worked out the ulterior motive… what poem was really for then, Bloom! 😉
Tender wild venison by a campfire in a clearing in an ancient forest surrounded by mountains under the southern stars…
But the venison must be tender
I am happy to report I actually had a pretty good day considering the short sleep and am now off to bed. Thank you to all for the kind words. Gnite and a padawan worthy poem to come once I have slept! 🙂 (bloom leaves a big pile of cookies and hot cocca for all, along with some sleepy time tea! And a bottle of whiskey in case anyone wants a nightcap! Help yourselves!!!) zzzzzzzzzz
“Padawan, you have outdone yourself!”
With 5 words the wise (and humorous) bear an entire poem does sum up!
MmmH?
May you awake into a healthy bright morning, Bloom (and with recipe nyum nyum nyum)
tip o the heat to you darling. It sure does suck the smp/ mmp is so poisoned
tell your lady friends their is nothing but men like me out there…. she will either run back to her old man or…..