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There’s a saying in the red pill world for what happens when someone lets their mind rationalize taking actions they know they shouldn’t — listening to the hamster. If you get caught or your actions lead to consequences, the hamster is there to help you explain it away or to blame it on anyone but yourself.
The hamster is that little voice that says, “Go ahead, you deserve it,” or “Normally you shouldn’t do that, but because of X, Y, Z it’s OK.” Think of it as similar to the old imagery of having an angel sitting on one shoulder advising you to do what’s right, and a devil sitting on the other shoulder urging you to give in to temptation. The hamster would be the one dressed in red.
Some might say to “hamster” is a female thing, but I have seen men do it too. I’d say everyone “hamsters” now and again, and some make it practically a way of life. Being aware of the hamster is a good first step in making sure it doesn’t just hop on that wheel and spin, spin, spin you right into making bad choices and life altering decisions.
For example, many people who have affairs let their hamsters talk them into it. They feel an attraction to someone other than their spouse, and instead of realizing that every now and then it’s going to happen, but remembering they committed to their spouse, so they choose not to act on the attraction, they let the hamster get going and the literally talk themselves into why “it’s OK, under the circumstances” for them to cheat. The hamster leads them right into a divorce.
Another example might be the single person who talks themselves into having a one night stand with the sexy stranger they met at the nightclub. “Nobody will ever know,” the hamster might say. Or “Everyone else is doing it, why should they have all the fun?” Or even, “Having sex with whoever you want whenever you want is normal and healthy and empowering.” The hamster leads them right into a sexually transmitted disease or an unplanned pregnancy.
Other times the hamster leads you astray in smaller ways, like putting off doing something you know you need to get done, or encouraging you to cut corners that shouldn’t be cut, or to let your wants steer your priorities over your needs.
Your hamster also has no loyalty. Other people can actually use your hamster against you, purposely feeding it pellets to get you to do what they want you to do, even though they know and you know you shouldn’t.
See that’s the trouble with the hamster. It always gives bad advice. Self destructive advice. Life imploding advice. The hamster doesn’t care if it causes you to lose your job, your reputation, your family, or even your freedom. The hamster lives in the moment. The hamster is purely hedonistic. The hamster says, “If it feels good, do it!”
And as we see on the news or in real life, far too many people let their hamster run wild. I am sure you can think of several examples of this pretty easily. Today it’s almost expected. Concepts such as morality and restraint and self-control are considered “old-fashioned” by many, relics of an age gone by. Life isn’t like that anymore, some would say. Times have changed.
But have they? Have times really changed? All one needs to do is to look back in history and literature. From the bible to Greek and Roman myths to Shakespeare’s plays, these texts are rife with tales of people lying, cheating, stealing, murdering, and so on. People are the same as they have always been. Bad choices are the same as they have always been.
Let’s not kid ourselves. It’s pretty clear there’s never been an age of innocence. And the consequences of these actions are also still the same as they have always been, even if the hamster tells you different. What’s changed is the social pressure to resist the hamster has been lifted. We live in a “I’m OK, you’re OK, live and let live” world.
And tolerance is a good quality. Don’t get me wrong. Tolerating individual differences is much better than burning people at the stake. But tolerance can be a sticky wicket when the hamster has its way.
Think of it this way, letting your hamster guide your life choices is pretty much like taking advice from the guests of the Jerry Springer Show. That’s how much sense your hamster has. The hamster is going to choose the low road every time. The hamster is what gets people on the Jerry Springer Show.
So next time you find yourself thinking about doing something that you know you really shouldn’t, put the hamster back in the cage. While you may miss out on some “fun” in the moment, I can guarantee that in the long run you will have a much happier, healthier, abundant life for it. Doing the right thing is never a bad choice. Doing the right thing never goes out of style. And doing the right thing will never steer you wrong.
Let those who have ears hear.
Redpillgirlnotes,
Something tells me that you don’t have a problem with your hamster. You’re too busy to give in to temptation. Another thought, if your life is simple, there is less opportunity to be tempted.
Lol fuzzie, I have a hamster just the same as anyone and at times it has advised me badly. One thing my mom did that I am trying to do w my own kids is to show me how my choices were connected to my outcome. Bad choices hurt yourself. Good choices are a way to love yourself.
Tou just reminded me that no one calls anyone a ‘goody two shoes” any more. There is no one out there trying to talk people out of bad behavior. And, if you dare to criticize anyone, out come the daggers and claws.
The good angels have all gone underground.
Lol Fuzzie, I suppose. I hope I am trying to talk people out of bad behavior, in their own best interest! As someone once said to me, most people’s problems are caused by user error. I often see people making their lives harder than they need to be, or making choices that sabotage what they truly want. So many people don’t seem to see THEY are the biggest reason for their own happiness or unhappiness, not outside forces. I am sure I am just as blind to this as anyone but I do try to stop and ask myself if what I am about to do will get me where I want to go rather than act on impulse.
Oh and @ Fuzzie, I’d be the first to admit that’s a lesson I have learned the hard way! But at least I am learning, right?
Redpillgirlnotes,
We’re not supposed to stop learning.
I am beginning ti think that you are smarter than the average bear.
Fuck that, I load my hamster up with tequila and molly then ask its advice.
@ Wilson I suppose that is another approach, embrace the hamster, Russian roulette, go big or go home! Lol. Let’s know how that works out… I will look forward to the Jerry Springer episode! 🙂
As a general rule I ignore my hamster until it begins speaking in tongues. Then I can blame all the consequences on it being a simple matter of misunderstanding.
Lol Wilson, that right there is some hamstering! But you do raise a good point I forgot, the hamster always deflects responsibility for any bad choices or consequences based on its advice. Super convienence, for the hamster. For the person sitting in jail for following hamster’s advice, not so much. Perhaps someday it will be a legal defense. “The hamster MADE me do it!!!” 🙂
Redpillgirlnotes,
Do you feel your leg being pulled?
On a more serious note, we need to figure out how to get more girls reading your posts, if the comments are representative.
@ fuzzie I agree, any ideas? I have to admit I am not sure how to get this in front of a wider female audience. Hummm.
Redpillgirlnotes,
The only thing that I can think of is to leave links to your site when you visit women’s sites. The links would have to be pertinent.
Yeah that little bastard always leaves when its time to be arraigned.
Topic appropiate video. Lots more on youtube.
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For reasons far beyond the scope of this blog, I live in the ghetto. We’re not talking a poor working class neighborhood, rather many of my neighbors are getting government checks. A few do commute with me on the bus to terrible, low paying service work jobs. Because most people have cell phones, I hear a lot of conversations with friends and family…very LOUD conversations. Some are as loud as the arguments and threats I hear shouted back and forth.
Amid all the grunts and shrieks and hollers there is also a faint squeaking. If you were to take out all the human sounds, it would be a Greek chorus of rodent utterances. Some mornings I can glance down on the ground and see the paw prints of the hamster stampede.
So many of my neighbors do not end up in the ghetto because they can not do better. They end up here because they choose to follow their hamster wherever it leads them. The locals call that “stuck on stupid”.
Nice, thorough, accurate. This hamster is known as “the sin nature” in modern Christianity.
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