The following comment was posted in response to another blog post but I felt it worthy of its own guest post.
This comes from “Ezzy” who is a happily married woman living in New Zealand, the secret advice her mother gave to her and hers before that and the advice “Ezzy” gives her own daughters on how to choose a man to marry. Enjoy!
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“I followed the advices my mother had received from her mother, and so on, going back many generations. I have passed the same advices to my daughters. I was told these advices were too precious to be owned, that each woman was a caretaker of them until she passed them on to the next caretaker. On seeing her daughter heed them, the weight of responsibility becomes sunlight on a mother’s shoulders.
My ancestors knew all about female ‘group think’ (as it is now called) long ago, except they decided to apply it vertically (through the generations) rather than horizontally (across present generations). They saw the vertical approach as a strength and the horizontal as a fatal flaw. We draw our strength from all woman before us who have heeded the advices. All women have the capacity to carry them within.
Love a man for his character, that is the base, and all else is ‘learning steps’ about each other, some delightful, some painful. Feel it from the wisdom of women who committed to men of good character in the past. This was instilled in me so strongly, good character became the romance of my dreams at an early age. My imaginary Prince Charmings thrilled me with their integrity, empathy, steadfastness and power of good character. I married a man who could not have taken my heart had he not been first and foremost a good man.
Once committed, for as long as he stands to the contract and he shows his commitment by his words and actions, we will honor it. Whenever we start to feel critical or impatient, or (most fatally of all) start ‘comparing our lot’, we feel the support of the sisterhood who started failing in the past and yet stayed strong.”
Redpillgirlnotes,
Was it only last week that we were saying you needed more girl commenters? Now, you have a guest post.
Your star is ascending..
To the original post. it does seem that contemporaries carry more wight than elders in settting mores.
@ fuzzie, in America at least I would say that is true. Teens seem to think “times have changed” and “the world is different now” thinking these issues were not the same for generations past. But they were and have always been. What worked in the past is the same as now. Good character goes a long way. Ezzy and those before her are wise to see that.
I’m so glad I listened to my mother Ezzy’s words, else Precocious Molly would’ve found a whole heap of trouble before now! 😉
December next year The Force Awakens (new Start Wars) comes out! Yoda told me first hand 😉 I can’t wait! 🙂
How so Molly? What has the advice helped you avoid?
The “horizontal group think” is bad where I come from (NZ). The group behaviours are disgusting. You know the Predatory Princesses Cill talked about? I’ve seen them in action, women of my age and in their 20s with their back sides stuck out of the windows of cars. They stop and harass men for sex. What was in Cill’s post at Spawny’s Space – something like 27% of NZ men say they’ve been harassed?
If I hadn’t been warned about the perils of horizontal group-think I might have been one of those princesses. Heaven forbid!
There was no chance of it happening to a gal who’s got a mother like mine! 🙂
Molly, are there more single men than women there? Or women than men? Or I am curious how this girl forward culture evolved?
A lot more women than men, and a lot of MGTOW among the men. It’s the NZ “Man Drought”. A young woman has as much chance of finding a male partner as an 80 year woman has:
http://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2014/10/22/links-related-to-the-decline-of-marriage/
At any time, there are a lot more female than male tourists in the country.
Re the link, I see the percentage is actually 29% :
“29% of the 5,000 men felt they had been pressured into having sex or had had sex unwillingly.” !!
NZ women have 3 times the number of sex partners than women of other countries. NZ is the only country where the women are “officially” more promiscuous than the men. Instead of responding realistically, NZ women are making things worse for the men all the time (divorce laws, DV bias, “manufactroversies” etc) and driving men away. It’s insane! 😐
Apart from the unpleasant sight of the princesses, none of it affects me directly as I have a stable extended family and quite a few wannabe boyfriends. 🙂
One of the links that Cill provided said that NZ currently has a 96/100 male to female ratio. It’s off but not far. In all marketplaces, perception counts for a lot and I don’t think NZ is an exception. They have swung from being man heavy to light. In both past and present, men are more mobile in search of fortune.
I did look up stats for the former Soviet Union. They’re all in the mid 80s male to female.
I hadn’t a chance to read Molly’s last comment before posting mine. It does sound as if NZ women are using feminist tools to maintain dominance in the marketplace despite their current numerical disadvantage. It can’t work indefinitely.
Buena Vista does remind me, from time to time, that with the one day stock market collapse in 1987, there was only a seven percent difference between sell and buy orders. It doesn’t take much. In New Zealand’s case, they went from extra men to a not quite enough.
Ethnic sex ratios, age 25-29, 2006 (as at the 2011 Census the ratio figure for European men had dropped into the 80s):
For every 100 Maori women, 85 Maori men
For every 100 European women, 90 European men
For every 100 Pasifika women, 89 Pasifika men
For every 100 Asian women, 91 Asian men
For every 100 MELAA women, 97 MELAA men
http://www.google.co.nz/url?q=http://www.familiescommission.org.nz/sites/default/files/callister-seminar-270813.pdf&sa=U&ei=6ZF6VNm9Gsjz8gW20IH4Cg&ved=0CDUQFjAH&sig2=Fpmeo6VFuqOFEu730pSd1w&usg=AFQjCNG0SqKkgVDwEoRkBOawXZRhTaIPVg
Interesting… So if I am understanding this, many women in New Zealand have taken a “be more promiscuous” approach to hoping to land a man? Or is landing a man not the reason for the promiscuity? And if not, what is the goal?
“For every 100 women looking to snag a New Zealand chap aged between 25 and 49, on average about nine will miss out”: http://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/love-sex/9598458/Man-drought-leaves-many-lacking-romance
That was as at the 2006 Census. After the 2011 Census I think the ratio might have widened. There were news reports about the worsening ‘partnering gap’ in 2012 but I can’t locate them on the net. They’ll be there somewhere.
Red Pill Girl, the idea is, “No dating, thanks, just sex… If the first-up sex wasn’t any good women weren’t prepared to waste their time progressing the relationship.”
http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/295808/No-dating-thanks-just-sex
“Kiwi women had an average of 20.4 sexual partners, thrice the global average of 7.3, and double compared to British or Australian women… a TVNZ Sunday investigation into the sexual behavior of Kiwi women revealed that young New Zealand women are regularly getting drunk and cruising around in packs searching for men to have sex with… This behavior impacted the men: a 2007 Bloke survey revealed that 29% of the 5,000 men felt they had been pressured into having sex or had had sex unwillingly.”: http://news.softpedia.com/news/Which-Are-the-Wold-039-s-Most-Promiscuous-Women-80450.shtml
When they get into their 30s they find their promiscuous background makes them unattractive to the men.
“No country for single women – shortage of men in New Zealand:
A 32-year-old Kiwi woman has as much chance of finding a partner her age as an 82-year-old… Tourism New Zealand … has launched a new marketing campaign aimed at wooing young British men with the enticement of an abundance of desirable and man-hungry Kiwi women.”
http://www.topnews.in/no-country-single-women-shortage-men-new-zealand-284650
It’s all in that Cill link (above).
I call bullshit. I’ve seen the lord of the rings, you have plenty of young healthy hobbits wandering about.
Wait, there’s more Not only Hobbits but, if Molly doesn’t mind pointy ears…
Hobbits are cute and elves are cuter and rohan are cutest of all!
Molly,
so you have a soft spot for horsemen?
Fuzzie I have a soft spot for the rohan coz they are humans
Ho Molly, your post was held up in moderation automatically because of the links. Sorry about that!
@wilson was lord of the rings based in New Zealand? Or? I am not following this…
“your post was held up in moderation automatically because of the links”
lol
It was filmed there redpill.
Hold fast molly. Just started searching for jobs in new zealand. Look for me in the auckland airport. Ill be holding the sign thag says “here for the casual sex, no judgments”.
Lol Wilson, I think Molly is one of the few sitting out that love fest but it sounds like otherwise you may be in luck. Molly, how do new Zeland ladies view foreigners?
I didnt mean to direct that to molly, I just read about packs of new zealand women getting drunk and cruising around looking for men to have sex with, so I started looking for plane tickets. Fuck its like a 20 hour flight for me.
I see! Girls gone wild, New Zeland! We will wait for your reports from the front, safe travels!
“I think Molly is one of the few sitting out that love fest”
I’m not a part of it. If I went promiscuous, it could only be with the alphas who pester me or not at all. They already won’t let other men near me!
“Molly, how do new Zealand ladies view foreigners?” I’d say very well, Bloom. Very very well. Like I say tho, count me out. 🙄