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I am starting to see a common thread in the stories of the women in my life – it’s far more common to hear a woman focusing on the glass being half empty than half full. And guess what? The ones who do, they are unhaaaaapy.
I challenge you ladies, start looking at the half full side of things. Start steering your thoughts and attitude toward happy and grateful for the good things in your life from the smallest to the biggest. Chances are you will find yourself a lot haaaaaapier if you do so.
Extreme example, but it’s a good one. A friend of mine who has been talking non-stop about divorcing her loyal, hardworking, steady Eddie husband of 10+ years and father of her four children (two hers he took on 100%, two theirs) for over a year now (and I have been trying to talk her out of it), her husband had a freak reaction to anesthesia during a minor surgical procedure a few months ago. He nearly died.
She freaked out. This man is the sole source of income and support for her family. She was in the hospital and on her knees praying for his life for two days straight. And, he lived and is doing well.
I am not kidding, less than a week later I call her up and right away she starts back into, “I am unhaaaaapy. It’s all his fault. I should just divorce him and get this over with. How long can I live like this?” And so on. LESS THAN ONE WEEK LATER.
Seriously, sister? And this poor guy, he actually gets up and goes to work and does all he can to make her happy anyway! Bless him. How many women would do the same?
There’s a saying that before you point out the speck in someone else’s eye, you should take the log out of your own. Because I would say in all of the cases of my friends who I see doing this, the unhappiness isn’t him, it’s within themselves. Leaving him won’t fix that.
If you have a good man who maybe isn’t perfect but he’s working hard and trying to please you, is a good dad, has a good heart — he is not abusive, not cheating, not an addict or alcoholic — be grateful for what you have, because I tell you, you will miss it dearly when it is gone. And you will regret not doing different.
So do different now. Be happy. Be happy with what you have. Look for the good in him. Be good to him. Build him up in your mind, and his. Love him, honor him, cherish and obey him. Like you promised you would, for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live.
And if you do, you will be a happy woman. And you will have a happy man, who will work all the harder to make you happy, and he will honor you above all others, and your children will be happy, and that happy will make more happy. Unlimited happy. Happier than you ever dreamed. I have seen even marriages racked with infidelity and alcoholism turn around with this one simple choice — to focus on the good and not the bad. The choice is yours.
Let those who have ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
Liz,
It’s pretty sketchy because the plane never became operational. The whole idea behind the flying wing at that time was less drag=more range.
May I present the Horton Ho-229
I think the center section is in the Smithsonian’s waqrehouse.
That Ho is a strange looking bird.
Liz,
The Horton brothers were working on something larger, the Amerika bomber. If built it could have made it from Germany to New York and back.
@ fuzzie who do you know so much about planes? Very interesting this wing one, I say a documentary on that one once. 🙂
Redpillgirlnotes,
I have watched a lot of documentaries on television.While it’s not that useful in real life, it fun.
I like Jack London
Nice post! It’s so easy to lose sight of the good things in life when, I guess, on some evolutionary kind of level we’re always supposed to want more, or to be better. Some people, at least in my encounters, don’t have a balanced perspective on that stuff.
Some people easily blur the line, or maybe are too self-centered to distinguish between “not settling” and being appreciative.
The only thing I learned about Hemingway in high school is that nothing good happens when it rains. My high school teacher was terrible and uninspiring. Hemingway, for me, was synonymous w torture. Not a fan, but my post-high school Hemingway opinion is one of admiration, in a similar way that I enjoy works by Edgar Allan Poe and Jane Austen. There’s a lot to learn about life–good and bad–but the best reads are the ones whose words ignore tragic reality and somehow transcend into brilliance.
Even with the limited reading that I do for enjoyment, today’s writers are generally uninspiring. I tend to read historical books about women’s fashion (there is such a thing!). Next on my reading list is Stephen King’s “On Writing” which I’ve heard good things about. Some months back a girlfriend loaned me her set of the Fifty Shades books and I knocked them out in one night. Easy to read, but awful writing that is no where near as erotic as people seem to claim. I’m not optimistic about the movie, nor do I have plans to see it, but the soundtrack seems really good (Love Me Like You Do = great song).
Emily “Next on my reading list is Stephen King’s “On Writing” which I’ve heard good things about. Some months back a girlfriend loaned me her set of the Fifty Shades books and I knocked them out in one night. Easy to read, but awful writing that is no where near as erotic as people seem to claim. I’m not optimistic about the movie, nor do I have plans to see it, but the soundtrack seems really good (Love Me Like You Do = great song).
On Writing is an excellent book…I read it a while back.
My husband bought Fifty Shades for me because everyone was reading it in the airport…so he thought it must be good with all the hype. I tried to read it, dutifully. After about the third chapter I couldn’t take it anymore and told him the book sucked. But he figured it must get better with all the fan fair, so I pressed on. I never finished it, but got at little passed half-way. Then he ordered the book on tape so he could listen to it in the car, and then he understood. He didn’t get anywhere near as far as I did. We like ‘domination’ of a more cerebral nature.
That said, I’m going to see the movie. I’d never intended to, but the hens are making a night of it, and I didn’t know how to gracefully decline (I guess I could feign illness at the last minute). They all loved the book…I did tell them, honestly, that I didn’t like it but I didn’t know how to tell them exactly how much I hated it and didn’t wish to see the movie without coming across badly/socially awkwardly.
Not passed half-way, past half-way. English, gah.
Liz,
Glad to hear your feedback on On Writing. I’m in total agreement w 50 Shades. I guess I had nothing better to do than keep reading. That and perhaps my oh so very foolish optimism that the plot would become interesting…at some point. I wonder what that says about the countless positive reviews of the books. Please share your thoughts on the movie if you end up seeing it! I hear they’re already talking about a sequel.
I didn’t even consider the awkwardness factor. That’s like watching the church’s rendition of The Vagina Monologues (that was actually done by a church I briefly attended when I was new to town and knew no better–I left after hearing about the upcoming performance).
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Glass Half Empty – lives a life of entitlement
Glass Half Full – lives a life of gratitude.
In my ghetto neighborhood, even though many people have almost nothing and get government checks, they still feel entitled for more. Definitely half empty folk.
Life well lived vs miserable really is all about attitude and perspective. Sad so many people miss that. I am curious, why do you live in the ghetto, if you don’t mind my asking?
On a calculated whim, I moved to Pittsburgh sight unseen to become an entrepreneur. Here in this village of North Braddock within the metro area, I live about four blocks from where Andrew Carnegie built the USA steel industry. The surrounding area was very wealthy until the steel industry cratered here in the 1970s. Now abandoned buildings are being torn down yearly, and the township is still the poorest in Pennsylvania. How far they have fallen.
I believe in the mythopoetic. There is a potential phoenix rising story here. But it won’t be built back up without people. The people who still hang on here are mostly half empty types, but you meet a few half full-ers who remember the glory days.
Living in the ghetto is a means of not getting complacent. And to be honest, it’s hard to compete with the low cost structure.