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A few days ago, a friend of a friend who I have seen around town here and there stopped in to visit. We got to talking and she shared her very sad story of her frivorce — and how very much she regrets it now.
They married young, had children, she was a happy stay at home wife and mom. As her kids got closer to leaving the nest, she started ruminating on what she would do with the next stage of her life. She was bored. Angsty. She met some new single gal pals and started hanging out with them, going out dancing and hanging out with them on “girl’s night” at bars.
She said at the time she felt these women cared about her, supported her, wanted her to be happy. They started to question her marriage, plant seeds of doubt that she was truly as happily married as she thought. The more time she spent with them, the more disgruntled about her marriage and husband she became.
She says now she believes what they really wanted was to drag her down into their misery. They weren’t happy after their divorces, weren’t finding dating to be as fun as they thought it would, and were basically a bunch of 50-some-year-old alcoholics, living pretty pathetic lives but acting as if they had it all.
Sadly, she sees this now, three years later, but at the time their “herd” mentality had a powerful influence on her and she started to put her new friends ahead of her husband and children. After one too many nights of her out at the bar and saying she’d “be home soon” he showed up to drive her home. She’d had too much to drink and an argument ensued. He tried to lead her out, and she cried “abuse!” Her new friends backed up her claim, and he spent the night in jail, was put on probation for a year, even when she recanted the tale. Too late. Their marriage was over.
I remember seeing her out and about over the past few years, at happy hours, all dressed up with shimmery makeup, waiting to meet yet another online date. At first she said she found this new freedom exciting, but after far too many bad dates it wore thin. Her new friends also lost their shine, and once she was single as well, they turned on her, considering her competition.
She met a man she thought was “the one,” sold her house, and moved to another town, only to find he changed his mind and left her shortly after. At 57 she is now alone, and barely making it month to month.
As she sat there telling me this sad tale, I could tell she would give anything to take it all back, to grow old with her faithful and loyal man. But despite her many apologies and trying to win him back, he’s not interested. (I advised her to keep trying, be open to him as long as she is alive and to be patient, maybe if she is lucky he will forgive her. And to realize it was a lot to ask.) Her children (three boys) also barely talk to her, and when her son married last weekend, she was not invited to be involved in the wedding or rehearsal dinner. Her sons would not dance with her at the reception.
She asked me to share this story in hopes that perhaps it would help another woman avoid the same fate. Her advice learned the hard way? Don’t do what she did. Don’t be like her. Avoid women who don’t support your marriage, nurture your relationship, don’t frivorce because you are “unhaaaaapy” or think the grass is greener. It isn’t. It’s astroturf.
Let those who have ears hear.
That deal about creating them is a major observation Liz. A man’s most basic function is violence and protecting his shit, women kids, tribe from others. When times are soft and living is easy men are devalued
Which is why I am not on the save westren civilization band wagon. Besides, the only real way to do that is adopt Old School attitudes of race, colonialism and what not. Which I am all for but most men lack the capacity to see through the various levels of indoctrination.
Indeed, that’s how the men I grew up with addressed women, girls, grand mothers etc so that’s why I did it. Which is why I do most things by the way. Then I realized it pays dividends in the smp.
Girls respond well to it? Mission is a go
Girls who don’t respond? Need more intell and recon by fire
Girls who are hostile or pissy about being called darling? Next that bitch and acquire a new target
That is true ton, but omen need men just like they always have, it’s an illusion. It cheeses me out (at society, not you!)
…cheeses me out to think this nonsense will likely what pushes it all there too. I wish people would wake up!
As a single mom with my own biz who is making it happen (bc I have to) people always assume I don’t “want” or “need” a man, that I am the poster child “single independant woman.” I set them straight on that right quick!
You should write a post on “darling game” ton! Lol
lol not sure I am qualified…. it’s not like I sit down and think do x, get y. Mostly it’s the I don’t give a f#ck factor for ms
Just the same ton, I think your insight that the reaction to it is a useful screening tool is worth sharing. To you it probably doesn’t seem very big, but I think to other men it might be a revelation. Just sayin’ of course it’s probably the whole ton package in play, not sure “darling game” would work for one with less idgas bravado!
Redpillgirlnotes,
I would think that most of those jumping to the “strong and independent” conclusion are women. That made me think of something else. It can’t be that awful for women to have us around. A lot of it may be that we’re getting a lot of bad press but, it can’t be that bad to have us in your life. I always thought of myself as good company.
well seems to me like I said all there needs to be said on the topic but maybe if you make it worth my while
@fuzzie three who advised it are indeed women, all have been stay at home wives who did not have children by choice, and are now retired w/o worries thanks to…wait for it…oh the irony… Their men! Pffft the SIW thing. It’s some silly bored housewife fantasy! I did have to point out to them how a man had made their own lives *so* much easier, why would they not wish the same for me? The look on their faces when they actually realized that, red pill priceless! Hopefully they went home and showed their men some appreciation! π
And how exactly Ton would I make it worth your whole…hummm? π or is that another example of darling game? Indeed you do have this figured out now, don’t you?
Me? I didn’t even graduate high school so what the hell do I know?
I can offer a suggestion here about the benefit of “darling game”. I see three paths of interpretation.
1) Guy with no Game uses ‘darling’, feminists respond negatively, probably works as an unconscious screening device to good effect.
2) Guys like Ton was brought up old school to use ‘darling’, marks him as having an olden times chivaly attitude.
2a) With mild feminists attitudes, cuts through feminist rhetoric and appeals to her alpha male instincts.
2b) With radical feminists triggers defenses, wards off nuisance females.
3) Clever seducers see it as a means of signaling membership in the Secret Society to other members in the know (male or female).
I think under path 3), redpillgirl benefits from Ton using it because they both acknowledge membership. Now they can discuss red pill themes with less need for explaining and with more efficient RP jargon.
@ Ton there are all sorts of intelligence, book smarts probably not being the most useful especially if book smarts are not paired with social smarts, day to day smarts, etc. one of the smartest people I know, a very savvy businessman and self made multimillionaire is illiterate. He’s in his late 70s and has a very attractive late 30s/early 40s wife. Dark brunette hair, pale skin, big doe eyes, very fit and takes good care of herself. Most assume she’s a trophy wife but they have been married for nearly 20 years and from my observations, she truly loves him and is loyal as hell. She was his 19-year-old bookkeeper when they met!
Eccentric, I think ton minimizes, he’s working all the angles all the time! Why he even tried to offer my brother a motorcycle and a couple of pints of shine in trade for me once! My brother would likely have agreed except he didn’t want his little sis to be (at that time) ton’s girl #4. Lol. Ton has his own unique blend of warrior/darling/caveman/bad boy/Southern/poly/Dom game going…complex guy! π
Redpillgirlnotes,
It is encouraging ti think that the bored housewifves went home and showed their husbands appreciation. I don’t think tha it quite happened that way.
Why he even tried to offer my brother a motorcycle and a couple of pints of shine in trade for me once!
A land speeder offer I could.
Sufficient it would be?
Yoda’s Mom stated, “Boredom your own problem it is”
Boree entertain yourself
@ fuzzie likely, but if not they are not listening very closely! Seriously, they owe their entire financially stable, calm, and stable lives to their man’s hard work! I would hope they would appreciate that! From my perspective, as one who provides that for myself at the cost of all that time they have for hobbies and playing house, not to mention considerable emotional, mental, and physical strain! I certainly don’t see either of them divorcing their steady Eddie and jumping on that glorious SIW lifestyle! Insanity that they would advise me to do what they themselves have never done, not would do, or probably be able to survive two weeks in my shoes. Anyway…ranting…total rediculous absurdity! Do people listen when they are talking, or think??? Apparently not! anyway, I plan to do a post about it – the absurdity of it!
What’s a land speeder? π
I don’t have the luxury of boredom, maybe that’s good? Considering the trouble boredom gets some women into, like sabotaging themselves! No, no, no… Life is complicated enough Yoda!
Yoda a game strategy he does have? Jedi mind tricks? Levitation game? π
Landspeeder example:
Silly SIW housewives! However, you must have been their only source of a contrary point of view in a long time.
Uh oh! My brother would probably trade me for that…how many Ms Yodas are there? Hummmm….?
My brother fancies me in girl # 1 and only position, or he’d gladly have traded for the cycle and shine long ago… It’s a big brother thing! Lol. Plus, he doesn’t want to be bil # x… He wants first place, too!
Redpillgirlnotes,
All this talk about trading you behind your back. Silly humans! Don’t they know that you may have some input.
Besides, you’rre worth more than a clunky old landspeeder.
@ fuzzie, awww thanks! π I am just joking about the trading biz! I need to write a new post!
Besides, youβre worth more than a clunky old landspeeder.
A new land speeder sufficient it be?
@ Yoda, does my brother get the new land cruiser? If so let’s see if he’ll take the clunky one first…shhh… π
Lol -kidding! Oh vay if my brother could trade me, I am not so sure it would’t have been for a skateboard and some gum long ago!!!
And actually the land speeder is pretty cool… Hummm….
“Skateboard and gum”?
Lol fuzzie this was back in the day! π not now (I would hope!)
Oh, or was that a offer of trade i was supposed to pass on for my brother fuzzie? π
I can see why fathers were involved in these negotiations and not brothers, in ancient times.
@ fuzzie true, my brother would be the eldest man in my immediate family and so according to Ton, brother has the day. It has it’s drawbacks, such a system! Lol.
Redpillgirlnotes,
Wouldn’t Luke’s landspeeder make for the ultimate barn find?
I don’t think bribing your brother is going to help me. By now, you must be a free agent.
This car is prettier.
@ fuzzie it’s true, everyone has “a perfect car” this is mine (the same car my dad had and my mom hauled us around in most of my chad hood. 1967 firebird, more specifically white w gold leather interior…. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=txX4dhQLk14 so pretty….,
Maybe we’re turning into fuddie-duddies but, you reminded me that it wasn’t that long ago that you could tell the difference between cars. Now, they all look the same.
Even the new versions of the former muscle cars.., they just aren’t as good IMHO! I agree, something has been lost. I used to think the stingray corvettes very one of the most sensual (as far as styling) cars ever! I like the one you posted too Fuzzie, once again just to clarify, are you offering me a trade? π
I always thought the stingray was model led after the female figure!
Redpillgirlnotes.
Corvettes are great to look at and fun to drive but, at speed, they have a nasy tendancy to swap ends.
That car in the video that I linked, I only saw once and it was the most beautiful car that I have ever seen. Essentially, it’s a D-type made street legal and minus wing behind the driver.
That’s interesting fuzzie, I did not know that about corvettes! I have never driven one myself.
I had a buddy who bought a 435 hp/427 for his eighteenth birthday.
He didn’t have it very long.
She met a man she thought was βthe one,β sold her house, and moved to another tow
“Her” house. Yeah right, lol. It magically became hers, I suppose.
I’ve said it before, and it bears repeating here. Women are, by and large, biologically unsuited for civilized existence. This story is just further proof. They literally can’t function in a society that expects civilized behavior from them. They either refuse to breed, or have children they have no idea how to properly raise. They ruin their own lives, ruin the lives of others, destroy wealth and even destroy the ability and drive of others to create wealth.
I thought I heard some rocks whispering the other day about something being as dumb as a box of women.
Maybe it was my imagination.
Hoellenhund,
Something is misssing from your assessment. They can’r all be given to destruction or, haw did we get to be the dominant species? Maybe it’s a modern woman thing, where men are optional and, for the most part, unnecessary.
Good point re “her” house HH, noted!
@ Fuzzie hopefully your buddy lived to tell the tale?
Bloom,
He did.
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