For a long time, as I followed the manosphere, I would see guys talking about “sammiches” or “sandwiches” and how they wanted girls to make some. I didn’t get the reference, and frankly was afraid to ask in case it stood for some sort of innuendo. Well finally I did ask, and sure enough they were talking about exactly that — wanting women who make sammiches.
I did not realize it was such a rarity for a woman to make a sandwich these days, but apparently it is. I mean, how hard is it really to make a sandwich? It in most cases doesn’t even require cooking! But apparently it’s a big deal.
I didn’t believe it myself until my recently frivorced friend “Red” helped me out one day at my biz, and in exchange I packed him up a lunch to take to his new job. It included a BBQ pulled pork sandwich, with homemade coleslaw, and a big sesame seed bun. All packed separate because I didn’t want it to get soggy. Also included were chips, a soda, mini carrots, an apple, and some cookies.
Well apparently when “Red” pulled out his lunch that day at work, it caused quite a commotion. He said the other guy all clustered around him, with their fast food lunch sacks, hanging on his every bite. “Where on earth did he get that sandwich?” they asked. When he admitted a woman friend had packed it for him, they could hardly believe it was true!
For the next two weeks he said the guys at work talked about that sandwich, dreamed about that sandwich, and that I am somewhat of a living legend at his work now for packing it. Who knew?
And you know what? “Red” isn’t red pill. He had no idea about this sammich thing. So there is no way he elaborated. But when he told me the tale, I realized what the red pill guys had been saying was all too true. Sadly, he also commented that in 10 years of marriage, his wife had never packed his lunch even once!
So if you have a man, pack him a beautiful lunch. He’ll not only eat a bit healthier than burgers and fries, he’ll also be the envy of his peers, and apparently an uncommonly lucky man!
Make sammiches!
Let those who have ears hear.
Cute story.
Sammiches can also be knitted, sewn, crocheted, darned, stewed and baked. I like the spice tea sammich pretty well.
“Sammich” is a bon mot for anything a woman makes for her man that he likes and shows her love.
“in case it stood for some sort of innuendo”
Innuendo…I cannot tell a lie…this can happen from time to time.
Aka ‘sarnies’ over here.
Redpillgirlnotes,
If I were married, would going to Subway count as cheating?
Thanks for the story about Red. Yes, he was neglected and that is standard. I hope that Jane finds out what it’s like to skip lunch for ten years.
Spawny Get,
I thought “Innuendo” was Italian for suppository.
“So if you have a man, pack him a beautiful lunch. He’ll not only eat a bit healthier than burgers and fries, he’ll also be the envy of his peers, and apparently an uncommonly lucky man!”
Yes! love this post! My husband had that happen to him when he was training in the academy and I’d pack his lunch – obviously they got used to it, but sometimes if it was something special or unique they’d all be jealous! And he’d come back and tell me about it, and that it made him proud to say that his wife cooks like this.
Men are so cute!!
So, “Eccentric” is not just an avatar name, it is a way of life. Part of that lifestyle is flipping polarity with the women I spoil; letting them be masculine while I play the feminine. Specifically in the kitchen, I generally wear the apron in the relationship.
Her sack lunch may not specifically carry a sammich, rather the equivalent in hummus, soup, chili, hash, salad of various sorts, fresh baked bread, casseroles, or stewed fruit, and all made from scratch. There could be more variety if I reached for a cook book, but most of the time couldn’t be bothered. It’s more of a challenge to look around for what needs to get eaten up, and then throwing it together into a tasty dish.
The point is the power of the kitchen flows both ways. More than one woman has kept me around because I could feed her scrumptious dishes.
My current lady friend got the 20 questions lately when she showed up to work with four of my multi-serving dishes to share with her associates. She was unloading them before a long business trip, thinking she could just help feed the troops. The containers had no labels, so obviously were not store bought. To this day she is pestered for the recipes, which she can’t divulge without revealing the source, ;^) But it caused the same kind of commotion that Bloom did when Red showed up with his sammiches to work.
It’s not even a thing for a woman to ask a man if he can cook. You should see the anime eyes when the subject comes up!
@ eccentric, I bet the ladies love that you cook! 🙂
@ dragonfly yes, the first post I link to talks about how men see a good wife reflect on a man, I found it very enlightening! I think it’s true, too! I have heard doing stuff like that can even advance a man at work, as others start to see him as a leader not just in his family but in general. Good stuff all around 🙂
@ Bloom Yes, but not the way many people think. The saying that “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” does not work reciprocally with women. IMO the way to a woman’s heart is through her emotions and senses. But here is how good cooking can be a grand slam.
Taste: A dish seasoned subliminally tickles the taste buds and brings her back begging for more.
Smell: It can fill a house with aroma.
Sight: Artfully presented, the food appeals to the aesthetics. A man demonstrating skill is demonstrating usefulness in an evolutionary psychological way.
Sound: The sounds of frying and simmering can evoke a Pavlovian response.
Touch: A balance of soft and crunchy only emphasizes the visceral pleasure of eating.
Emotion: Her eating your food leaves a unique signature and imprint of pleasure and well being. She may even begin associating certain spices with my cooking, triggering memories with dishes I haven’t even prepared. “This xxx dish is not as good as yours.” I have seen foodgasms and they are very real!
I don’t doubt it eccentric, and you are savvy to recognize all that about women! Women are actually quite easy to get eating out of one’s hand with the right triggers flipped. Most women have likely never had a man cook for them in such a way, so of course it makes you stand out. Clever! 😉
For 800 years known the secret of sammiches I have.
Glad to see that learned it also you did.
In large part due to you and the Mr. 🙂
The way to a woman’s heart is her vagina.
Women love complexity, probably because they are not but want to be desperately, so a masculine man who can cook is a turn on as it somehow adds layers to him. Women dig those layers and will make said layers up out of thin air if she is tingly enough
An unmasculine male who cooks is just a kitchen bitch, but an already masculine dominate man who cooks is simply extending his area of domination
@ Ton in today’s tingles driven culture that can be the case. I have seen women make disastrously bad choices, completely lie to themselves about who a man is (and isn’t), lose everything she has over tingles. This is probably part of the reason women used to be guarded closely and her suitors vetted by her male family members, because in lust women cannot see the forest from the trees. Tingles and chemistry absolutely are important, but I would not advise a woman to operate on tingles alone. Or if she must, choose the man carefully.
Small things big differences make they can.
Keep this in mind all should.
Also shows how simple men really are. It doesn’t take much to make us happy and that fact plays into how hypergamy is important for improving our condition
Interesting… How so, Ton?
Think about it
If dudes could get a quality piece of ass and a good meal while living in a cardboard box, we would.
The drive to succeed in men is part and parcel of the drive to bang hot chicos
Hypergamy plays into that. Without a girls drive to aquire quality jizz, protection and provisions we ‘do be in cardboard boxes
nature and Natures God’s knows their bidness.
I am sick of people bitching about the reality of Hypergamy vs dealing with the reality of Hypergamy, the good and the ugly
Just like the reality of men is good and bad in equal measures in most men
I see, yes I had not thought of it in that way before, Ton. Hypergamy has long perplexed me bc I figured if its there, there must be an upside to it. Makes total sense. It is always presented so negatively, those ebul women, but indeed it likely drives all sorts of accomplishments. Of course it can be a very destructive force as well, which is well discussed.
Any more it’s the bleating of betas who would rather wish things were better then be better themselves
True Ton, wishing women were different is kindof as effective as wishing the sky wan’t blue or water wasn’t wet. Some will get it and some will not. It is what it is.