In contrast to yesterday’s post, today I’d like to share the story of a group of women who came to my business last weekend.
The four women were all mid-40s. As they were talking it came out that they had not only all known each other from middle school, all four had gone on to marry their first boyfriends. And all four were still happily married!
So I of course had to ask what they thought of the advice given to young girls today that they need to “explore” rather than settle down young?
All said they didn’t feel they had “missed out” on anything, and one admitted she’s glad she was her husbands one and only sexual partner, and she his. Knowing it was a big relief for her, she said. They had been together since they were 15.
All four talked excitedly about their husbands and children. They were refreshingly positive and drama-free. Instead they seemed to be deeply connected to their partners, kids, and each other as friends.
They were all attractive, multi-faceted women with interests and hobbies, not sheltered Stepford wife types or boring plain Janes whatsoever, nor did they seem to be uptight, closeminded, or overtly religious. If anything, they were probably some of the coolest and most interesting gals I had met in some time.
It’s rare today to meet couples who are each other’s “one and done.” In fact today, social norms would probably consider it “weird.” But from what I saw, it hadn’t seemed to harm any of those gals, and in fact they seemed remarkably happy and content.
Let those who have ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
how many kids and grandkids do they have per woman?
I should have asked that but didn’t. It seemed they all had multiple kids, none mentioned grand kids. I got the sense their kids weren’t grown yet, more like pre teens or teens. If they come back I will ask!
This is good news.!I always thought that marrying your high school sweetheart made the rest of your life much simpler. It’s good to hear this confirmed.
its all about projecting one’s DNA into the future so it would be interesting to know
5 kids? Probably secure for two more generations; 1 kid….. not so much
I wanted to ask them a lot more questions than I felt was appropriat, it would be really interesting to interview them each in depth and get all the details! Maybe in time I will get the chance. With it being my biz, I try not to be too overtly red pill or controversial… If I can bring red pill ideas up in a subtle way I like to bounce them off people who are likely unfamiliar w them just to get their unbiased take. One couple who are regulars, I didn’t realize it until recently he was a pastor. Nobody else was there so we had a pretty interesting discussion on same sex marriage which had just been upheld at that time. It was a fascinating discussion and I told him I will have to come visit his church (Baptist) sometime!
Agreed Fuzzie. If one meets their match young, it seems that is a great way to go. I worry girls today are steered away from that path, instead told to “wait” and “not lock down too soon.” Comparing the gal from yesterday’s post and these, I’d say that advice is doing a great many young women a big disservice!
I get that. Spank you later for some other offense
These gals were not part of the religous sect in my area that I have written about so I’d doubt they have super big families like they do, but I will ask # of kids/kids if I see them again.
Lol, you’d have to catch me first, Ton!
It would seem that none were alpha-widows. Maybe this made all the differenc
I hope that they do come around again. Good news is hard to come by.
You’re right. It is one heck of a “compare and contrast” with yesterday’s post.
Farm Boy,
That is the essence of marrying your first sweetheart. Iy’s your only sweetheart. No comparisons are possible.
Could be Farm Boy. And perhaps they were a rare mini herd of women all reinforcing each other toward positive choices? It would be fascinating to know more. I hope they come back, too! (They seemed to really enjoy themselves and said they would.)
I wish Mike had been my first boyfriend. But, he was pretty close. I feel very very fortunate.
I always envy people who met back in highschool, but I’m pretty sure if Mike and I met back then our stories would turn out differently (he often jokes if we’d met back then we’d have been dropouts who couldn’t hold a job, we were pretty preoccupied with each other).
We have a couple of friends from Mike’s highschool who got together at 16. We just went to their 25th anniversary party recently. It’s pretty cute to hear her talk about the day she first saw him. He had flowing blonde hair and jumped out of his hot-rod car at the time and brushed his hair back with a comb, and she asked her friend, “Who is THAT?” and they’ve been together ever since. 🙂
LOL like you’d run fast. Fast enough for plausibility deniability? Sure. Fast enough to escape?…… not so much
Protect RPG from Ton I can.
“Green Knight” her I will
@ Liz, that first guy doesn’t count bc he was gay, right?
I wish Mike was your only too, but he’s your forever and only now and for the past 20+ years so in my mind, mike wins! (And so do you!!!) 🙂
You guys….
So the thing I am seeing here is mom’s of girls need to start telling them to wait. That it’s ok to wait. Too many moms are not telling girls this… Are more likely to school them on birth control than on how to find forever, and be forever.
And Liz, I wish the same for myself too. I draw a lot of inspiration from you and Mike making it all these years! Maybe I said that badly before. Hugs!
For what it’s worth, 98% of those reading this today are likely not one and done. Why? Because we were all born post feminism, post sexual revolution, into the most messed up experiment of perhaps all time. And we were the Guinea pigs. So generation X’ers, Y’ers, and mellenials … Well we got screwed, if you have not realized this already I hate to break that news. But as they say “the future is up to us” so we can school our own kids different, do different, reject the blue pill.
“Liz, that first guy doesn’t count bc he was gay, right?”
True, it was a waste of time. I think everyone I ever went on a date with before was a complete waste of time. I never dated because I wanted to, I started dating because I felt weird not dating since everyone else was.
“I wish Mike was your only too, but he’s your forever and only now and for the past 20+ years so in my mind, mike wins! (And so do you!!!)”
Thanks Bloom! I do feel very blessed and fortunate. 🙂
LOL With Master Yoda; will misses Master Yoda turn green with jealousy?
My daughter waited because of me and she was just weirded out about the whole thing
Natural inclinations play a big role, and this waiting so long to get married is an obstacle; kids are hitting puberty earlier and waiting longer to get married and of course culture doesn’t help… which is why I set things up as an us vs them battle royal
Redpillgirlnotes,
Bringing “mom” into this opens a whole new can of worms. Most of them live vicariously through thier daughters. They’ll want those daughters to go out and break as many hearts as they can. Lots of empowerment, drama, and tingles that way. There’s only one problem. The boys can only take so much and they are being burnt through before graduation.
Yoda,
I don’t think that she neds “green knighting”.
@ fuzzie sadly there are many immature moms. I know I will be encouraging my girls to be marriage minded, not party minded. I want them to have happy lives, not drama drenched ones.
Life is complicated enough w/o self created problems!
Redpillgirlnots,
You’re n exdeption. I know that you wouldn’t encourage that.
I don’t know why any parent would Fuzzie but sadly some do.