Did your mom ever talk to you about blackouts?
Blackouts are caused by drinking too much, too fast, or on an empty stomach. And while many people think only hardcore alcoholics have them, a recent study found half of all students reported having had one or more during the college years.
Blacking out is different than passing out, and despite what many people assume you may not appear drunk to yourself or others. You could in fact be walking around, carrying on perfectly charming conversations, and acting much like your usual self.
Ironically it’s when people drink more slowly for a longer period that they appear “sloppy drunk” not necessarily when they are blacked out.
And it depends more on what you are drinking, when you ate last, and how quickly you down drinks back to back that determines a blackout than the total number of drinks you have. It can happen after as few as three drinks quickly downed on an empty stomach.
There is much attention placed on consent laws as a way to reduce the numbers of sexual assault allegations. But I’m writing this to the ladies in the room: women can’t just assume others will know they have had too much to drink, especially in a blackout situation where you may appear completely coherent and even give full consent at the time. Even those closest to you may not realize your lights are on but nobody’s home.
The best way to protect yourself, and others, is to avoid drinking patterns that could lead to a blackout. Make sure you always eat before drinking alcohol (eating later won’t help), pace your drinks rather than drinking several quickly back to back, avoid drinking games at parties, and opt for weaker drinks over stiff ones.
Your mom may not have told you this, or maybe your mom won’t talk about about drinking at all, so I will. It’s a lot easier and more common than is openly discussed to blackout when drinking, especially if one is young and not familiar with how they react to alcohol. If you do drink, drink responsibly and safely. Not remembering the party the next day is never a fun experience.
Let those who have ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
I have to wonder about all this. Having blackouts is one of the big warning signs of alcoholism. The more alcohol you ingest shuts your brain down gradually from the higher centers to the lower. With normal people, they’ll pass out before they black out. People predisposed to alcoholism will keep going.
I honestly believe that blackouts are being used as a device for plausible deniability for regretted sex in this hookup culture.
I’m glad that you wrote this. Especially when people go to college, they think that being totally blackout is a totally normal event on a weekend evening. Colleges spend a lot of time talking about how important it is for guys not to take advantage of girls who are drunk (which is important), but women could be much more in control of their own well being if they were more responsible. So, it isn’t just about what your mom isn’t telling you – schools are working pretty hard to make you think that it isn’t a factor.
Black outs are for armatures
A Jedi always aware of his surroundings he must be.
Odd that some people desire the opposite they do
Perhaps take responsibility for their actions women should
I think there is another side to the same coin. These women don’t just want to build a better beta, they want to tame the alpha. In fact, I think the former is just another way they are trying to approach the latter. They want to take an inherently unsafe activity and make it safe. They want to submit to a man without having to submit; they want a man who can tame their feral self. They want him to trip their danger signals. Even better if he is a stranger from a strange land.
They want this all to happen without giving up their freedom; they want to play this out in the context of serial monogamy, so they can feel loved while also claiming their promiscuity is moral. They want to lose control to a string of strangers who have all of the hallmarks of very dangerous men, and they want a promise that this will always end well.
They want to know that this will be safe, without it losing the excitement of it feeling unsafe. They are telling men to build a sort of serial monogamy amusement park where they can ride the roller coaster and experience the fear of falling or crashing, while knowing that just behind the scenes grown ups are actually in charge and are responsible for them safely feeling unsafe.
One more thing. As I mentioned above they don’t want to be hemmed in. So instead of building an actual amusement park, they want roller coasters to spring up randomly in the same exact circumstances where the real danger they mimic would appear. They want to be driving their car on the freeway one instant, and the next experience the fear of careening out of control. They want to impulsively jump off the edge of the Grand Canyon and have a parachute appear and deploy at the last minute. And all they ask is your guarantee that all of this will be safe.
https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2012/06/06/what-husies-want/
WhaI find hard to believe is that it is commone now for women to get sloppy drunk in front of strangers. This is relatively new. I am certain that out hostess can onfirm this.
@ Fuzzie it’s been awhile since I have been in college but back then parties with drinking games or people binge drinking were common. It would be pretty easy for someone to get to the blackout point under those conditions.
My French teacher in college believed the binge drinking in the US was due to the puritanical “alcohol is forbidden until age 21” approach versus in France where wine is served at each meal and children drink watered down wine. By the time they grow up, he said its no more exciting than milk. Nobody goes “woo hoo, milk!”
Binge drinking, blackouts, and general drinking to excess are all behaviors that certainly can lead to alcoholism, while in other cases people leave all that behind and become moderate/social drinkers. What causes one person to progress and another person to back off is unknown but a fascinating concept.
Redpillgirlnotes,
Maybe it is the difference in our ages, or the difference in our experience, but girls weren’t about to put themselves at a disadvantage by getting so drunk they couldn’t take care of themselves. If they did, they usually had friends to see them home.
If they could do it then, they can do it now.
I’ve never had a blackout drinking experience. I’m not so sure I agree with your French teacher though (I know that’s common thinking in Europe, however).
I think it’s more genetic. Irish probably start drinking at birth and a whole lot of them become alcoholics. Native Americans should never ever touch the stuff as long as they live.
Mike’s sister got blackout drunk just about every day and night during college. That’s why it took her seven and a half years to get a four year liberal arts degree. That was in the late eighties/early 90s. It was stupid of course. I think the main difference was most of it wasn’t caught on social media and most people realized that a young woman acting that way was putting herself at risk.
She had a lot of stripper friends (I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before). They were all drunken skanks too. One was 23 years old and she could have passed for 36 easily (not a well preserved 36 either). She found a white knight who married her. The white knight hated her stripping and screwing around but married her anyway and told Mike he “looked forward to the day she was too old to do it”. This was a large, hefty girl…she outweighed her white knight by quite a bit. The strippers all wore spandex white minidresses and no underwear as her maids of honor. Mike and i did not attend.
Early 90s, this…
Yikes!
Uh, huh.
And I was very very sheltered back then.
Did Mike’s sister get it together after college? Yikes!
A LONG time after college, yes.
She eventually got it together. For the most part. She’s not very good with finances (her parents have finally tired of bailing her out of debt). She’s in very poor physical condition (overweight, years of treating her body badly and so forth).
But, she’s pretty sane now.
SIW type though, of course.
Observing the behaviors of her and her friends made a big impression on me, early in life.
This is nothing everyone over 12 doesn’t already know. What exactly does it have to do with red pill?
This has to be my favorite Mama Bear video. I love seeing the little mischief maker scamper off. For relevence, see this post’s title.
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What precisely referring to you are?
Yoda,
It may be someone who is disappointed that I hadn’t linked a bear video yet.
Oh, well.
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