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adultery, affair, attraction, bad boys, casual sex, divorce, red pill, relationships
I have mentioned this before in passing, but I wanted to share an idea that I have found greatly helps me to make better life choices.
I ask myself, when tempted to do something I know I probably shouldn’t, “Isn’t my life complicated enough?”
And the answer is always, “Yes, yes it is.”
The decision suddenly becomes very clear. Pass.
It also makes a handy line for when someone is trying to talk you into something you know you shouldn’t do. Like my old neighbor Hercules, when he made a quite unexpected pass at me one day in my kitchen despite his being married at the time, and my neighbor, and his wife was my friend, and our kids all played together.
Don’t get me wrong, he’s very attractive. We could have. Nobody would have known. And he was being quite aggressive in his attempts to convince me, not taking my initial “no” for an answer.
So I just said, “Isn’t my life complicated enough?” It stopped him dead in his tracks because even he knew, “Yes, yes it was.”
Awkward moment averted with no hurt feelings. And a complicated situation that could have (let’s be real, would have) been an absolute train wreck avoided.
When in doubt about a life choice, feel free to try it yourself. It hasn’t steered me wrong yet!
Let those who have ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
I guess that’s the difference between men and women. It doesn’t seem to matter how complicated my life is, when it’s a subject of interest to me and there’s the opportunity to have a good fight, I’m usually all for it. Wave the opportunity for a really good prank in front of me and I’ll burn the candle at both ends.
Of course, you’d expect that of me, seeing as how I’m a supporter of polygyny and of having lots of kids. Seems to me that there’s an equilibrium point after which things get easier to deal with rather than more complicated. But, maybe I’ve just been lucky. (Toad thinks about that a moment) OK, not lucky, I’ll just say blessed and ice that cake with a thick layer of Romans 8:28.
I have to tell you, though, I was recently shocked, shocked I tell you, that my chief opponent in the area of polygyny over at Dalrock’s blog turns out to have somewhere between 15 and 20 wives (by his count). And here I am thinking 3 (maybe 4) is a good number. Wow.
Great advice, Bloom!
Er…unless the woman thinks her life is boring. š
Side note, speaking of boring (because I am, but I actually like it that way) I was perusing ROK news and saw a photo of Kim Jung Un at a textile mill.
(my apologies for what I say next, but I really have to get this out somewhere)
I wonder if anyone dyed during that visit? Or did he just loom over them, maybe knit picked and spun some yarns about Stalin and linen?
Thank you. I need that.
@ Liz, too funny!
I’d say it depends on what the complication *is* and what is the potential benefit of doing it. Didn’t you mention that you are a business owner, Bloom? Surely that adds considerable complication to your life vis-a-vis being a salaried employee.
The key is probably to rigorously manage *what areas* of one’s life are worth complicating, and keep the rest of them as simple as practicable.
Indeed David, my life certainly is pretty complex. And maybe I am a simple person, but I find life itself provides plenty of complexity without my having to ADD complexity to my life by making bad choices (like having an affair with the neighbor’s husband, bad choice that would have been, IMHO!) Not that I have not made bad choices and complicated my own life in the past unnecessarily, but this little question has helped me stop and think before taking actions that will lead nowhere good…
Also @ David, yes I think there are times for sure when there is good reason to add complexity. I recently asked myself this same question about another man, and the answer was, “Yes, he will add complexity to my life, but I am OK with that.” because in his case, 1.) I believe being involved with him is a good choice because he is an amazing (and available!) man and 2.) He’s reduced the complexity in my life far more than he’s added to it and 3.) He’s amazing (and available!) Oh I already said that! š
Hurray for Bloom!
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