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attraction, battle of the sexes, casual sex, commitment, dating, gender, love, marriage, purity pledge, red pill, relationships, sex, sexual revolution
On yesterday’s post, commenter ballista74 shared a link to a blog post at his place I wanted to call attention to. You can find that post here, it is part of a longer series, all well worth reading to help you understand the sexual/marriage market we find ourselves navigating today, how it has changed, and why that’s not working out so great.
He shared a graphic that really breaks it all down, how the path from meeting someone to marriage, even for traditional marriage-minded folks, has all but disappeared with no clear path to take its place. I hope he will not mind me reposting it here:
Thing is ladies, it’s kind of like that old saying, “If you don’t know where you are going, any path will get you there.”
Instead of following the other mating lemmings off the cliff and hoping the fire department has put out a crash pad at the bottom to save you, I’d highly suggest gals absolutely define what they want, and then come up with a solid strategy for getting there.
??? + somehow does not = (courtship) marriage.
Hanging out/hooking up does not reliably = marriage.
My advice? Don’t play the lotto with your life and future. Have a plan. Work your plan.
I think ballista74 has hit the nail on the head. What do you think?
But mostly what makes women lousy on these topics is the NAWALT/ look at me I’m not like that/ team woman/ thing which makes it difficult if not impossible for women to really understand what men face today. You think we insult your good marriage but no one is talking about your marriage we are talking about the other 99.8888% of them
Given my age and what not, it would probably be difficult for me as well expect I’ve been through the grinder and been Platoon Daddy to a couple hundred 20 year old White men who were near on universally all those things women say they want
Well, my clamsplaination days are numbered, sadly.
I plan on REALLY making a drama filled exit then.
(just kidding) 🙂
New move, Mike gets a new job (he isn’t looking forward to…the USAF is very much like a woman. If you reject and reject, they will want you more and more)
Anyway, he has asked me not to post online (anywhere, especially military sites) after that.
Four months to go. I might seem frantic as summer nears.
No, Liz! 😦
Any idea when this will happen?
You can’t post *anywhere*, even under a new name and with an IP scrambler app or something?
Re: Obamacare
That would really suck. Glad your family doesn’t have to deal with this. 👍
It’s alright, $325 once in 12 months is still a better savings than $250+ every month for someone who is never sick or drastically injured. Even paying out of pocket for my annual doctor and dentist checkups, it is preferable. I just think it makes no sense to charge more on folks who are already paying full/non-copay amounts for their appointments. Thank the Gods I have never been seriously injured or ill…
I plan on REALLY making a drama filled exit then.
Please don’t explode the internet, Liz.
Nobody wants to have to clean that mess.
I was thinking of something of something like Gollum, when he falls into the melting pot with his precious. That was dramatic, but no mess for anyone to clean.
😛
“You can’t post *anywhere*, even under a new name and with an IP scrambler app or something?”
No. But it will only be a couple of years.
I’ll be back after that. 🙂
He just needs to retire, and this is the only way they will let him.
It will still be sad, Liz.
A lot of us will miss you. 😦
But if it makes your family life better and safer, then it’s for the best…
Thanks Tarn! 🙂
I think it will be good, but stressful. He’s already getting sad lines again, though.
He’s got only five months left to retire but if he doesn’t take this assignment it will probably take six years to get that in orders (reserves are different). He really wants to be done. I have to go to a class too. A whole week. Fun stuff, can’t wait. 😛
clamsplaination
possibly the best thing/ term you ever posted right there
😀
Ton, on Ballista’s post, I wasn’t angry or emotional at all actually. I disagreed that the church for men guy was misandrist, but I also agreed with Ballista about the main problem. Internet conversations are so weird! But I wasn’t upset or emotional at all, and I thought he wasn’t either.
“Anyway, he has asked me not to post online (anywhere, especially military sites) after that.”
😥 Waahhh ok, now I’m emotional! That’s so sad, Liz, but I understand completely.
I used to have an old blog years ago, and was told to not blog for a few years – through my husband’s training and then when he was new and in probation. After he was out, it’d be fine. The detective that interviewed him and hired him gave me these orders, and they really were like orders!
I will miss you so much 😦
Thanks Dragonfly.
I’ll miss you too (also everyone else here).
Hope you all are still here when I come back!
@ Ton do you drive me from the room? I don’t recall getting upset at you since that first time. I may not always understand what you are saying or agree 100% (thinking it a bit harsh at times) but I am used to you by now – heck I look forward to those “OMG did he just say that?!?!?” Moments anymore! Lol.
@ dragonfly when I get spun up I take a deep breath and remind myself “it’s not personal.” It helps me to remember as a woman I tend to automatically take things personal when in fact they are being said in general. If someone does get personal, I refuse to engage, I just let it roll off, flip the computer screen the bird, and do something else.
Liz can you come back as frog helmet? And only login frim a library computer? We will miss you but I get it…
@ Liz we still have four more months…. Sigh! Sniff.
@ Liz, maybe we can somehow devise a code, and set up a rainbow and unicorn blog where nothing inappropriate is ever said, and then you could comment there, and when you say “I think rainbows and unicorns are totally fantastic!” we know what that really means is “I am surrounded by feminazis and manginas and miss my red pill pals, help!” Then we could reply, “Oh totally, sprinkles and flower petals, yay!” And that would mean, “You can do it Liz, we miss you too!”
Am I the only one freaking out about not seeing the cute kitten w a froggy helmet comments anymore? I will worry that each to come will be the last!
Nooooooooo……
It’s not about me, it’s not about me, it’s not about me (hyperventilates into a paper sack)
Next town over, public library computer, every now and then?
Nah, last thing I want is to get you in trouble. But if you ever have to say hi…Public library! 🙂
Hee hee. Aw, thanks Bloom. 🙂
I did make a promise though.
Mike knows me well, and he knows I blab.
Yep I totally get it Liz! 🙂
about every 3 days when we were all at j4g’s….. I think you recall only the major time, but I gots to give you your propers for returning
Obs you to use the ladies leaving as some sort of vague warning to ban. Clearly a guy who doesn’t understand the 0FG’s living
OFG?
Yeah, I didn’t like it when Obs did that. Which is why I tried to (diplomatically) say I liked the tone in there. Because I did like the tone in there and his post made it sound like I’d lodged a complaint, which I never did. I DID tell him I didn’t think women really belonged in the sphere, and I do think that is generally true. Even though I still post in sphere places (typically I read only, but when a chick really pings my cray-dar I get restarted) from time to time. I don’t think of Bloom’s or Swithy’s as the sphere per se, I think of Rollo’s, CH, ROK, and so forth.
@ ton oh yeah, now I remember…(chucks dishes at Ton’s head, curtsy, flounces out, slams door!)
Kidding!
long as you remember the cursty
0FG= zero fucks given darling
Obs was/ is a little bitch, not nearly as clever as he thinks he is and powerless when faced by someone who isn’t afraid of being called a racist, sexist etc Leftist never do. Any rate that was his way of trying to police my speech and hold on to his champion of free speech illusions
Yeah it really was too bad Obs couldn’t see things were going fine and he didn’t need to micromanage comments. Nor did he have the right to INSIST all MTGOW had to “Man up” and become PUA. It got out of hand!
LOL anything that interfered with the all Obs all the time show had to go
Kind of interesting watching one guy kill the franchise so to speak