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attraction, battle of the sexes, dating, feminism, Godly woman, marriage, red pill, relationships, submission
I have mentioned my babysitter here before, but wanted to share a bit more about her today.
S has one of the most incredibly soothing personalities of anyone I have ever known. In the four years I have known her, I can’t recall even one instance of her being upset, worked up, negative, off kilter, or in a mood. Not one!
And that’s not to say she has not experienced the same drama, hardships, frustrations, and such life brings for us all. In fact I know for certain she has. She just simply does not seem to allow any of those things to spin her out (at least externally, of course I have no way to know what she truly thinks or feels.)
Now not all women and girls in her community, or even her own family, are the same but for the most part she comes from a “seen but not heard, speak when spoken to” culture. But don’t get me wrong, she’s not so much oppressed as she suppresses, she has amazing self restraint. S truly is exceptional even for women raised with her faith, and my children and I are so lucky to have her in our lives.
She’s incredibly good with children, and her calm demeanor is ideal for them. I can hardly imagine a more ideal mother. (At 20 mind you! She has a son who is 14 months, and recently happily shared that she has another child on the way.) She is clearly in charge, but gently so, encouragingly so. She guides the children more than she demands this or that from them.
She’s also not a simple person, in fact as I shared before she graduated from high school and community college on the same day, and finished her degree in early childhood education two years earlier than normal. She alsoΒ works asΒ a paid tutor to children in her community.
S is a woman of few words, which I suppose is why when she does share her opinion, I am always most eager to hear it. She fascinates me, this young woman who seems so very wise for her age.
As I mentioned before, my brother had the biggest mad crush on S, who was already married at the time and so of course not available. My brother would talk and talk and talk to her, and she would calmly and silently listen, nodding here and there, ever patient and agreeable, even when I am pretty sure she must have been thinking, “Are you kidding me???” at times! She probably has the same thought about me at times, in fact, but if so she’s never said so.
I am more one to blurt out what I think than to hold it in. I am not like S. But I think I could learn something from her restraint — there is sometimes power in silence.
S is a very good example of what the bible describes as a Godly woman. I could learn a lot by studying her, and perhaps I could do that better if I were more silent at times myself.
However silence does not translate very well over the Internet, so I suppose in order to communicate here, I have to express myself in writing, and so do you! So please, share what you think in the comments!
What she possesses sound a lot like “grace”. It’s something that nineteenth century women had or, at least, was valued then.
Or, I was inspired by the photo near the bottom of the post.
Yes she indeed does possess a lot of grace, Fuzzie. Good way to put that. She has a very quiet beauty as well, not at all vain, but feminine and understated, similar to the photo.
She sounds wonderful, Bloom. π
Did something inspire you to write about S and her “restraint”?
I haven’t noticed you posting anything “unrestrained” recently.
(or did you delete your own posts like I always did when I had mod powers) π
LOL Liz, well good I hope I am not just blurting out nonsense all over! No, I rarely delete or censor comments, although I will go in and fix typos or maybe add a thought later. Ah, the power of being a site mod!
Yes S truly is wonderful. She inspires me. I wrote about her today because of our discussions over the past few days in comments and then her coming up here and there as an example made me think on her more and ponder what makes her so different, and that’s what inspired this post. I wanted to share more about her with all of you! π
btw Liz, I am panicking more and more how I will ever live without your voice of reason around here. Are you sure there is no way Mike can be convinced, for the sake of the WORLD, that you be allowed to continue to drop in on us after you move. (I know, I know…but I had to ask…) Who will have my back when you are gone? And actually while I said in an earlier comment that I learned all this stuff from the men (and I did learn a lot of this from them) in actuality I learned just as much from YOU! I admire you greatly Liz, and your marriage, and your approach to mothering, and your attitude in general. You will be missed greatly (sniff! Bwaaaaaaaa)
Not that it’s about me! π
But Liz, how could you do this to MEEEE?
Kidding! Sort of…
“Less is more.” Very good advice for all of us! π
Aw, thanks Bloom!
((hugs))
I’ll miss you too.
I’m sure I could convince Mike (I’m very good at that), but I know myself, and i know him.
I have no restraint.
I’d blab too much, and my posting would make him unhappy.
In two years I’ll be back though, with tons of stories!
(real and/or embellished for best intrigue!)
Hee hee. π
(please e mail me anytime though! e mails I can do)
Awesome Liz, I was even going to ask about e-mail… π Yay!
Liz,
I didn’t know. I will miss you too. Very much. π¦
We have her for a few more months fuzzie, let’s treasure every moment!
*sniff* I will. *sniff*
Aw thanks Fuzzie. I will miss you too.
But it’s not goodbye, just see ya later.
π
And then my man will have one job instead of two, and it won’t be a government job!
That will be exceptionally squee.
Liz,
If it ends up being squee, it is worth it. We all still miss you.
Well I can pretty much figure out who Liz is/ who her old man is and…… I am a professionally trained kidnapper
Hush! π
@ ton sorry, I see you were making a joke, not about to say who Liz is. You scared me. I should calm down! Lol. But yeah… Hush! π
I man, what about the element of surprise? How can we kidnap Liz if she’s on guard. We would NEVER kidnap Liz! No way, no how…. La la la…
Cookies anyone?
Cookies? Yes, please.
As for Liz, it wouldn’t do to separate her from her family. That would make her very sad.
Why not just clone her?
@ David, now there’s an idea! Or I mean we’d never do that…
(Ton, figure out who she is and when she’s not looking, grab her hairbrush! I am sure in a house of all boys, her longer hair filled w dna will easily be separated out.. Ok, go! Before she slips thru our fingers for good, the fate of the world depends upon your mission…)
La la la…oh look! Shiny object! Squee!!!
It’s not going to work. The cloned Liz will miss her family too.
I just found this blog this afternoon and find it remarkably refreshing! As time permits, reading the archives should be extremely interesting and informative.
I’ve had sitters like this, they are not suited to all children, nor all people. Thank God for different personalities and temperaments. She just sounds like a typical introvert and/or someone out of certain ethnic cultures. The close spacing sounds like trouble, but when you’re young and actually surrounded by other women it isn’t as big a deal.
http://divorcedmoms.com/articles/5-reasons-women-leave-good-men-for-no-apparent-reason
RPG PLEASE PLEASE COMMENT ON THIS! STOP THE INSANITY! JUSTIFYING LEAVING MEN THE AUTHOR SAYS ARE PERFECTLY GOOD GUYS!!! AAARGH.