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Monthly Archives: July 2016

What Is A Red Pill Woman?

18 Monday Jul 2016

Posted by redpillgirlnotes in Red Pill, Uncategorized

≈ 82 Comments

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attraction, bad boys, battle of the sexes, blue pill, break ups, casual sex, commitment, courtship, dating, divorce, love, marriage, red pill, relationships, romance, sex

My apologies for not writing much lately, I have been busy with real life endeavors as well as enjoying some summer fun!

But to keep things going, I wanted to share an oldie-but-goodie post from the red pill blog “Married Man Sex Life” on the topic of what a “Red Pill Woman” looks like.  The entire original post can be found here: http://marriedmansexlife.com/2012/08/what-exactly-is-a-red-pill-woman/.

He lists 20 qualities a truly “Red Pill Woman” would posses: (Hope he won’t mind me re-posting the list here for ease of commenting upon!)

Have a look and share what you think in the comments!

“(1)  Understands that physical appearance and her looks are what attracts men’s sexual interest. She stays in shape and while every waking minute she may not be dressed to the nines, neither does she get mistaken for a slob. She “looks good for [insert age]”

(2)  Understands that all her skills, effort, kindness, intelligence and “inner beauty” et al, is what creates relationship comfort and makes her someone capable of having a functional relationship with.

(3)  Understands that what she does with her vagina always has some sort of consequence.

(4)  Understands that there is a sexual marketplace, and that women have an earlier peak of sexual desirability than men do. That the point (1) stuff comes very easily to young women, and that the point (2) and (3) stuff pays off over the longer term.

(5)  Understands that men are the gatekeepers of commitment and that committed men place extreme value on sexual loyalty.

(6)  Doesn’t need a man to save her from her own folly. Will not tolerate a relationship with a man that requires her to save him from his folly.

(7)  Is aware of her own sexuality and understands what in a man attracts her and turns her on. Namely hypergamy, Alpha Traits, why she may Fitness Test and so on.

(8)  Can delay gratification. Can pass on someone or something that is fun for now, but painful later on.

(9)  Can articulate things that she did wrong in prior relationships. Even if the guy was clearly the greater cause of relationship failure, she can acknowledge things she could have done better, or differently. She can think consciously about her relationships, rather than simply follow her emotions from moment to moment. Has a learning curve.

(10)  Understands that relationships are not static, that effort and intention to maintain them is an ongoing requirement. That while she can reasonably expect the man to take the lead, that doesn’t mean he’s the sled dog and she can curl up and take a nap on the sleigh.

(11)  Expresses genuine relationship discontent, clearly and directly, allowing time to correct the relationship issue. Does not complain to everyone else but her husband, does not act out instead of addressing problems, does not plan and/or execute an exit strategy before stating her discontent.

(12)  Lets go of resentment for relationship issues that are now resolved.

(13)  Understands that divorce sucks and is more akin to getting treatment for cancer than having cosmetic surgery.

(14)  Likes men in a general sense for who they are and what they do, rather than detesting all men in general and making an exception for the tiny few in her nuclear family.

(15)  Understands the risks both men and women take in having serious relationships, and is willing to negotiate ways to verify trustworthiness in each other. Sees doing this as evidence of true commitment rather than an insulting invasion of privacy.

(16)  With her chosen partner, is deeply and passionately sexual.

(17)  Is aware of her own personal kink and can communicate her sexual desires. Takes responsibility for receiving her own sexual pleasure.

(18)  Has a sense of humor.

(19)  Respects the boundaries of other peoples relationships and doesn’t attempt to mate poach.

(20)  Doesn’t keep the Red Pill a secret from those that need it.”

It’s a high bar these days, for sure, but is a path less traveled that I believe would lead such a woman toward a lifelong stable relationship versus a lifetime of serial monogamy or casual hook ups and unstable pairings.

Anything missing? Anything you agree/disagree with? Do you know any women like this?

 

 

 

 

Are we Just Silly Girls, Or Not?

08 Friday Jul 2016

Posted by redpillgirlnotes in Fempire, Gender, Red Pill

≈ 93 Comments

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battle of the sexes, equal rights, equality, feminism, red pill

A recent episode of someone getting off Scott free, seemingly because she is a girl and well while she was admittedly careless…that should be excused because…well…girl pass…got me thinking, how can women claim to be capable of being equals (much less leaders) when they don’t admit and take full responsibility for their mistakes? Or when society does not hold them to an equal standard, as well?

This builds on the last post — women need to choose if they are indeed really and willing to be full equals including all the downsides of that as well as the upsides, or we need to affirm that we are the weaker vessel and need/want the girl pass. What we can’t do is have it both ways, depending on convenience.

Personally, I recognize my limits. Not that I don’t take responsibility and accountability for my actions. I am equal in some ways, not even close in others. Such is life. And I am OK with that.

Discuss, debate… what do YOU think? And please, be civil to one another even in disagreement — it’s OK to agree to disagree. It’s not ok to attack, shame, name call, or bully. Not here, anyway. My blog, my rules! And I am waaaay too busy to babysit comments, so please behave.

Equal or Better?

06 Wednesday Jul 2016

Posted by redpillgirlnotes in Gender, Red Pill

≈ 68 Comments

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battle of the sexes, career woman, equal rights, equality, feminism, men's rights, women's rights

Have you ever noticed that women tend to be very selective about which parts of the equality pie they actually want when it comes to equal rights?

For example, women want to be doctors, lawyers, or CEOs, but I never have heard any woman question why garbage collectors are mostly men, or fight to bring that ratio closer to 50%. No. Women don’t want the downsides of being “just like a guy” only the upsides, only the gravy, or for the sweets people, the cherry on top.

Well sisters, that ain’t equality! Simple as.

As I have written about before, men do a lot of the suck jobs and the boring jobs and the dangerous jobs and the hard jobs that make life work. And they don’t expect a gold star for it. (But a sandwich and a smile and a “thank you” would sure go a long way.)

Also note, equality is not the same as extra rights. People don’t like to play with those who demand they get every toy in the sandbox and that everything always goes their way. For many women equal rights seems to be translating into “I can do whatever the hell I want and if you cry foul, you’re a sexist hater!” (Or worse.) The oppressed become the oppressor. Again, that’s not equal.

Anyway, talk amongst yourselves 🙂 What do YOU think equality is all about? Is it even possible? Ideal?

Reflections on Masculinity

05 Tuesday Jul 2016

Posted by redpillgirlnotes in Red Pill

≈ 22 Comments

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battle of the sexes, red pill

The Fourth of July seems as appropriate as any day to bring up the topic of what masculinity has done for civilization and life as we know it.

Over the past 40 or so years, masculinity has become demonized in a similar way that femininity has. Men and boys are told to not be so loud, so aggressive, so physical, so boisterous, so stoic, so territorial, so dominant, and so on. And for goodness sake, never play act like you have a weapon and are a superhero (shock, horror, and counseling sessions…)

Instead they have been encouraged by almost all social forces (including in many cases the church) to “explore their feminine side,” be comfortable with their emotions, be meek, be vulnerable, show their feelings, not fight back, not fight at all, etc.

This post at another blog got me reflecting on where we might be in the past, present, and future without masculinity?

The founders of the United States were not hesitant to be men. And look at the result. A nation founded on freedom, independence, self determination, democracy, safety, security, private individual rights, and many more worthy values. Values all who live in the United States take for granted as givens today, forgetting perhaps they were hard won and at great cost (symbolized by the very fireworks set off in mass tonight.)

Why would we encourage American men not to be men today? In order to “tame” them? That may seem like a good idea until one realizes, tame the “man” out of men, plus add little incentive otherwise for them to be noble, heroic, or for the greater good due to ridicule, anti-male divorce and custody laws, and other social norms that make men think twice about getting involved with women at all due to the risk, and well… crickets and pansy boys crying for you to fight for them may be the response in womankind’s time of need.

Just saying…

 

p.s. this post is not meant to criticize the male response to the feminine imperative — demanding all in its favor. It is meant to help those who are female question, are we driving men away, or endearing them? A good question to ask because biologically and for survival they need us less, much, much, much less than we need them, btw. Yeah, I know it’s taboo to say that these days… but that does not make it untrue. Take away civilization and the protection it affords women and children and that would become abundantly clear, abundantly fast… being nice to men and appreciating them for who they naturally are and what they naturally do is not that hard, is it? In fact celebrating it and encouraging it is the very basis of civilization itself. Why would they, if not appreciated? Hummm….

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