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Recently, I helped at a wedding that provided a great example of the difference between being ready to be a bride versus being ready to be a wife.
The couple is in their 20s. I would guess she’s about 22, he’s in his late 20’s. They met in a rather unique way — she was on a blind date with one of his friends (it was not a match). He waited a year, kept tabs on her via Facebook, then asked her out on a date. Before the date was over, she says they both knew this was likely “it.”
This young couple impresses me in many ways. They are already committed to a debt-free lifestyle. They bought a piece of land and are building a home. They approach life as a team already. They are unusually sensible and mature for their ages, it seems to me. They are “on the right track” and seem to have a solid plan for their future.
All of this impressed me already, but I really saw that this girl was ready to be a wife, not just a bride, when the wedding day approached. By a stroke of bad luck there was a huge storm, and with high winds and pouring rain forecast, the outdoor fall wedding she had dreamed of was just not in the cards as planned.
Three days before the event, she accepted reality and quickly went to work securing an alternate indoor venue and rearranging everything.
Not once did I see her melt down. Not once did I see her feel sorry for herself. Not once did I hear her complain. No princess fantasy derailment. No, “My day is ruined!” She just bucked up and did what needed done. Like a boss (and I told her so!)
I have to say, she surprised me. I had underestimated her, as she is very attractive and seems like the kind of girl who has likely had a charmed and easy life. Or so I thought. I was surprised in fact when I met her parents to learn this very traditional minded gal had been raised in a hippie commune.
Who would have thought? A gal raised in a Northern California hippie commune would turn out to be such a mature, sensible, solid adult? Who despite both being raised in an alternative culture combined with the current culture, choose to marry and start her adult life young, and choose very well. Her husband comes from one of the most respected families in the area and he is a great guy. His choice of a wife reveals a wisdom and readiness to lead.
I predict good things for them. She’s shared that they plan to start a family soon, and after working in commercial daycare centers in high school, and despite being recently promoted to manager in a national coffee house chain with the promise of an upwardly mobile career ahead, they have decided when children come she’ll stay at home and raise them.
In any case, she’s a good example of a woman who is not just ready to be a bride, but who is ready to be a wife. It warms my red pill cynical heart to see, that sometimes people still manage to find their way despite the mainstream madness.
I hope to raise my daughters to be as wise as this young lady. She’s a great example and role model for any young woman to follow.
“A Bride and a Wife”
Perhaps the hippie commune produced princesses not.
If so, then a good attribute this is
Kids who face hardships or unpleasantries early in life learn resiliency, and often make fine adults. I’m going to guess living in a hippie commune is not rife with luxury. There’s an old saying that money cannot buy class.
This is good news. What I espect to hear is that she only looked as far forward as her wedding day and has no idea what to do afterwards.
In contrast, the only wife qualifications I had at 21 were ability to cook and clean and the desire to make him happy. The desire, but not so much the ability. I made many mistakes, classic stupidities like the honey do list, nagging about his gaming (I understood I am an introvert and need to close off sometimes, but if he did, I assumed he didn’t love me).
Worked out beautifully anyway, because my husband is a patient man. He knew I wanted to be a good wife and gave me time and space to grow, and the tips I needed to understand him better. He didn’t take my mistakes as proof that AWALT, he had faith in me.
Any two people with their hearts in the right place, can make it work.
“And the desire to make him happy.” That made all the difference.
There is a new post at Spawny’s
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2016/10/15/respect/
In contrast, the only wife qualifications I had at 21 were ability to cook and clean and the desire to make him happy. The desire, but not so much the ability
You were way ahead in the game
Agreed. The desire.
But also the ability to see reality rather than I want.
The commune likely did this. Work needs to be done or we go hungry. Self sufficiency is work.
“Not once did I see her melt down. Not once did I see her feel sorry for herself. Not once did I hear her complain. No princess fantasy derailment. No, “My day is ruined!” She just bucked up and did what needed done. Like a boss (and I told her so!)”
This.
All a partner; man or woman needs are these two things. A desire to please the other and a resiliency to see reality and deal with it.
I foresee many grandchildren surrounding them on their porch on their 50th.
How disenfranchised men are crippling japan.
Dont always agree with Turd Flinging Monkey but his analysis is spot on.
Horse,an,
Great video. Brief and went straight at the issues head on. He is right. All the Jpanese have are plans for women. It is not going to help. They will continue to lose one third of their population with each generation and have a stagnant economy. He is right about not addressing issues for men. With women having a slight edge in numbers, they will never give up anything.
A new post at Spawny’s there is
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2016/10/16/thirty-and-looking/