Reader Mega recently questioned if he should continue to date a woman who he gets along with in every way except ideologically?
Apparently the recent election brought things to a head, with him on one side and her on another. As the discussions continued, the divide chafed more and more.
From what I have seen opposites may attract, but over time seeing the world from opposing viewpoints can lead to increasing strife, which is a lot harder to live with long term than increasing harmony.
He wondered if it was possible perhaps she would change her point of view with time? It’s a big “if.”
Now I do believe people can and do change their point of view, as I certainly did upon discovering the red pill, but usually people have to do so on their own. It’s not something you can really talk someone else into.
In the long run I would say it is easier to be with someone who shares your worldview, than opposes it. Especially if they can’t agree to disagree.
After all, isn’t life complicated enough? Yes. Yes it is.
As one man explained it to me once, ladies, men spend their whole lives scrapping with each other in the public sphere — for jobs, for status, for recognition, for respect, for territory, for everything basically. The last thing a guy wants to do is retreat into his private world and encounter strife or competition there as well. No. A man wants and needs his woman to be a soft place to land.
If I were a betting gal, chances are Mega’s 50-some-year-old girlfriend will soon be on her own once again. Perhaps, it will be a moment of awakening. Perhaps not.
But the chances of a cantankerous 50-some-year-old woman finding someone willing to put up with such behavior for long are slim. Really, it’s not “attractive” to most men to be in a constant debate with a partner. Perhaps, she should think about it before it is too late. Maybe better for her to just drop it, even if she doesn’t change her point of view, rather than continue the verbal sparring?