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If you have every been around preschool or grade school aged kids, you may have noticed the girl and boy games start early. My youngest, now in grade school, recently encountered one of the trickiest girl games, and I have to say she handled it like a champ.
There is a boy in her class who right from day one declared he thought she was the bee’s knees. And beautiful. And that he loved her. And wanted to marry her. The kid is “a natural,” clean cut and good looking. He’s got game already!
Every day after that he waited for her to arrive. I walked her to class the first few weeks, so I go to witness his face light up at the sight of her, watch him rush over, say, “Hi” and then the compliments would begin.
Then he started to “kiss” her. He was savvy enough to know that rather than actually try to kiss her, he would make a little “beak” like with his fingers and peck her on the cheek.
“Momma, why does he do and say all that?” she’d ask me after giving her daily report.
Now before the manosphere perhaps I would have overreacted, read something sinister into it, worry that he would hurt my little girl. But thanks to the guys around here, I knew by then that nope, he was just a sweet little boy with a crush. So I told her just that, and said to be nice to him, and take it as a compliment, then say to him, “My mom says I am too young for all this.”
I was also tempted to ask him what his career goals were, or to see how many camels, sheep, and goats his family might have to offer. (Kidding!)
Now that’s not the tricky part, although navigating girl-and-boy games can be tricky indeed. No, the tricky part was that her friends who were girls started to get jealous and to wish this boy was crushing on them instead. They started to chase him at recess, and try to win his affections away.
But he didn’t waver. He had made his decision. I thought that was very touching, and that it showed him to be of good character rather than a gadabout. (I am a momma bear, after all.)
After a few days when I asked her how she handled it, the girl games, she said matter of fact, “I told them it is not my fault he likes me. And that they didn’t need to get him to like them, they just needed to find their own love of their life. And that he was out there. Somewhere.” The girls accepted this, and all remained friends.
Lol. Out of the mouth of babes! She’s spunky, that one!
If these two actually do end up getting married, I will for sure be writing a country song about all this.
this will last until a teacher takes note of it, and sends him to the principal’s office for sexual harassment, or calls the police about a sexual assault. happened in my county not too long ago.
@FML I worried about that so I made sure to mention to the teacher how sweet of a boy he was, and how cute it was, and how it was all harmless. She agreed! She’s kind of old fashioned, herself, luckily.
@ FML If he had been mean to her, or pushy, or aggressive about it, been inappropriate, crossed boundaries I would have worried and reacted accordingly (bc there are kids who do that) but everything I saw said, “normal kid stuff.”
I do think parents and teachers need to recognize the difference. It would be a shame for this little boy to get in trouble for it.
that’s priceless 🙂
i have a few stories like that of my girls, too … and they’re truly those that a momma hides in her heart and cherishes when the memories come around again.
Ahhh a budding patriarchal rapist in the making
Awesome
“If these two actually do end up getting married, I will for sure be writing a country song about all this.”
It ain’t country, but someone already beat you to it.
You’re totally misreading what is going on. This kid isn’t a “natural”. He’s a beta:
“I go to witness his face light up at the sight of her, watch him rush over, say, “Hi” and then the compliments would begin.”
Rushing over. Compliments. Won’t actually kiss her, but makes a ‘beak’ and uses it to ‘kiss’ her. That’s not game. Your girl is already tired of it. If she wasn’t, she wouldn’t have asked you why he is making such a fuss; she is NOT impressed.
And he’s already got oneitis. This will not end well for him…
Yes, this^^^^^^
If the boy had game, she would be chasing him, not the other way around.
He’s in grade school and macking….. that’s OG pimping right there
Could be RJ. But why would all the other girls be crushing on him, if he is yucky?
She actually loves it, and does chase him… but then acts coy about it as soon as he chases her. It’s what girls do.
The kid always looks sharp, well dressed, nice hair, as I said clean cut. All American. Like a poster child of. Even at his age, I can see already he’s going to be a real looker…
And not to sound conceited but my daughter is a looker herself, as well as smart as a whip, and a charmer. I say he knows a good thing when he sees it! 😉
@ Ton, what doess “OG pimping” mean? lol?
@ RJ I can see how it would read that way, I should have put she can’t wait to see him every day, too. And I can tell she’s very flattered. She beams when she asks me, “why?” bc she already knows… (preen)
Also, the kid has confidence galore, he’s not timidly hanging back hoping she’ll like him. He’s basically boldly laid claim. Is that beta?
For clarification I just asked her if he still says he loves her every day? And she said yes. Then I asked, “do you love him back?” And she said, “Yes, but don’t tell him!” and she giggled…
My littlest one started as a baby, he would stare at the girls in the shop and slowly say “beautiful…” before he could string a sentence together. Made them blush, too! Forgets about his mommy and traffic altogether when he sees a little looker and just runs after her. Made me turn the stroller around many times so he could gaze at a little girl. His first kiss was on his birthday, he had fallen and he was overtired and crying inconsolably in my arms. His little girlfriend kissed him TWICE and he went from inconsolable to radiantly happy, legs pumping, huge grin and steam practically coming out of his ears, in an instant. He’s managed to get a few more kisses from other girls. And he really does prefer the prettiest ones!
I agree that your would be son in law has game. Oneitis is healthy at that age!
Original gangster… old school gangster, found member of a crew
This boy knows what he wants and is chasing it down. No orbiting, no false pretenses just stand cold macking
Don’t think it’s reasonable to expect him to be spitting tight game and running pysops on his target while in grade school
It does sound sweet. I that someone is going to end up with a broken heart. However. it reminds me that kids in the first century were betrothed at age twelve and it seemed to work.
@ fuzzie hopefully no hearts will be broken. 💖💞💖
If you’re willing to invest the time and energy building good rapport with your potential son in law, there is a good chance no hearts will be broken. More often than not, too many parents of daughters wouldn’t even know a good potential son in law if they saw him walk by. It’s kinda sad, but such is the modern low trust multicult shit hole world.
RPG,
I have a hard time seeing how not, given their age. While I have heard of high school sweethearts, I never heard of it going all the way back to grade school. We’ll have to see and hope that I am wrong.
Agreed Fuzzie, it is unlikely but my parents met in 2nd grade! Sadly my father died at age 27 and my mom has grieved him ever since. There’s no getting out of heartbreak, it seems.