A reader comment got me thinking, you don’t hear much about female violence in the news or in general. But it’s actually a HUGE problem. Even the CDC says more men than women experience partner violence. And there is almost no public awareness or discussion about how we can help reduce female violence, little to no support or resources for victims of female violence.
Why is this topic so taboo? Isn’t all violence worth talking about? Worth effort to reduce?
(Note: This post is not meant to take away from women who have experienced violence. That is also not OK. I am just speaking of violence by women, and wondering why we don’t talk about that, too.)
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Chick fights are best when done in KY jelly and thongs.
@ Ton, you have a point there… lol. But we all know that’s just play fighting, the good kind!
A post at Spawny’s there is
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2016/12/14/a-piss-poor-view/
Basically modern women no wrong they can do.
Always a victim they are
I have to second Yoda’s statement. It is as if there is an eleventh commandment, Thou shall not speak ill of women. One thing that is going a long way to dispel this notion is the the prevalence of people who can record incidents and post it to youtube. Everyday, there is new stuff. However, even with this evidence, women are still getting slap on the wrist sentences.
@ Yoda, but clearly the CDC study statistics show there is a HUGE problem and nobody’s talking about it… Not to mention, those same women are likely even more violent to others – children, elders, the weaker, etc.
Just yesterday in fact, I had an interesting discussion with my youngest. She was tired after school, and grumpy. She said something along the lines of her sister, “Was making her angry and then she would have to lose it.” Perfect moment to bring up the difference between feeling angry (ok) and acting out in anger (not ok.) And I also explained, that maybe when she was a toddler this was true, than feeling angry meant you acted angry, but that now that she’s older, acting angry is a choice she can choose NOT to make. And that was part of growing up. It was a really good conversation, anyway, and it also made her forget all about her sister annoying her!
And perhaps at one time, yes, women were victims. But today there are so many laws and help and support for women. Women are no longer “powerless.” That excuse is gone.
As for men involved with a wife who batters, the advice is to get out of there and find a way to lie on your own. There is very little support for men caught up in that.
You will never hear about this because the MSM has a message they want everyone to believe in, and it is not that women are instigating more violence then men.
The message is men are bad and women are victims under all conditions. Everything that refutes this will be ignored, sabotaged or undermined at all costs.
@gofigure, I know you are likely right but does that make sense? Even for women? I don’t get the logic (bc there isn’t any, I know!)
But it is true, before the manosphere and red pill, I too believed that party line.
“Why is this topic so taboo?” Because vagina.
” Isn’t all violence worth talking about?” Only vagina matters.
“Worth effort to reduce?” see above
@gla but women wanted equality, right? Or do they want the PP? they want both but it doesn’t work that way, equality plus privilege.
“@gla but women wanted equality, right?” No. They want it all, zero sum.
“Or do they want the PP?” Huh?
“they want both but it doesn’t work that way, equality plus privilege.” Red Queen from Alice in Wonderland is what they all want to be.
“Or do they want the PP?” Oh, okay, some do but it’s a really fucked up way to go about it. Yeah, those are 50 Shades contestants.
PP = Pu$$y Pass
I just remembered that Tommy Sotomayor is not too popular with black women because of his videos showing them behaving badly. What is really bad is that, when it gets to court, they get the most lenient sentences imaginable.
i don’t see the main problem as kinetic violence – the problem is women using people, using children as weapons and objects to extort others, people generally think this is ok, I wonder what the fuck is wrong with their minds? I want nothing to do with them.
While a woman can strike a man, the odds they can do much violence are minimal. I know many men that could just completely cave my face in in one punch. The differences is a man can defend himself better than woman can, with restraint. A man has to be a man. Weapons have a differrent take. But a woman flaying fists at a man… he should be able to restrain her before hurt her violently back.
redpillgirlnotes i would truly like to talk or email you. Reach me at madicyn@gmail.com
Thanks. This blog has helped me so much
Its been a long year.
Cyn
Follow the money. The alimony/individual-child-support industry annually exceeds $40bn in the USA. Any hint of derailing the gravy train is suppressed or shouted down.
Stopping female violence is simple: hit back.
I have willing to do so since the 6th Grade.
And never had to.
I think we don’t talk about it, because deep down we feel that a man should (and can) just discreetly set her straight.
Follow the money, sure, but a lot of people grumble about other things that are wrong with the world due to perverse financial interests. We don’t grumble about female violence I think for the reason I mentioned.
oops – I have been willing to do so since the 6th Grade
no, they want faux-equality. the appearance and benefits of equality, and without any of the responsibility or accountability of equality.
The differences is a man can defend himself better than woman can, with restraint. A man has to be a man.
I think we don’t talk about it, because deep down we feel that a man should (and can) just discreetly set her straight.
Let me be the first to call BS. If a man restrains a woman, he goes to jail. If a man brushes past a woman, he goes to jail. In both cases he gets a criminal record that will follow him the rest of his life. The lawyers involved will use this to get a restraining done and he will effectively never see his kids again.
If you are a man and your woman gets violent with you, you must protect yourself on the legal front. I suggest:
1. use your smart phone to record it.
2. Lock yourself in a room away from that woman.
3. Find a way to sneak out of the house. i.e. a window.
If you try to confront that woman in anyway you will be the one in jail with your life forever changed.
Do not ever go back with out police escort. You can not get a woman like that out of your life fast enough.
if you hit back, the police are more than likely are going to believe everything she says, and nothing you say without evidence to support you really were defending yourself.
case in point, a trooper was recently arrested after defending himself from his wife who attacked him:
http://www.fredericknewspost.com/news/crime_and_justice/cops_and_crime/former-trooper-of-the-year-wife-charged-in-frederick-county/article_faf6e5a0-77bc-5e63-b557-ff6775c9f487.html
Even if there is enough evidence that you were defending yourself, you might get arrested anyway. Thats why this officer just took the beating from her BF, who was also an officer:
http://www.fredericknewspost.com/news/crime_and_justice/courts/frederick-officer-pleads-guilty-to-assaulting-girlfriend/article_d9e1af94-ebde-5460-ad35-da6d217bd907.html
I’d say the bigger problem is women attacking children. Children cannot get away.
Wife #2 liked to get violent while I was sleeping. Initially I laughed. So she escalated. The last time she clocked me the butt of my 12 gauge.
Well. If a man attacks a man at 2 am, with a shotgun, he can defend himself, up to and including deadly force. If he applies the same rule to a woman, he’ll be in jail for up to and including second degree murder.
So after we divorced she then told the cops and NYS I beat my son. I haven’t seen him in three years and ten months.
This is the actual state of a “man being a man.”
Casual “be a man” comments and policies enable violence against men, sure. But they insulate women from restrictions on destroying children, which is the larger problem.
I think for men it is like being between a rock and a hard place. If they talk about it other men look down on them because they are not *man enough* to control their woman. If they *control* their woman by hitting back or restraint they end up in trouble with the law. Around here if a man were to take a beating from a woman and then report it to the police so that it could be taken care of through the law that man would be considered the ultimate wuss. So mainly they keep their mouths shut and come up with other excuses for the breakup or in some cases stay endure it.
I know that a lot of you think this is a more recent thing. It is not. I am of an age that I can tell you that it has been going for many decades. I think the law can be of some help in the city but not so much in rural areas.
Larry I hear you.
For me, the only man I would call a wuss is the man who stays with POS woman. I think that men should encourage other men to find good woman and leave the nasty ones to rot in their own mire.
goFigure,I agree to an extent. But around here farming is big business. If you have a couple of million bucks invested divorce can bankrupt you.
And here it is no fault divorce. And assets are automatically divided. You would need one hell of a lawyer to save you.
Men need to talk about it but men don’t like to talk. Or at least they don’t want to talk to their peers. Most of the men I know of is because the woman involved was bragging about what she had done.
In recent years men have started to talk about man on man/boy rape or molestation and it is now known to be way more common than was thought. But it took some very brave men to get the ball rolling.
Perhaps the violence situation will become more known if a few brave men step forward so others will follow.
ton, did you mean jello and thongs? Or do you know some place to buy KY in 5 gallon drums?
all the preppers know where to buy that shit in bulk.
Costco… lol
A fifty gallon drum of KY Jelly? The mind boggles at the application.
fuzzie, I envision him sitting there squishing the stuff out of the tube. Hope he isn’t in a hurry.
AS little bit of silly helps once in a while.
You mean KY comes in packages smaller then 5 gallons?
isn’t your preference the 55 gallon blue barrels, where you can pull off they top and then all three of you just sit in it?
I have this mental image of the Ton clan all slipping and sliding around, unable to get a hold of each other! I suppose he could still grab them by the hair? Lol.
I can’t believe we are having this conversation… but I also can’t seem to think of a graceful transition of topic!
La la la…
things just kinda just slipped this way…
@RPG: you should take things by the hand, and lead us in the right direction…
I started to search for a video of girls wrestling in bikinis but decided maybe better not go there… 😉
they are in your dvd cabinet. second shelf up and fourth from the left…
Wow, do you have a camera in my house?!?!?!? Lol
Fuzzie was looking for cookies and sandwiches, and told me he found them behind the dvd.
Mine the jelly at Fuzzie Bear’s grounds at Jellystone Park they do.
Trade some to Ton for food he should
Thanks for the cookies and sandwiches. They were good!
When in doubt, maybe a bear video?
And a new post… https://notesfromaredpillgirl.com/2016/12/15/balancing-family-and-work/ 🙂
The police station in my area had a massive sign up saying “Help prevent Violence against women”.
All on the radio, TV, newspapers all over mainstream media, “We say no to violence against women”
I went on a date with a woman last week who told me she was in a relationship with this guy for 17 years, and that he was abusive drunk and recreational drug user.
Why stay in the relationship she did?
Thanks for adding that, G! Yes, many women are also victims of violence, no doubt. That is also not OK. I have known several women in that situation and it is horrific. Nobody’s home or life should be unsafe like that. I am glad she got out! Good for her, and I hope she never lets another man touch her again!
no where else to live? think if he calms down she can drain him for some more money? have some guilt over starting the incident by acting like a snotty bitch? building up the number of incidents so her inevitable divorce filing will look so much better for her?
Let me get this straight, even God is trying to find a good date?
A huge problem in Australia:
ugh. violent, bad women should never be given a free pass. the crap my mother got away with is sick. she’s the one who beat me black and blue … and was crashed on the couch while my brother and i, as toddlers, would wander out and down the block without her knowing it … in freezing temps. and …
‘bad’ and ‘debase’ have no respect to gender.
BV – that sickens me. i’m so very sorry. may God protect your son in supernatural ways that only He can.
coconut oil. it’s edible.