If there is something you would like to change about your life, here’s a tip: start where you are, and start right now.
I know many people who want their life to be different, yet they are waiting. Waiting for the right time, waiting for enough money, waiting until they have x, y, or z.
Maybe they want to lose weight or live healthier, maybe they want a different job or career, maybe they want to find a relationship, or fix a relationship, etc.
They want it, but they’re waiting…
My advice? Start right now, today, in whatever way they can, no matter how small. Every journey begins with the first step. And doing 10% to get there will still get you there faster than waiting to do anything.
It’s your life. You are the artist. Nobody can craft the masterpiece but you!
You might make mistakes. You might not know exactly how to do it. You may have other limitations. It’s OK. But still no reason to delay. Start where you are — it’s the only way to get there!
Whats something you’d like to be different? Please share in the comments!
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
I’d like to start my own business. It will happen, eventually, but I don’t feel like taking the risks right now with so much going on.
However, I am working on the skill set that I’d need to do it. So that’s a start.
Sounds like you are on your way, Dad! A good goal, for sure!
It’s also smart to recognize that this is not the time, and that you need more training/info. before taking the plunge. I own my own biz, and love working for myself, but it has some drawbacks too. Like never being “off” and not having a regular steady income every two weeks, but there are ways to compartmentalize and make that happen. Like save during the good times so it’s there during slow times, to set “working hours” and “off hours.” Etc.
I’d also recommend volunteering, interning, or working at a biz like the one you want to open. Multiple places, if you can. That way you’ll get to see it up close, plus see what you would do the same or different, before taking the plunge yourself.
I’ve done my work freelance before, and it paid *really* well. Like 3 months salary in a week or two. This was between jobs. But it was something that scared the hell out of my wife when we were living off of a single income, so it was back to working for someone else ASAP.
The part I’d be changing in this case would be to expand the types of work that I do. I could probably make a fine living off of my daily work, if self-employed, but there are other things that I’d rather be putting my mind to. Things that I’ve had to give up as my kid got older. Basically had to stop spending time learning new skills since I was doing more dad stuff as he went from being a baby to a boy.
Tony Robbins says the same 😉
#CleanYourRoom
Fuzzy, I left you a note on Beware “Friendly” Advice
Larry G,
I found it. It’s too bad the site went quiet last October, but it is a good direction to explore. I guess that I have been frustrated because I haven’t been seeing anything hopeful. Thank you.
In 1998 at the age of 52 a man starts training in Brazilian Ju Jitsu, one of the most violent full contact martial arts. No katas, all sparing. In 2007 at the age of 61 he received his black belt. Today at 72 he still trains and competes.
Oh and his former job was shoe saslesman.
The man.
Al Bundy.
Actor Ed O’Neill.
http://www.bjj.org/ed-al-bundy-oneil-black-belt-training
Fuzzie … sorry if I contributed to your bad mood. Staying in the cave and reaching out over the internet seems like a good idea. But in practice … that just doesn’t work. Online dating just doesn’t work. If you read RP blogs they say to focus on yourself first. Work out, exercise, lift. Make YOUR LIFE your mission. Don’t worship women, don’t put them on a pedestal. And the final little bit … learn game and how to meet women in real life. That last bit is key. Meeting a real woman face-2-face. And standing up for yourself … and being a man … not a coward … goes miles in our current environment. Most women aren’t used to a man … standing up and being a man. And … instinctively … they respect that.
Anyway … if you want to meet a real woman … online dating is NOT the way to do it. Again, sorry if I bummed you out. And if you want good news … things are still going great with the new GF. Went over last night, had dinner with her and her son. Went to a baseball game. Went back to her place, had sex and then watched a movie. That girl just loves to snuggle post sex, lol. Most women do. She’s coming over in a few hours and we’ll do similar things tonight, lol.
I wish I could give you some advice on how to meet a real woman … who has her head on straight … and given today’s society that’s a really difficult thing. But … honestly … I have no idea what advice to give … with the new GF, we just got lucky in meeting. Hit it off immediately, got tons in common, … just got lucky. I will say that my RP leanings helped a ton. So follow the advice. Focus on yourself first … make you and your mission your priority. And if you meet a woman in real life … that you find cool … and think you might get along with … then be bold. Be a man. Walk up to her and ask her out. And take charge … women want a man who will lead … so be a leader. Guess I will recommend that because I’ve found that to work big time. PLAN THE DATE. Decide what to do and when. And pay for it and be willing to pay for any contingency. All your girl needs to do is show up and everything is taken care of. She is safe in your arms … you got it all taken care of. For women … this is CATNIP … they fucking love it !!!
And I will tell you what else has worked for me. Of the Commandments of Poon … number 14 has worked well for me. Do that … and when you find a good woman … she won’t want to leave.
Mega
And ladies, start finding a guy and get married if you want kids.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4638950/Woman-announces-s-25-weeks-pregnant-six-years.html
Oh oh she is so courageous for finally getting pregnant at forty! Pppphhhfft!
And 25 weeks is still a long way from full term or even preme safe.
Um she was 34 and he was 38 when they got married and immediately started trying.
Isnt the average marriage age now 30? So trying at 34 should no big deal right?
Ladies make up your mind! Either 35 womb is the new 25 womb or isnt it!
Its not just freezing your eggs. IVF also requires they get implanted and the implant takes.
Sorry! Just sayin! Mansplainin biology!
The article ends
“We were never told it couldn’t happen for us which is why we carried on but we would have considered other options – adoption, for instance, if we had been told to stop trying.’
Really. Nine rounds of IVF at severdal thousand a pop? Five miscarriages?
Ya really need to be TOLD this might not be a good idea?
I.Q. is hereditary. Unfortunately.
And this gets coverage on a national tv show?
This is the shape of SIW fish needing bicycle fertility for years to come.
P.s. I am not mean re fertility problems. I feel for those afflicted.
But to think its gonna be a cakewalk at 34+ and not figuring it out
Because Waaaaaant!!!
Thats what makes me shake my head.
Fuzzy, glad to help. The reason I think the site went quiet is the dude that ran it is busy now with raising his children. At least that is what I was told.
“Larry G,
I found it. It’s too bad the site went quiet last October, but it is a good direction to explore. I guess that I have been frustrated because I haven’t been seeing anything hopeful. Thank you.”
As far as “anything hopeful”, ummm, let me say that my wife is NOT a westernized lady nor is she from the US; we met, courted and married in her native country. That was 24 years ago. So it is possible to still get a serious minded woman who wants husband and children. But it’s a piss poor idea to look for blueberries in a brier patch.
Mega,
Thanks for the good wishes. What you have fou8nd is an individual solution. I don’t think this is going to be solved with a bunch of individual solutions. We need a collective solution. To that end, staying in my cave may be a good thing. This is not a problem that should be fed, it should be starved.
Larry G,
There is still one thing, smartphones. Men cannot compete with them. Also, I have heard varying stories about foreign women. If they adopt the culture, they will frivorce like any American wife. A lot don’t and hang on to their morals from their upbringing.
LOL. Who knew Ed O’Neill was a badass? I saw a handful of episodes in a marathon of Married… Recently. That show was so awesome. I need to watch it again. “No Ma’am!” Al Bundy was one of the original TV’s MGTOW. What happened to good shows like that!?
@fuzzie neither this or the last post was by any means directed at you, for the record. 🙂
I know a guy who didn’t start running marathons until age 50. Since then, he has not only run all the major US marathons but also a marathon on every continent! It is never too late. He says his biggest regret is not taking running more seriously in his youth (in the service) bc he suspects now he really could have been a contender! Like Olympic.
Ah youth, wasted on the young!
True re foreign brides being a mixed bag. Women are women and awalt. I know two men who married Russian brides, both raised in poverty, and who now browbeat their American husbands that a three figure salary is not enough! Totally materialistic. So buyer beware…
Horseman, what they don’t tell women about those frozen eggs is that even in the 20s, the success rate of Ivf is very low, less than 20%, past 40 it is about 2%.
Well of course AWALT, RPG! A man getting into ANY relationship whatsoever with a woman is buyer beware; be that marriage, LTR or a simple hookup.
“True re foreign brides being a mixed bag. Women are women and awalt.”
If you go shopping for a car, house, groceries or a wife, due diligence is absolutely required to get the best product. Just saying, that as in real estate, it’s all about “location, location, location”; one need not only look in a single place.
You mentioned that you know of a couple of Russian brides who browbeat their husbands to make more money; I personally know of three who do not but provide a comfortable home and take care of their husbands. One couple in particular (the wife being from Moldova originally) have three children and have recently celebrated their 31st wedding anniversary. I would dare say that in the US, ANY anniversary over 10 years is becoming increasingly rare.
Larry G – My marriage made it over 10 years but was just running on fumes for more than half (and other sporadic periods) because of her lack if interest in it. I held on to keep my kid in the home with both of us. I think that it paid off, because by the time he was old enough it would have been really hard for her to take him away from me, since we are so close. There are other reasons why. Basically just got her so tired of hoping I’d leave, that she decided to do it. My son and I are staying in the home he was raised in.
Dad and Larry and everyone suffering from the after effects.
You really need to watch this. Literally saved my life during the year from hell.
No bullshit, sincere, hopeful.