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Hercules stopped by on Saturday with his new girlfriend and his roommate.
His girlfriend is what I would expect, young, blonde, petite, attractive, not very bright, and hanging on his every word.
His roommate was a very nice guy, not flashy, very average, well spoken, and friendly. The roommate drove a cherry 1969 Nova (SS, no less!) , while Hercules and his gal pal drove the roommate’s man cave of a truck.
We chit chatted a bit, caught up on the latest. All very friendly like.
Then, the room cleared out suddenly and Hercules got down to business.
“You got a boyfriend?”
“Yes,” I said.
“Yeah but it’s some long distance thing, right?”
“Yes,” I said. “And it’s going great.”
“Why don’t you come back to our place? My roommate is single and he wants you to come hang out.”
“Sorry,” I said. “Your roommate seems great, it’s nothing personal, but I am in a relationship.”
“Perfect. He doesn’t want anything serious, anyway. Plus, he’s loaded.”
I rolled my eyes. “You are missing the point Hercules.”
“Fine. Be that way.”
They discussed coming by the next day to help with a little project, and off they went.
Ten minutes later I get a text.
“My roommate wants you to come over and party.”
“Sorry,” I said. “I am going to stay home tonight, not feeling well. See you in the morning.”
“Oh geez.”
I call my boyfriend, and then watched a movie. Ahhhh… alone time!
Now, I easily could have gone. But why? Plus, I’d be an idiot to ruin the good thing I’ve got.
The next day they show up, just Hercules and his lady and we get the project done quickly.
I talk more with his lady, learn she is best friends with Hercules’s sister Venus, who I adore. (Venus easily could have been Playmate of the year had she wanted to.) Venus once said to me, “Nobody should ever date any of my brothers. They are all pigs!” So I figure the girlfriend has been told what she’s getting into. Maybe if so, it can work. We’ll see…
Then he notices my new riding lawnmower, and my now spare older one and offers to make a trade, some physical work needing done in exchange for the old mower.
“Sounds good, but I need to run it by my boyfriend first,” I say.
“Oh geez. Just tell him the thing disappeared.”
“Sorry,” I say. “That’s not the way things work.”
Off they go. I fill my guy in on all this, and he approves the trade.
Anyway, not sure there’s a point to this except I found it all pretty entertaining.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
You are getting ‘wise’. Keep it up!
RPG, Now you KNOW that you are just ruining the SIW propaganda machine, right? What is this country coming to?
I’m proud of you, Bloom. Loyalty in women these days is a goddamn rare trait, especially in long distance relationships. Good job!
For 800 years Mrs. Yoda loyal she has been
If said situation comes up again, just think of all those married women on military bases who are DTF for Jodie. And you know damn well that shit happens all day, every day.
Thanks guys! For me it was not a hard decision at all to make.A no brainer. Pass.
I used the opportunity as a teachable moment w Vixen, as well. She has trouble seeing the cause and effect going with her impulses can lead to. Perhaps the biggest impact on her was when I said, “my guy simply wouldn’t have it.” I think I could feel her tingles at the thought thru the phone.
She knows how happy I am and how good he is to me and how hard that is to find. Well worth saying “no” for! And he’s right to put up w no less than 100%.
I have a long overdue Vixen update coming soon, btw.
I’ll do a post on Venus soon, too. She’s a great example of how a woman should be, actually!
Saying “no” is so simple, and prevents so many problems. Which is exactly why so few women do it.
As I was reading, it seems that people who have a lot of anything can always get more and don’t place too much value on it. Hercules is a stinker.
What would you do if you could?
(All restrictions: money, time, family, etc solved?)
What would you not do if you could?
(Judgement, possibility of getting caught removed?)
What would you do if you had to?
(How far would you go in uncontrolled situation?)
Answer those three and you know the person.
P.s. my answers are
Learn a new trade money and time permitting.
Would not cheat or steal even if I could get away with it.
Would kill without remorse to defend my family if required
I turned down two other date invitations this weekend, as well. It’s great to be able to say, “sorry but I am taken!” 🙂
@ horseman:
Exactly what I am doing
Would not cheat, steal, or betray my own code even if nobody knew or would ever find out
Actually been there. I used my wit, charm, and quick thinking into giving the person the slip and getting the heck out of there before things went South. Story for another time…! 😉
Something I learned from therulesrevisited.com, the first red pill blog I found, is that a gal needs to learn how to differentiate a legit offer from a go nowhere and no good one. It will save her a lot of time and trouble in the end!
RPG,
I know that in “It’s a Red Flag!!!” you posted about some reactions, from outsiders, about your relationship. Just curious how most other women tend to react to these things when you talk with them about it? I suspect that a lot of people would have a negative reaction to the concept of you asking your long distance boyfriend if it was okay to trade your mower. Was it because you are enlisting another man’s assistance, or is it because you respect his opinion on whether or not it’s a good transaction (or both)?
I’m curious because these days there is a seldom a boundary as to what is acceptable interaction between the opposite sexes. Lots of people don’t think that Facebook / email communications are even an issue, but a lot of evidence is showing how damaging they are to a real relationship, to a point of even being a form of cheating. I always considered that I was never the jealous type, and trusted that my wife could have her own friends without issue. It got to a point though where friendships with her male friends were closer than our own, so I’m not so sure anymore. Not only would I not want a relationship with someone who spends insane amounts of time on social networking (everything in moderation), but I also would never want to be in a relationship with a woman who uses it regularly to communicate with other guys. I’m about as confident as can be, but there is just that element of red pill that now makes me wonder now what someone’s true intentions are.
You mentioned that you got two date offers this weekend. Obviously they were trying to discredit your long-distance relationship by bringing that guy around, and you’ve mentioned that Hercules has tried to get you into bed numerous times. It’s interesting that he’d try to pass his more “average” friend onto you even though you’ve turned him down several times. Maybe some kind of test?
A dad, one of the date offers was from someone who knows I am in a relationship and one was random.
I asked about the mower bc I trust my guy’s judgement on such matters: did I need the spare mower and also was the deal a good fair one. Plus it was a subtle boundary set w Hercules, to let him know I don’t make decisions of major importance wo discussing it w my guy first, and that I won’t go behind his back, omit info, or lie to him.
Not sure what the roommate thing was about, don’t care really. I wonder if the roomie is single bc Hercules cucholded him w his last gal, but I didn’t ask. I think the roomie will find a gal pal soon enough, maybe sooner wo Hercules as his wingman 😉
Oh and as for what other women or people think about me putting my guy first, again don’t care really. Some criticize it but a surprising amount actually respect it, and say they need to do the same!
Like the gal from the frivorce post found, those “friends” aren’t going to be there for you in the end, but a man treated well will!
I used to have male friends and saw little wrong w it but post red pill the guys clued me in: guys being “friends” w a gal, unless both are in a relationship and the couples are all friends, only means one thing… he’s hoping to get a shot at more than friends. Not good fire to play with would be my advice to women.
Same w social media. If your guy wouldn’t be ok w it, and you wouldn’t be ok w him reading or seeing everything, you should not be doing it!
“Like the gal from the frivorce post found, those “friends” aren’t going to be there for you in the end, but a man treated well will!”
I believe that. It’s going to be a hard habit to change, after always trying to be there for my ex. Now I’ve got to pull the plug on her since she’s moved out. There obviously are some exceptions (she’s my son’s mother and his well-being depends on her survival for at least half of the time now) but it’s not going to be like when I’d do anything for her. The moment she moved out she was no longer my wife. She does have a few “friends” and beta orbiters, but nobody that I honestly think is trustworthy or reliable. It’s a shame, really.
“Nobody should ever date any of my brothers. They are all pigs”
LOL She damn sure helped them get laid with that
What would you do if you could?
(All restrictions: money, time, family, etc solved?)
What would you not do if you could?
(Judgement, possibility of getting caught removed?)
What would you do if you had to?
(How far would you go in uncontrolled situation?)
————
The answer is the same
The same as i am doing now
Lol Ton, it’s the truth! But if she set up her bestie (an co-owner of her small biz) w Hercules… he can’t be all bad, right? So long as blondie understands he won’t be faithful, ever, and is ok w it, it might work!
Saying “no” is so simple, and prevents so many problems. Which is exactly why so few women do it.
Women like problems they do?
@ Ton you would love Venus! But I think Vixen needs you more! She’d be all over you being the boss! Lol. Claims nobody has ever been able to tie her in a way she can’t get out, I have a feeling you might be able to fix that too. I should shove her in a box and send her your way, for her own damn good! Lol. She’s a good cook and housekeeper, too! 😉
Or if Ton’s inn is full, I could ship her to Sumo. She needs a certain type, one who gets exactly how to control a gal such as herself, better than she knows herself!
@gla, while sadly I do not doubt it, any woman who cheats on her man while he is serving our country should be thrown to the Hajis. No mercy! I can’t imagine a lower thing for a woman to do than that! 😦
And I may regret this, but in my frustration w Vixen always crying about her man won’t take care of her, I suggested maybe she consider signing up some online supporters who are into the cuckhold thing! Lol. She thought I was serious!
No, I don’t want Vixen, She is incapable of loyalty. After reading this thread, it is looking more like this marketplace is fit only for alpha cads.
More girls are ok with that then most would think
LOL my current house keeper and part time cook is amazing. I knew her husband sort of. Any rate she is from Panama and man can that woman bang out the taco bender chow
Fuzzie, I hope I and a few others show that’s not the case. But for gals like Vixen? They need an extra strong leader. Guys who get chewed up and spit out by such gals are simply not ready for the challenge! I have a friend I have been meaning to write such a post about. Smart, like genius smart. But loves the hot messes. Except he tries to blue pill them, and of course it just doesn’t work. Those gals don’t want sensitive and understanding. Men like him should stick to meeker women who don’t need total domination every minute of the day!
How smart can your genius smart friend be?
Also Fuzzie I would not consider my guy a cad by any means. Alpha in some ways, I suppose beta in others (he’s a one gal guy, not overly bossy, not self absorbed.) He has high standards and makes them clear. I have no doubt he’d kick me to the curb if I crossed his lines. So it’s not just Alpha cads who can succeed in a broken market. He watched me for a long time tho, wo me knowing, before he ever approached.
Perhaps I was raised too blue pill! I don’t think I could handle it emotionally, but to each her own. And actually after being married for awhile, the thought crossed my mind that the multiple wives thing kinda made sense. I wanted a kitchen wife, a laundry wife, a garden wife, lol! Eh it still doesn’t sound half bad, so long as they were cool and not total bitches!
Oh and of course if I was the boss wife! Lol.
RPG,
Maybe you are an exception. Still, spending a few years attempting internet dating made me see something else. Also, as is said with some frequency on the internet, “Have you tried dating women?”
The Glorious Patriarch likes the post he does
Also, if the market is broken, who broke it? My money would be on women aided by alpha cads.
Elk it still doesn’t sound half bad
Probably you should like bear not
I used to have a ’69 Nova. Loved that car. Maybe something to add to the bucket list.
Ton, He’s completely clueless when it comes to women, that’s for sure!
I get it Fuzzie! Good mates (ones who truly understand what that means and takes and is) are hard to find, of both sexes! Almost everyone is so steeped in the blue pill thinking, that even if they want a relationship that works, they have no idea how! And what they think works, doesn’t!
That happened long ago… we are all just wandering in the smoking wreckage, Fuzzie. But I see signs of an awakening, so I believe there is hope yet!
Also, Fuzzie, I know it may sound new age, but I do believe what we tell ourselves is true, what the possibilities are or aren’t, what and what our limits are or aren’t is directly correlated to the results we achieve. I strongly believed despite the odds and the brokenness, I would figure it out and fins what I was seeking, and I have!
TPG,
I don’t think so. I think you may have found an individual solution.
Perhaps the biggest start to solving the problem is for women to gain some humility
https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2017/07/10/a-very-long-season-part-2/
Farm Boy,
While that may be very helpful to a collective solution, it’s not going to happen. Women won’t take criticism. Society enables them in this.
Hercusleaze. LoL.
Suddenly as quiet as Degoba here it is
Hercasleze — love it!
One woman once voluntarily submitted to my direction. It was in a game, where winning or losing would have held little value, so she was not risking anything. But her willingness to say, “You are the man; you decide” was incredibly attractive to me. Despite other significant issues, I was thinking of her for the rest of the night. Even now, years later, I remember that.
A woman’s strength is not in nagging her husband, but in willingly and humbly obeying him.
He is not your husband (yet), but your willingness to get his approval before making decisions not only shows wisdom by your willingness to take advice, but very likely is also making yourself very attractive to him. Well done.
Omg RPG, we are kindred spirits. I also am in a miraculous RP relationship long distance, cultivated over a year plus with alot of time spent together. We talk every night and he is moving over 2500 miles to be with me in 3 short weeks. It feels like bizarro world, I got lucky meeting him when I did in my RP journey. 40, divorced, a kid (shared custody) and secured commitment from THE most unlikely man. Life can truly pleasantly suprise you.
@ dale, agreed, being difficult and quarrelsome is NOT an attractive quality in a woman, even if other gals tell her so!
@cyn, I am so happy for you both! I think if two red pill aware people can somehow connect, it has much more chance of success than the unaware. Happy to hear that! 😀 be good to each other!