There is an epidemic sweeping the land — special snowflake syndrome.
If the term special snowflake is a new one to you, just know it’s not a compliment. People with special snowflake syndrome have a cluster of personality and character flaws, including but not limited to:
- Thinking the world revolves around them
- Believing only their worldview or opinion to be correct
- Demanding tolerance while being intolerant
- Responding like a toddler when they don’t get their way
- Taking everything as a personal offense
- Reporting or tattling on anyone they can’t control or who dares believe differently
- Expecting others to solve their issues
- Believe their rights matter more than the rights of others
- Believe others must conform to their worldview
- Easily offended
- Fragile self image, threatened by anyone or anything different
- Often physically unattractive or socially odd
- Low level of physical fitness, soft, weak
- See almost everything as an injustice, threat, or aggression
- Angry and passive aggressive
- accuses others of various “ism”
- Victim based
I could continue, but hopefully you get the point.
Sadly, these people seem to be everywhere lately. Those with special snowflake syndrome tend to surround themselves with others who are the same, creating an echo chamber effect, special snowball syndrome.
People like this are not simply incredibly annoying, they are a threat to individual freedom and self determination. It is, ironically, people with this mindset that commit atrocities such as the Dark Ages or the Salem Witch Trials.
The best remedy for special snowflake syndrome is mockery and shame. They will howl, there will be wailing and gnashing of teeth, but it’s for their own good. Friends don’t let friends turn into sad sucks.
Luckily the reign of the special snowflake seems to be coming to an end. Why on earth would any sane society let people like them control the social, educational, or political realm? No. For all our sakes, and their own, we must say no.
Let those who have ears hear.
What do you think? Please share in the comments.
“character flows”
Flaws, not flows, but maybe you did that on purpose. I dunno.
Nope, typo! I’ll fix 🙂
gla, most of these posts are typed on a phone or tablet while I have kids, dogs, cats, and occasionally a hamster scrambling across the top of me at the same time. Lol!
Any story as to what prompted this post, or just a general observation about the weak and entitled populous?
I think that the best thing that we can do is to start raising our children to reject these concepts. Lead by example. Might be a challenge since so many people have it so easy these days. You are at odds against shitty people who are breeding 10:1 and producing a bunch of shitty kids.
I try to not even associate with these types anymore. I am finding people that I like at the boxing gym. People who actually work hard for results. People who have actually suffered in life but refused to get beaten down by it. Fighters. Not sure where others find quality people to associate with these days. I typically avoid the bar scene. Even the church is now lead by BPs with messages that promote weakness.
A dad, no particular event triggered this post, just general observation. These people are very annoying to me, they represent everything anti-American and anti-freedom in my mind.
Actually I was reading more tweet comments to recent DJT posts, and snowflakes can be found in abundance there.
I detest That kind of thinking.
People are more divorced from reality than they were in times past. Some of it is because the Government shields them from their mistakes and the reality thereof. In addition, so few modern kids are raised on farms, which have this great ability to teach youngsters about how the real world works
A dad, in my pre red pill days I worked on a neighbors local political campaign. It was an eye opening experience, the local D party absolutely sabatoged him, and ran the most Blow hard guy instead. That was part of my awakening, while ironically they have doubled down. His daughter gave up her STEM degree aspirations to become a social justice major, his wife hates the current president so much she considers me guilty by assn. and stares at me w daggers of hatred now. It’s scary really, as it’s neighbors like that who start reporting neighbors to the “thought police.” My theory is she’s so angry about Bernie, but can’t admit it was the DNC who did her guy in, so she’s projecting that onto Trump, who really had nothing to do w Bernie getting squeezed out. So weird.
Part of why PDJT drives some people mad is because he very explicitly challenges the unwarranted assumptions of these special people. Deep down, they know that he is right, but if nobody challenges their silliness, they can go on living the lie.
The lie feels good. It definitely es them as special. What immature person wouldn’t want that?
Omg, I see this on RPW reddit so often. They “can’t handle the truth”. Call them out on hamstering or dishonesty and you are downvoted to hell.
“It is not what you say but how you say it”. Sorry sweetheart, but sugar coating the Red Pill truth doesn’t make it easier to swallow.
Also, the blow hard guy lost (bc he sucked) so the crooked R candidate won, and then that guy passed regulations I am struggling w to this day. It was a bad deal all around for citizens where I live, but it was also part of what helped awaken me to the pretty little lies.
Sad but true, Farm Boy! Hopefully his unrelenting calling it out will reawaken the masses, possibly even some snowflakes themselves! If they can handle the cognitive dissidence, that is!
RPG,
Even the DJT “red pill” community is full of a lot of BPs that corrupt society and skew the truth / spread lies. I personally know a woman who claims to be “red pill” who is among the worst offenders of the traits that you list above, nuking her family, etc. She grew up a “special snowflake” and was an only child. Never had to work for much of anything. Entitled and as lazy as can be. Walking out on her husband and teaching her daughter to basically be like her. And while I don’t know the whole story, I don’t think very highly of some of the things she is doing.
Farm Boy,
I would agree with this. My father’s family came from a farm community. My grandfather and his siblings grew up on the farm. Hardest working man I’ve ever known, and he could do anything. I often remember him when I need to accomplish some new or challenging task, and I always succeed. He was a Korean war vet. I miss him and wish that I could have known him better. It’s too bad that he let his wife (my grandmother) raised a few boys that couldn’t do a thing for themselves (well, all but one). She grew up as a “special snowflake”, from a fairly well-to-do family. Even into her late-seventies she acted like a child when my grandfather didn’t let her get her way, and she had threatened to leave him several times. Then he died. She was never the same. Anyway, my dad has talked a lot about how he wished that his father and their family hadn’t sold the family farm. In spite of my father’s flaws, he is correct in the respect that such a family business gives people meaning and helps keep communities together. We’ve all lost a lot of that now. We have no connection with the real world. People so frequently even bypass the store and just eat out all of the time, let alone learn how to actually grow their own food. I can’t tell you how many people that I know (grown adults) that can’t even cook.
These people believe that they can creat awesomeness by fiat. Pass a regulation or law that forces people to be awesome, and then you will have awesomess. It is just that easy.
Furthermore it makes the supporters feel awesome, which is the most important aspect right there
You should have seen the look on the mom’s face when I enquired how their daughter was doing in school and she revealed the switch to social justice. I replied, “oh… that’s interesting… what sort of career path would that lead to?” The mom was not happy! Lol. I thought it was a valid question!
But the daughter will make the world better by telling people that they should work harder to feed all of those who don’t
But still, the most important thing is to feel good about yourself. If you have the right views, and say the right things, then this can happen. Furthermore it doesn’t take work or cost money
There are snow flakes down under as well, all female! No man flakes except maybe in the media or entertainment. Grrrr
Chase them away! Bomb them with icecream lol
Farm Boy shouldn’t you be at spawny space minding your latest post? What is your latest post? Hmm must check it out… (heh heh)
I also want to note that the woman that I mention above is still one of my friends, and it pains me to see what she is doing to her family. I wouldn’t be surprised if she actually lurks around here occasionally (knowing how she is active in blogs). I’ve never actually discussed the nature of her current frivorce directly with her, because it’s not really my business. I’m close friends with her husband though, and only know his side of the story.
Mockery and shame. I’m not sure that these things would be an effective way of getting her to snap out of it.
Mockery isn’t the only option. How about ignore? Why waste any time or energy on them at all? I’ve got better things to do then let anyone get in my way or have influence on me that I haven’t allowed them to have. That includes stopping to mock someone
The world does, in fact revolve around me
My world view is the only correct one
My rights do matter more then yours
Farm life doesn’t allow for many illusions
RPG…”his wife hates the current president so much she considers me guilty by assn. and stares at me w daggers of hatred now.”
I’m curious…is her interest in politics (obsessive interest, it sounds like) of recent vintage, or has she always been political?
Reason I ask: A German author, writing shortly after WWII, commented that he’d seen many people who had had no interest in political affairs until they were about 40 or so, and then had no knowledge or context to bring to bear…and became dedicated Nazis or Communists.
I’ve certainly seen several people who never had much interest in politics until recently and now are obsessed with it.
Its in the name.
Special.
You aint Special.
Name me one special person who earned the title,
Who did something Special.
And no actors don’t count cause pretty is rare not special.
Terry Fox. Special! In his determination.
Chris Hattfield. Special! In his bringing science to kids.
Thats pretty much all I can think of for Canadians.
I meet lots of people every day who as Sppppeeeccial.
Just like I meet lots of womenz but not one Lady, many mails but no Men.
Ton
You got that right.
Old City friend was over last week, too busy talking about his fabulous condo to notice the ponies. 19 hand Belgian mare steps on his foot. On his fancy shoes.
I just looked at him.
“Hurts, Don’t It.”
She don’t care if you Special.
She only cares if you will stop her.
I will never be special.
Not anywhere close
Who gives a fuck.
I live my life, I like my life.
Period.
Justin The PM special he is
To become a PM with no talent requires talent it does
A religious sensibility (which is now utterly alien to us, thanks to the belief that progress is illimitable) would protect us from the harmful illusion that anything less than having all our desires satisfied simultaneously is anomalous or unjust. And our demand that incompatible desires be met at the same time imposes strange obligations on others.
I first thought about this during the early years of the AIDS epidemic, when it was demanded of us that we should believe incompatible things simultaneously, for example that it was simply a disease like any other and that it was a disease of unprecedented importance and unique significance; that it could strike anybody but that certain group were martyrs to it; that it must be normalized and yet treated differently. For example, tests for it alone of all the thousands of ills that flesh was heir to had, by legal prescription, to be preceded by pre-test counseling. It was a bit like living under a small version of a communist dictatorship, in which the law of noncontradiction had been abrogated in favor of dialectics, under which all contradictions were compatible, but which contradictions had to be accepted was a matter of the official policy of the moment.
Human beings are funny. I remember a patient who insisted that her AIDS be treated as a disease like any other, but who also made sure we never forgot that she had contracted it voluntarily by deliberately injecting herself with the blood of a friend with AIDS. She was not suicidal, at least not in the sense that she wanted to die there and then, or anytime soon. Rather, she had a Byronic notion of the disease, a romantic conception of it as a badge of superior sensibility, which is to say that those who suffered from it were in some way morally superior to those who did not, and thus were imbued with a moral authority that others did not share. And yet at the same time she demanded to be treated matter-of-factly. By demanding this difficult psychological feat of us, recognition and nonrecognition at the same time (a feat to which, by the way, we proved equal by the exercise of self-control), she was in effect exerting her power over us. It was all very pathetic, a consequence of her thirst for significance in a mass society.
The demand for recognition and nonrecognition at the same time is surely one of the reasons for the outbreak of mass self-mutilation in the Western world in an age of celebrity. A person who treats his face and body like an ironmongery store can hardly desire or expect that you fail to notice it, but at the same time demands that you make no comment about it, draw no conclusions from it, express no aversion toward it, and treat him no differently because of it. You must accept him as he is, however he is, because he has an inalienable right to such acceptance. As a professional burglar once asked me, how could I expect him to give up burgling when he was a burglar and burglary was what he did?
I think the same dynamic (if I may call it such) is at work in the current vogue for transsexualism: “You must recognize me and not recognize me at the same time.” In this way, people can simultaneously enjoy the fruits of being normal and very different. To be merely the same as others is a wound to the ego in an age of celebrity, and yet we are herd animals who do not want to wander too far from the herd. And in an age of powerlessness we want to exert power.
What will be the next attempted reconciliation of our incompatible desires?
http://takimag.com/article/everyday_snowflakes_theodore_dalrymple/print#axzz4mqDkvQeS
A new post at Spawny there is
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/projection-of-expectations/
IMO the only proper response to a snowflake tantrum/demand/whine/snivel is laughter.
Of the Borderline Personality Disorders, I have heard that Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Histronic Personality Disorder have been removed from the latest DSM, which is the handbook for psychologists.There are now too many of them to consider this a disorder. Here is more from Tara Palmatier at the International Conference on Men’s Issues in 2014. It runs twenty seven minutes and it is brilliant.
That list pretty much describes my youngest niece. Her brother and sister sadistically enjoy getting her all spun up all day every day.
ND wrote: “Mockery isn’t the only option. How about ignore? Why waste any time or energy on them at all? I’ve got better things to do then let anyone get in my way or have influence on me that I haven’t allowed them to have. That includes stopping to mock someone”
I agree. Mocking and shaming can backfire, as they will feel more of a martyr and could get more snowflakes around them to reinforce their feelings of victimhood. Besides, I think mocking and shaming are best reserved for those who are stronger. Some of these snowflakes are feeble, emotionally. Who needs the drama that could transpire when shaming and mocking someone who is weak and maybe unstable?
Ignoring them and acting like their troubles and concerns are boring is better. They yearn for lots of attention, so don’t give it to them. Give them apathy instead.
She is only 10 years old, so I tend to give her somewhat of a pass and I keep her siblings in check. I’m hoping she learns to grow some thicker skin in terms of relating to others. If she can’t hack it with her own family who loves her, then she is fucked when encountering the real world.
Fuzzie – I’m pretty confident that I was married to a BPD. There is a sort of fine line between all of these personality disorders, and I’m not entirely sure that most current psychs and therapists are capable of diagnosing them. She was highly functional, but so many of the behaviors became apparent later on. She got completely crazy later in our relationship.
Strangely enough, she never was this way until she became a narcissist of sorts through Facebook. Had the selfie stick and all of that. Pictures of herself all over the place. Totally obsessed with projecting a false self image, as many are.
Even more strangely, she sorta snapped out of it in the divorce process. Now she seems to be somewhat back in reality. Maybe responsibility did it to her. Like having to work more than 5-10 hours per week to pay the bills.
Removal of NPD from DSM is like fat acceptance. Basically we are telling everyone that the “new normal” is fine, because it’s not okay to shame someone for their destructive behaviors.
A Dad,
You should check out Tara’s website ashrink4men.com While she can offer paid counseling, there is a forum that should be pretty good. If you are correct in your conclusions, you should talk to people who have been there, as you may still have recovering to do.
A dad, probably doesn’t work for opposite genders to mock and shame as well as their same gender doing so. I can call out women, as a woman, more so than a guy bc they can’t accuse me of sexism. And I am part of their ” in group.” Same for a guy calling out another guy, vs a woman calling out a guy. Or minorities of any kind, better for someone “in group” to call it out.
True ND, thanks for commenting. I only mock if it’s someone I know personally, and I do so in a very lighthearted way. Mock probably sounds mean, it’s more in a teasing about the ridiculous than it is meanspirited, for sure! To clarify!
David I don’t know her too well, she’s always been a “free spirit” and liberal leaning but this anger I see now is new. And disturbing, for sure. All I said was something like, “Well, win some, lose some, there’s another election ahead, for now he is president” or something equally vague and non confrontational and she definitely threw me into the enemy camp!
@ horseman, My grandpa had Belgians, I have a weakness for them! My favorite!!! 🙂
true Sue, for some no attention is the worst of all. When I say mockery and shame I meant lighthearted, not meanspirited. Kind of pointing out the ridiculous… like memes do. That’s what works so well w them. They are non threatening yet expose the emperor wearing no clothes!
Gla, sometimes family teasing to toughen another up is better than the world doing so later. So long as they aren’t being mean. Good natured teasing can help prep kids for dealing w it in real life.
Btw you guys are all great! Thanks for commenting and being a part of the blog. I enjoy reading and learning from all of your comments, and I love seeing people connecting w and supporting each other here, too! 🙂
RPG,
I think they will never accept the loss of Hillary because she was the feminist candidate. They will also not accept that feminism has made political enemies, not only with men, but with women.
Mocking and shame has worked wonders for the left and you don’t mock/ shame for the freaksmfor the benefit of the freak. You do it keep the freak fence sitters away from the shameful behavior
Ton wise he is
@ Fuzzie, from what I was hearing, women didn’t consider her a feminist or pro female candidate, truly. Perhaps her looking the other way at Bill’s sexual predation or the $$$ she was taking from questionable sources or something was the factor? I could never quite get them to put it into words beyond, “I just don’t like her” or “I can’t vote for her.” And these were women of her generation, lifelong liberals saying this! That’s when I realized she didn’t have a chance. These are not at all red pill people, but many have become so bc of the election!
Shame their own they do
There is an underlying current of fear in my activist communities, and it is separate from the daily fear of police brutality, eviction, discrimination, and street harassment. It is the fear of appearing impure. Social death follows when being labeled a “bad” activist or simply “problematic” enough times. I’ve had countless hushed conversations with friends about this anxiety and how it has led us to refrain from participation in activist events, conversations, and spaces because we feel inadequately radical. I actually don’t prefer to call myself an activist, because I don’t fit the traditional mold of the public figure marching in the streets and interrupting business as usual. When I was a Christian, all I could think about was being good, showing goodness, and proving to my parents and my spiritual leaders that I was on the right path to God. All the while, I believed I would never be good enough, so I had to strain for the rest of my life toward an impossible destination of perfection.
I feel compelled to do the same things as an activist a decade later. I self-police what I say in activist spaces. I stopped commenting on social media with questions or pushback on leftist opinions for fear of being called out. I am always ready to apologize for anything I do that a community member deems wrong, oppressive, or inappropriate—no questions asked. The amount of energy I spend demonstrating purity in order to stay in the good graces of a fast-moving activist community is enormous. Activists are some of the judgiest people I’ve ever met, myself included. There’s so much wrongdoing in the world that we work to expose. And yet, grace and forgiveness is hard to come by in the broader community. At times, I have found myself performing activism more than doing activism. I’m exhausted, and I’m not even doing the real work I am committed to do. The quest for political purity is a treacherous distraction for well-intentioned activists.
http://www.catalystwedco.com/blog/2017/7/10/kin-aesthetics-excommunicate-me-from-the-church-of-social-justice
That’s an interesting quote Yoda. The thing that strikes me is how the author is looking to others for acceptance or approval rather than within. Notice the approval for Christianity was from parents, pastors, and not GOD. And the silly idea that Faith requires perfection, totally missing the point there! Not a good way to live, constantly needing outsiders to confirm one is “good enough.” Sad.
Very true Ton, re the fence sitters.
As if I say anything that ain’t