Women today likely have more rights, protection, and power than any other time in history. But yet, in many circles, women are sold the story that they are suffering every single day from oppression, sexism, and powerlessness.
Finally, someone is speaking out about the danger of the victim narrative. Sure enough, being constantly told or believing you are a victim leads to feelings of anxiety and helplessness.
Of course it would! If one is on edge, seeing everyday situations as microaggressions and assaults, it only makes sense this would not lead to confidence, empowerment, or stability.
So why does the narrative persist? Maybe because to give up victimhood means having to take ownership of ones success or failure rather than blaming “outside forces” beyond one’s control.
But trust me on this, much better to own your life than to believe it floats in some capricious wind, ready to be snatched away or defeated the moment you begin to win.
In reality, (the far majority of) men are not out to get you. They are not trying to hold you down, take away from your success, or control and oppress you. They are actually facing more systemic discrimination than you are, in today’s culture.
Yep. Males of European descent are now the ONLY group that it’s completely socially sanctioned to discriminate against. Is that really equality? Or reverse oppression?
It’s time for women to let go of the victim label and either sink or swim. We wanted equality, well here it is. And yes, it pretty much is both better and sucks in different ways.
Welcome to reality.
Let those with ears hear.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
The narrative exists so that men continue to have to pay for the ACTUAL most privileged people in the world (white women). It’s the reason that I will be paying alimony for a few years.
Yet she rationalizes it because she spent 10% of her life being a SAHM where she could have spent at least 40-50% of it becoming self-sufficient and skilled like most men and some women (like you) do.
SJWs love crybabies. They perpetuate the lies and gain support for our new world of cultural Marxistm.
You’ve got to understand that this isn’t about caring what people think. It’s about gaining political support and making women dependent upon government by actually limiting their potential while tricking them into believing that they are empowered. A vocal majority sucks up the tax dollars while the rulers profit from their support from the backs of a group of a real minority (People like Roomie’s ex, who made a tidy six figure salary but aren’t wealthy, just rich enough to live off of a single income)..
Doesn’t matter much to me. It’s only a few years out of my lifetime until I retire (and I’m young enough) to a point of paying off my home and working for myself.
Follow the money.
Entire industries have built upon the victim narrative. These include everything from women’s studies departments to self-help books, to talk shows, to countless Web sites and blogs to those seldom-used emergency hotlines on college campuses (see link below).
There’s also a lot of money in doing all those government-funded studies that always seem to magically show how girls are shortchanged, even as they outperform boys in high school and make up the majority of college students.
Wanna win a writing award? Pen an article about how women are victims. This actually became a running joke at the newspaper at which I used to work.
Remove the victim narrative and you’d have thousands upon thousands of people out of jobs, most of them women. In fact, you could make a good argument that allowing women in the workforce caused this narrative to take hold, because it’s a hell of a way for women to make money. Who doesn’t want to help women in distress, after all?
A lot of things make better sense when you look at them in economic terms instead of through the lens of sociology, art, or interpersonal relations. Feminism is one of them.
https://www.city-journal.org/html/campus-rape-myth-13061.html
Feminism is a self perpetuating institution that instills fear in women and thrives from that. They can’t stop. The best we can hope for is that women see through the deception.
That’s true a dad that the system wants victims, people whose livelihood depend on programs that keep them enslaved. And voting in those who provide such programs. Don’t fall for the trap!
Maybe the narrative also persist because then feminists don’t need to speak about actual problems in the world.
It is a lot safer to whine about “wage gap” here in the west than try to help women in countries where they are truly oppressed.
That is pointed out to them often, but I have yet to hear a response.
“It is a lot safer to whine about “wage gap” here in the west than try to help women in countries where they are truly oppressed.”
Yeah.
And ironically, the same SIWs whining about wage gap (LOL)… are dying to bring over the very men who ARE capable of severe oppression and even real life slavery (gasp!) of women. Wonder what they’ll think of a “wage gap” when they’re ISIS slaves. Although with how popular 50 Shades books were, maybe they’d consider it a big promotion. Bleh!
lol Bloom I was reading your post just now and somehow this paragraph got totally twisted in my mind 😉
“In reality, (the far majority of) men are not out to get you. They are not trying to hold you down, take away from your success, or control and oppress you. They are actually facing more systemic discrimination than you are, in today’s culture.”
I read…
“In reality, (the far majority of) men are not out to get you.
They are not trying to hold you down (unless they’re holding you down underneath their masculine bodies 😉 )
take away from your success (unless it’s to make you wait until the time they know it makes you explode in pleasure 😉 )
or control and oppress you (unless of course this means in the bedroom and where they O’ press you into the mattress lol…)
Wow Stephanie, you must e ovulating! Lol. 😉
A new post at Spawny’s there is
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2017/10/24/no-help-from-academia/
Yikes!! Sorry Bloom!
lol it’s fine! But I think you did read into that a bit! Or maybe it’s true that’s what women are really thinking! Lol.
TMI perhaps
Yea, my husband has corrupted me (I can blame him ha! 😀 ).
LOL… My husband says he didn’t corrupt me, he just “Awakened” me! haha “to my desires….”
He’s bad.
Have fun!
I submitted a comment that disappeared.
At least I can comment again now. Yay. I may resubmit.
Front page of Canada’s leading newspaper.
https://beta.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/masculinity-is-toxic-men-dont-have-to-be/article36703460/
I didn’t read it.
I couldn’t.
Just reading the headline alone made me want to scream
“Well F##K YOU TOO!”
Ladies this kinda crap grows daily and poisons the well for even a thirty year happily married man.
My default setting now is Females are toxic until ( if ) an individual one is proven otherwise.
And the list of proven ones literally has not hit double digits.
(Remember I worked in a long term care facility mostly nurses. Thats a lot of women to NOT make the list.)
P.s. Bloom is on it. She tries at least.
One more rant please.
Given that maybe all the gay, bi, tri, unsure, whatever genetically males put together account for maybe 15% of the genetically male population,
Why the F##K do we need the idea of “cisgendered”
I had to look it up!!!
The term is Man, as in Male, as in the default that all these other terms are in contrast to.
You dont say “Its a cisspecied horse!”
No! Its just a bloody horse!
unless its a Mule or a Burro.
The only cis I know is the genetic female child of my mother!
And its spelt Sis as in. Hey Sis, how are my nephews?
Jesus H Christ, Budda, and Lao Tzu!
Enough already!
Ok. I’m Ok now.
Go about your business, nothing to see here.
(Mumbles “fuck me”)
Horseman,
I did read it. In the first paragraph, she reveals that she is a wife and mother. Canadian feminists are extreme.
I wasn’t going to link this, but Horseman’s comment was too good a lead. In a previous video, Johtheother reported that, in Vancouver, women had taken to publishing lists of men they felt had harassed them. While it may be coincidence, there has already been one suicide. In this video, he recommends that men minimize contact with women.
I read an article around the time that Ruth Bader Ginsburg was seated on the U.S. Supreme Court. The general theme was about her introversion and how she would likely be attacked by women. There was a statement that I wrote down but can’t find at the moment – something to the effect that men’s basic instinct is to xxx (don’t remember); women’s basic instinct is to punish.
That really grabbed me, because I instantly recognized the truth in that statement based on my experience with life up to that point.
So, that “instinct is to punish” quote is now joined by Johntheother’s recommendation that men should avoid women (in fuzzie’s post directly above.
An aha moment of sorts. Previously, I’ve more or less agreed with the observations made throughout the manosphere about why Eve needs to be “ruled over” by Adam, as God said she would be. But this thought has just occured to me:
Women are in the ascendancy, in college, in business, etc. Social media has given their voice a platform like they’ve never before had in history. And what do they do with this platform? Encourage the minorities they champion? Teach them to think carefully, rigorously, and logically? Be fair and impartial in determining truth and meting out justice? Join with other like-minded women to start technology and manufacturing companies from the ground up? Praise the men who gave them a hand up on the way up? Or the men who create the labor-saving devices that give us all the idle time so we can attend college (or not)? Or the who enable her sewage and garbage to be funneled far from her ever-so-sensitive nose?
Maybe some do, somewhere. (We know who those women are around here)
But all I see mostly is them grabbing the platform to “out” men and “punish” them by humiliating them. Everywhere. And all the time. Because of the way the men made them feel.
Gives me a new understanding of why not to let most women not take the platform. Seems they are mostly only interested in informing the world that they feel bad when they do. In addition to the turmoil generated by them stirring the pot, their time on the platform takes time away from focusing on other issues of importance to everybody – like raising money (from where) to rebuild (by whom) roads and bridges and dams and power plants and other things essential to the modern way of living. Women could be using their newly-established platform to raise their voices in support of the general well-being of all. Where are those women’s voices?
My previous post is not meant to diminish the impact of genuine sexual assult when it occurs. I agree that is horrible. But those interested in justice, rather than grandstanding and punishing, are those who take action in an appropriate time frame and in the proper venue when they have been sexually assulted. Those who could have, and didn’t, carry the burden of knowing they let a genuine menace to other women keep on keeping on, when they maybe could have stopped him by raising their voice in a timely manner and through the proper channels. I wonder if that thought has ever occurred to them – those who are only now protesting, publically, over something they claimed happened decades ago. Because they respond to his call to come to his bedroom. ?????
RichardP,
You didn’t need to qualify that. I don’t know any men that advocate rape. Still, Karen Straughan was called a “rape apologist” by Naomi Wolf for stating the obvious, that what made the difference between rape and sex was the absence of consent.
I think that what we will see is that, as feminists use every opportunity to bash men, men will get the message that they are not wanted and will withdraw.
Days of broken arrows, sorry about that. I will look into the missing comment tomorrow. Sometimes they go into the spam que for reasons I don’t understand. Thanks for letting me know… Stay tuned!
Hi guys, I took down the most recent post bc it needs work yet… thanks for understanding!
Bloom:
that most recent post doesn’t really need work. But it is true – you are ALL like that. All of you.
It just means you all have the propensity to be Like That. And that enough of you are Like That.
All women have it in them to be Like That.
All women are Like That sometimes.
Some women are Like That most of the time.
A few women are Like That all the time.
I ran some quick google searches to see what I could find. I found nothing. Her name hasn’t been around for the couple of months she was away from her blog.
It is hard to comment on a post that has been withdrawn. Oh well. Looking at Deti’s comment, men have to be defensive. Even then, they will get hit up beside the head by something they never thought of.
In any case, Roomie is officially gone of her own choosing with minimal drama so that in itself is a huge win for camp Bloom!
That would only have gotten worse with time. I am glad that you are relieved.
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I’m so happy for you, RPG, and I meditated on your good fortune. I’m so pleased that you have excised this problem from your life. What else should I comment on? It seems like a slow night, but my job is to type, a lot.
Please bv, comment away!
RPG,
You may want to read that again. BV wrote that to provoke me.
On the other hand here’s an interesting woman. Ran the Moab 240 in under 58 hours, ten hours faster than the next runner. I’ve hiked, slowly, part of these trails and they are bad ass!
I see, well I truly am glad Roomie bounced. And that it didn’t get ugly. I wish her well and hope she gets it figured out. Seems unlikely but one can always hope!
My former friend she’s moved in with will likely have some exciting times ahead. Probably not good exciting but if he likes a hot mess he’s got one now! Enjoy!
RPG,
How did he get to be your “former friend”? Can’t you still be friends if you wonh’t take Roomie back? Still, congratulations on ducking a bullet.
I just saw you comment over at Spawny’s and left a reply. She’ll tear the heart out of him. Then, he will go full monk mode MGTOW.
Fuzzy it’s not that I’ve completely written him off as a friend all together but a few things of happened since the relationship whatever it may be between him and roommate came to light and I asked him point-blank when did this start he was very evasive with me and he treated me like I was being super unfair to even question her or ask. I guess that didn’t sit well w me being his friend of many years that he would act like I was so out of line. He also implied I was being unfair to “poor” roomie and 100% seeing it from her pov. I guess I just felt like he’d known her for all of 10 days or something but suddenly her where it was golden and I was highly suspect and it just didn’t feel like a friend. So that’s why and when he became in my mind a former friend.
RPG,
It sounds like Roomie told him some tall tales about you and he bought into them. He’ll be your friend again when Roomie is done with him and moves on to the next victim. Forgive him. He has stars in his eyes. A man in love can move mountains. It is a shame that Roomie is going to crush him.
@ Fuzzie I would not doubt she’s made me sound awful, which makes me wonder if she has some form of bpd. But, and this is hard to explain, I have seen this guy do this too many times. And often he comes to “help” at my place but I suspect is using it as a fishing hole. I guess I am feeling kinda used at the moment, by them both. I can’t predict how I will feel later but for now I am not inclined to think I want to keep in touch. My life is complicated enough. I am kinda like Deti describes. I have infinite patience w people and hope for the best but if they take my kindness and niceness too far, it changes how I see them after that. It takes a lot to get me there. Once I am there I rarely go back. This guy got me there w our last few interactions. I’d have to go into more detail than I have time for or want to but trust me, he earned the title “former” friend w his white knight bs.
@ Fuzzie he wasn’t treating me how you treat a friend, let’s just leave it at that. Or not how I would ever treat a friend, anyway.
The older I get the less tolerant I am becoming of people who take but rarely or never give. I am kinda just over those kind of people, at long last. Thank Goodness!
And I get she’s got him by the nose but thing is she was working and using everyone. I think it really chafed on her that Dancer and I could see it. And in subtle ways called her out on it. So she can boo hoo all she wants, and he can believe it all he wants. But SHE took advantage of ME, not the other way around. I kept my deal and then some. She didn’t even work off 1/3 of what she had agreed to. So while I am glad she left on her own (after her timecard showed she was waaay short on hours toward rent) and that there wasn’t some big scene, I am still very hurt and feel quite bitter, to be honest. I’ll get over it. But I don’t like it.
i heard this song for the first time today … wow, does it not address a lot of the stuff out here! so much to pick apart in one song:
“Greatest Love Story”
(a.k.a American Love Story)
They said I was nothing but a troublemaker never up to no good
You were the perfect all American girl wouldn’t touch me even if you could
But you was sneaking out your window everynight riding shotgun in my car
We go to the river and find us a spot and probably went a little too far
Just a little too far
Cause I was gonna be your forever
You were gonna be my wife
We didn’t know any better
Didn’t have a clue about life
But I was what you wanted you were what I needed
And we could meet in between
We were gonna be the greatest love story this town had ever seen
So you went off to college and I got a job I was working that 9 to 5
Dreaming of the days when you were in my arms I’ve never felt so alive
I spent my days working, spent my nights drinking, howling at the moon
Screaming for the days when you were coming back no couldn’t come to soon
Couldn’t come to soon
When I was gonna be your forever
You were gonna be my wife
But you went off to find better
And I was learning all about life
But I was what you wanted and you were what I needed
And we could meet in between
We were gonna be the greatest love story this town had ever seen
So you came back after a long four years
Your college boyfriend didn’t work out
So we went out for a couple of drinks to find out who we are now
Sure we changed but way deep down you had the same old feelings for me
I went to the store and I bought you a ring and I got down on one knee
Got down on one knee
And I said
I’m gonna be your forever
So baby will you be my wife
Now that we know a little better
We could have a real nice life
Cause I’m what you wanted and your what I need
So let’s meet in between
We are gonna be the greatest love story this town has ever seen
We are gonna be the greatest love story this world has ever seen
So baby say yes to me
RPG,
You’re not vindictive, so I have to admit that I have made presumptions based on my own experience. I hope the friendship is salvageable. In the meanwhile, best to stay away from those two. In any event, the Roomie chapter of your life is over. Whew!
Ame,
Back at you!
Like I give a shit what some guy who can’t shut up is provoked by.
BV, can you tone it down a bit?
RPG,
Well, At least you are aware of it.
This is wonderful. Thanks for posting!