Ladies, if you want to stand out, here’s a great to-do list from a guy’s point of view. From what I have read around the manosphere, I’d say he has captured it pretty well, and some of the list may be new! Certainly not things you’ll read in women’s magazines giving dating advice. What do you think? Do any of these points surprise you? Contradict what you have been told or read is important to men? Please share in the comments!
This post outlines an easily digestible checklist for feminine qualities that score big with men. These things, plus a healthy RESPECT (which doesn’t make the list, because it is a skill, not a quality), is what makes a woman unforgettable for me, and I believe, all men as well. Unfortunately, right now in western history, irresistible, respectful women are on the brink of extinction. So here’s the ideal, lest we forget!
- Emotional maturity is the biggest asset of all. She is happy, relaxed, and emotionally stable. She knows how to maintain a good attitude at all times. She has a bubbly sense of inner joy that doesn’t change with respect to circumstances. She accepts people for who they are, and doesn’t denigrate or shit test them. She knows what she believes, what she likes, and what she wants, and she knows how to get along with people in a…
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A good list it is
Captures many aspects not typically mentioned it does
I’d say this is a good list.
And how many of those are abandoned once she gets bored.
excellent. i’ve shared it with my daughters.
Should share it with my mother. She exudes anxiety …
But I love her.
‘And how many of those are abandoned once she gets bored.’
All of them if 1 goes away. Hence why it is #1.
That’s right, Earl, and that is why #1 is the key. Emotional maturity takes faith and time to acquire, so it is not likely to disappear in a day. Women can fake most of the others on the list, but it’s hard to fake maturity, at least, not for long.
It is a good list, but I have to wonder how many women see themselves as the prize and that the boys have come up to their level.
They probably all do. However do they know what level they are?
If they are emotionally immature, selfish, bratty, nags…it’s amazing how the boys will come ‘up’ to that level too.
“‘And how many of those are abandoned once she gets bored.’
All of them if 1 goes away. Hence why it is #1.”
From personal experience, I can say that this is true. But an emotionally mature woman can become a teenage girl again, seemingly overnight, once she hits that 35-40 mid-life crisis.
@ A Dad
Because another man enters the picture?
Emotional maturity in a woman…. my 1st thought is might as try to teach my dogs how to deal cards. Got to more likely then finding a mature woman
My 2nd thought is by the time a woman achieves such a thing her smp/ mmp value is shot to hell and back
Emotional maturity is often a byproduct of experience. With life so easy today, and most struggles eliminated, maybe this explains why people aren’t growing up? It’s like they are perpetual teenagers!
For Ton this is
I think a lot of it could also be bad parenting. They don’t teach kids to control their outbursts. They either give them everything or don’t discipline them.
I was quite proud for a couple of parents I witnessed teaching their son about not pouting and having a bad attitude. Long story short we were playing disc golf and he wasn’t doing good so he started pouting and quit trying. His mom told him the equivalent of suck it up buttercup and his dad threatened to make him pay for the round if he was going to quit there. Needless to say he kept going and did better.
RPG,
I think that you have a valid point. It comes from being tested by adversity. It may also come for close observation at second hand.
That emotional maturity thing has a lot of levels but any of them are valuable. Best is when you keep your act together. Second best is when you own it when it slips. My most serious gal tended to produce a lot of drama, but she always took responsibility for it when it was her problem and often mentioned that she was thinking about how she would feel if I had done the same thing to her. She brought this kind of thing up on her own, it wasn’t because I was guilting her. That was a long time ago and I don’t believe I’ve really seen that quality since … maybe once, just a little bit.
“@ A Dad
Because another man enters the picture?”
Earl – Honestly not sure, but it would naive of me to assume that it was impossible. I have a few theories but pretty sure that they didn’t go far. I think that she probably thought she’d land her dream guy by now but clearly hasn’t, and we are about a year into it.
Ton cracking me up with that wisdom. For some reason I had a vision of those Coolidge paintings of “Dogs Playing Poker”.
@ Alec yes owning one’s stuff and apologizing when needed plus learning from it can help grow a relationship. Nobody’s perfect. Admitting that and trying to do and be better is an admirable quality!
‘I think that she probably thought she’d land her dream guy by now but clearly hasn’t, and we are about a year into it.’
Had to ask because it is often the most likely reason when a woman does a sudden change.
But the branch swinging tacit by women (going to another man while still in a committed relationship) often ends up with them alone. Getting a man’s commitment is becoming increasingly difficult for them.
Earl – I’m trying not to get too far into details but she was trying to land a guy while we were in the divorce process and it didn’t work out. Let’s just say that, among that other things, I caught on and she caught shit about it.
The branch swinging attempts are pretty obvious and they will absolutely try to do it.
She honestly seems to be pretty lonely right now, trying to reel me back in and I’m not having it. I don’t even want to be friends with her anymore. I’m far better off by keeping her far away from me.
‘She honestly seems to be pretty lonely right now, trying to reel me back in and I’m not having it. I don’t even want to be friends with her anymore. I’m far better off by keeping her far away from me.’
Good call.
A dad, I have a feeling she’ll regret that more and more as time goes on.
She honestly seems to be pretty lonely right now, trying to reel me back in and I’m not having it. I don’t even want to be friends with her anymore. I’m far better off by keeping her far away from me.
I’ve heard of this happening frequently: Divorce proceedings ensue. Wife finds out it’s not as awesome out there as she thought. The hunky millionaire handyman is not just around the corner, in fact it’s pretty slim pickings for her. She sucks it up, goes back to STBX husband, offers up enthusiastic sex with the puppy dog eyes. Husband, being quite hard up himself and accepting the devil you know beats the devil you don’t, gives in. He’s right back at square one because the relationship is dead, CPR is too late, and none of the problems between the two of them have been resolved.
Just don’t do it. Don’t root through the trash.
LOL I have a number of those dogs playing poker paintings. The Girls hate em, The Ton loves em
LOL my ex thought she was going to trade up
Best I can tell she has had one boyfriend. A 4 time convicted felon who rode a dui-cycle and stole from her.
‘ The hunky millionaire handyman is not just around the corner, in fact it’s pretty slim pickings for her. ‘
Like I said…it’ll be hard enough for young fertile women now to get a man’s commitment with their behavior, it’ll be almost impossible for the aging divorcee to do it.
@ Earl so true, but unfortunately these women are being told, “You are fearless and fabulous!” or “Any man would be crazy NOT to!” So they don’t have any sense of reality.
Yeah and Satan told Eve she wouldn’t die. There’s a lot of serpents talking to women out there.
Once you exit you exit. Period. Full stop.
Once you sign the papers you exit the plane.
Oh seperate and hang around the door and look into the heights like we did and maybe say Nah and step back inside and close the door.
But once you go to the judge or sign the document you have ejected the plane.
Ever see a sky diver get re-enter the plane?
Adad, she is gone. Done. Cease to exist as a romantic partner.
1 down, several hundred thousand, or none to go.
‘Once you exit you exit. Period. Full stop.’
That’s why women shouldn’t play their little head games to test men. If she gives him reason to hit that eject button, he’s not coming back.
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