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I’ll admit it. I can suffer from stinking thinking. And when I do, it’s a sure recipe for feeling unhaaaaapy and seeing everything in the worst possible light.
At least now I usually recognize the stinking thinking and can talk myself into a more productive space. But not so many years ago I could not. Back then how I FELT equaled THE TRUTH. Trouble was, it often wasn’t the truth but became so after I would act or make decisions based off thinking it was so.
Stinking thinking has cost me personally and professionally. Sometimes significantly so. Stinking thinking could take my very worst fears and actually make them my reality. Not good.
I used to keep the stinking thinking to myself. But the problem with that was it would then fester and grow stronger, like an infection. But I was afraid to share those thoughts for a long time, not wanting others to see my weakness and vulnerability.
Now I have a handful of trusted people who I can share with when stinking thinking occurs (no surprise, it can be worst during hormonal times.) They can then help me recognize that it’s not reality talking, it’s simply stinking thinking. During such times I try my best to be especially mindful to make sure I am eating and sleeping well, staying busy, and taking steps to focus on solutions, not dwell on problems.
I recognize also that I come from a long line of stinking thinking folks. Because it can come to me maybe more naturally than others, and because I did not have the best examples of managing it, I have to be more vigilant and watch out. I have seen the joy it has robbed from the lives of others, and I know I must consciously take steps to prevent it from doing the same to me.
If you have ever suffered from stinking thinking yourself, I invite you to join me in giving it the heave ho. Feel free to call it out, put it on notice. It’s such a freeing feeling to be able to get a handle on it mid spiral and say, “Sorry stinking thinking, not this time, I am so on to you!”
The other great thing about learning to recognize stinking thinking is that it diminishes its former power, I now know I can choose NOT to participate in its dastardly plan. I can control it, it doesn’t have to control me.
I wish I could say I have overcome stinking thinking entirely, but it would not be true. It still happens, whispering negative and destructive things here and there, but I realize now I don’t have to believe it. Maybe with time it will go away entirely, or at least fade in frequency to less often than not, then rarely, then nearly never. It’s an unfolding journey.
What do you think? Have you ever experienced stinking thinking. Please share in the comments!
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
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men “think” about the “stink”. not the same as women using their’s to think…
There is a new post at Spawny’s
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2018/02/20/its-a-trap/
@fnu mnu knu, lol I think I am following that! Funny!
oh, yeah … my therapist all those years ago would flat out tell me to get rid of my ‘stinkin thinkin’ … he didn’t pull any punches with me! i still hear that ringing in my ears cause … ahem … it’s still … maybe … perhaps … occasionally … possibly … true 😉
Just being concious of it is a huge step Ame. Funny how our minds can shape our experience and reality. Is the glass half full or half empty? It’s either, depending on how one perceives it! I have found almost every situation can be viewed in multiple ways, some helpful, some not. A constructive mindset can be cultivated. 🙂
Wisdom and truth right there, Bloom.
All women should watch this. What stinking thinking has got you.
Topic openly discussed with over 400 comments at Dalrocks.
https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2018/02/14/52521/
Basically men, even manginas are Not going to rebuild things and worse, they see thru the recent crop of girls posting “we are sorry, feminism was bad”.
Please come back is rapidly becoming a meme even outside the ‘sphere.
Bad bad sign ladies.
RPG, Great post.
Being aware of yourself gives you the opportunity to create self mastery.
Applies to both genders.
Rollo reposts the commentary from one of the boys who survived the last mass shooting.
It is heartbreaking.
A teenager, should be on the cusp of manhood, having to state this.
“In my time I’ve watched as fathers were pushed out of the home, separated from their children, and their role in society debased and devalued. Like you, I was taught male behavior was bad behavior. That I was broken and needed to be fixed. Drugs, therapy, mass socialization were required to save me from my most innate instincts—
—the need compete.
—the drive to create.
—the urge to protect.
—the desire for female affection.
Like you, I was told these instincts were not only wrong, but dangerous. That due to my Original Sin of being born a boy, I was destined to mature into a lustful monster and an oppressor of women. All this was burned into me before I even reached college, where campus policy actually assumed all men to be rapists waiting to happen.
It isn’t hard to see how we got here, to an age when America is more than willing to sacrifice its boys. To quote Fight Club, “We’re a generation of men raised by women.” And the women who raised my generation had a saying: All men are pigs. But there’s another saying those same women were enamored with and that is: The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.”
You ladies raise the children…all of them!
You did this!!
Only you can fix this!!
We tried. Society wont listen. Now we don’t care enough!!
As you keep telling us “its not your world, they are not your children”
Fine!
Then we have no moral compunction to sit back and watch.
Have at it ladies!
https://therationalmale.com/2018/02/19/good-humans/
Im prime example.
Successfully married 30 years.
Raised my two kids to self sufficiency
Cashiered by a feminist government agency
So taking my 30 years experience in a tactical management never to be used again
My ability to earn 100k to be taxed at 45% so taking away from Daddy government
Sold my farm so not feeding anyone nor keeping dying farming skills alive
Fit vet with several combat tours never to serve in reserves again
500k in cash sitting quietly never to be used for the economic engine.
I sit in my wee cottage (rent pre paid thru 2019) with me and mine
“He has withdrawn into his little land, behind borders he himself has set. Waiting for a change of days. He will not help us.”. .the council of Elrond
It takes three generations to totally change a society.
What do you truly know of your grandparents. In your gut. Not just memories?
What of your great grandparents? Your great grand parents (the 4th generation) has ZERO impact on who you are.
We are well into the second generation, starting the 3rd since the Silent Generation raised the sons who faught WWII. Their values are quaint, falling into myth.
Half the current generation was raised without men in their lives. Fathers, coaches, teachers. Thats 1.
They soon will have their children (if any). Thats 2.
Their children will have no concept of father/mother/child families.
Just as you have no concept of sulkies, ice rooms or butterchurns.
That is 3.
I was lucky. My kids were raised for a time in a four generation house. Me and mrs. Our kids to age 7. Her folks. Her grandmother.
Nana was born in the last year of the 1800s. She rode in a sulkie to school. She was a mother when she saw her first car. She saw the space shuttle.
And she told stories (remember those) to my kids sitting on her lap in her 90s.
4. Thats all it takes.
4.
I guess I was lucky to live in a small town where girls were girls and boys were boys. No demonizing of either gender. And I am 26 so the situation could have been different.
I don’t know how the situation could be fixed. There are women who don’t agree with feminists but usually they are too scared to speak up. Or they speak but nobody listens.
About the original topic: If I experience “stinking thinking” I usually check the calendar. I usually get very sad just before my period. So if it happens during that time I can just ignore the feeling since it is not based on anything real.
@rosalie yes!
This very issue is why the Red Pill and the TRP subreddit so heavily emphasize Stoicism and stoic philosophy.
One of the most damaging things about the modern progressive era and its victim mentality mindset is it doesn’t properly prepare people to deal with the real world, and 90% of that battle is a mental one.
Indeed Copperfox! Blaming others, thinking one is powerless, adopting a victim label — none of these approaches solve anything. They only perpetuate the misery.
Granted I’m not a woman so I have no clue what a menstrual cycle feels like…but is it really a major motivator for things women do that seem irrational to men?
Earl,
I think it depends on how big mood swings the woman experiences and is she aware of them. Like I said I get very sad even depressed about one day before my period. But because I’m aware of it I can just ignore the feeling.
But if a woman hasn’t noticed the mood swing pattern then maybe she might act on the feelings because she thinks the feeling is real.
I was always of the opinion women should know their bodies better like that…not only do they understand it better such as mood swings, but so do their husbands. Perhaps both wouldn’t be so quick to react rashly if they know where they are at in the month.
Problem is most girls are put on the pill and have little/no education how the hormones work and change through the month. Guys for the most part don’t have those fluctuations in hormones as long as things in the enviroment don’t mess them up (like soy)…it’s a slow decline as you get older.
“I was always of the opinion women should know their bodies better like that…not only do they understand it better such as mood swings, but so do their husbands. Perhaps both wouldn’t be so quick to react rashly if they know where they are at in the month.”
Yes, Earl that actually does help married couples to know.
Everyone is different though, some women seem to have bigger problems during that time of month that other women seem to. And sometimes it’s even their weight or diet that is affecting those symptoms.
And probably not all women have the wherewithall to understand that it’s just “that time of month” and to completely dismiss those down feelings etc.
I knew one girl in college that loved her period because it gave her a license to act out. She’d overspend, eat all the bad food she wanted, and be a little more emotional. So instead of using it as something to dismiss, there could be women who use it as an excuse and expect people to just “put up” with them during that time.
@ Earl it may be easier for outsiders to recognize than the gal herself. The hormones almost put one in an alternate reality. And if she doesn’t recognize it trying to tell her may do no good. It would be helpful for both women and their partners to chart her cycle, see if there is a pattern of behavior that otherwise makes no sense tied to it.
Also it’s like the hormones blind the gal from seeing it herself.
Of course there’s also general variety stinking thinking, both genders can get that.
‘So instead of using it as something to dismiss, there could be women who use it as an excuse and expect people to just “put up” with them during that time.’
Yeah that’s always the risk. But that’s also not an excuse to act reckless. Every woman has a period…she’s not that special.
Using it as an excuse to behave badly seems unwise.
By unwise I mean seems like a good way to make people sick and tired of your nonsense pretty darn quick. The spouse may not physically leave, but he might just check out, become indifferent, stop caring. Likewise at work, such drama can cause long term career damage.
To expect others to “just deal w her hormone spin” is not a good plan.
People refuse to see potential points of failure so they do dumb shit all the time. Example that is relevant to the red pill deal.We know second marriages are more likely to fail then 1st marriages yet folks remarry despite the odds. We also see this when folks get dumb ass degrees complete with high level of debt thinking it will be ok. It generally ain’t ok. Or you hear folks say xyz worked for me when that is not proof it will work a second time or for someone else
People tend to let their present emotions control their thinking. Life is good now so I’ll be able to over come any thing that comes up/ life will always be good or life sucks now and I will never be able to improve xyz.
The next be mistake in thinking I see is folks who confuse how something should be with how things are.
Next is folks who accpect guilt and responsibility for shit that ain’t on them but don’t see things they should take responsibility for
And that’s just everyday folks who ain’t particularly fucked in the head
Peoples thinking only gets worse from there
This is where I think Stoticsm is the key, it allows mature men to be fully aware of the shit sandwiches of life and still find joy and peace where you can
Sadly, “Stinking Thinking” has become the intellectual standard of today’s progressive culture.
I had a moment like this just a few days ago. It was spontaneous, happened purely from nowhere! It just occurs like that sometimes.