It is far more common in our culture for people to blame others, circumstances, the past, society, or other factors for their trials and tribulations than to look within.
Introspection does not mean self-blame, but rather self-examination. Many times it is our own beliefs, thought patterns, assumptions, habits, and frame of reference that offer the biggest opportunity to improve one’s life. Changing them can change everything.
Whether the issues are at work, home, or play, look within and ask if there are thing you can do, change, or be to affect positive change in your life in these areas?
Chances are in many cases you’ll find that understanding what steps you can take to improve things and doing so will get you much further than focusing on outside forces.
What do you think? Please share in the comments.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
second thing i’ve read on this topic within perhaps 30 minutes … hummm … perhaps it is time for another inventory of my life 🙂
yes … taking responsibility for our own stuff is foundational to successfully moving forward and living a healthy life.
Wise words wrought well!
The fact that I am over weight is not my fault. It is because Doritos are so tasty, and I just have to have an occasional Big Mac and my job is to sedentary. Time to sue Frito Lay, McDonald, and my employer for ruining my health.
And I can not believe that someone would be so bold as RPG is in this post; to suggest my weight issues are because of me. I feel threatened. Someone please save me from RPG and find me a safe place were I can forget the real world and make believe people like RPG do not exist. How could anyone be so cruel!
And to top off all these injustices, this dang website does not even have a sarcasm font. .
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That’s it; I’m going home.
RPG … you say that because you’ve already taken the RP … most people haven’t. And they are instead blinded by the lies they’ve been told, the garbage spewed by society, the brainwashing they’ve suffered and yes … even their own delusions. For example … as referenced … overweight, fat, obese … PIGS … actually think that men should like OBESE PIGS … because THEY HAPPEN TO BE OBESE. I know that all sounds really retarded, but unfortunately that is how society and human behavior works.
These obese women … only listen to other women. Only liberal women. Liberal women who hate men and blame male PRIVILEGE. So these obese pigs … hear FAT SHAMMING IS HORRIBLE … MEN SHOULD LIKE FAT WOMEN … BEING FAT IS OK … NOTHING IS EVER A WOMAN”S FAULT, BLAME MEN.
So that is what they do.
Breaking out of the matrix is hard. Is hard and IS HARSH. So for fatties looking at their life and expecting them to do something different … probably not gonna happen. A Red Pill girl would look at reality and throw off the brainwashing and ask serious questions and deal with real answers. Like: Men like skinny, sexy, attractive women. All men do … especially top shelf men. So … as a woman … IF I WANT A TOP SHELF GUY … I BETTER DO WHATEVER IS REQUIRED TO GET SKINNY … BECAUSE HE ISN”T GOING TO WANT AN OVERWEIGHT PIG.
That’s a harsh lesson most women will never learn. Not sure what it would take for them to take the RP. And not sure what it would take for men either … I will say that in my experience men usually do not choose to take the RP … THEY HAVE IT SHOVED DOWN THEIR THROATS. So … men are pretty much the same … would prefer to live in their delusions and believe the lies and brainwashing they’ve undergone all their lives. I think men are a little more rationale and do not care so much about a social network and acceptance like women do … but its very similar … given a choice … most men are not RP either.
I guess the its a two part question and you only addressed part #2 … evaluating your life and making changes, better choices … etc. But you missed part #1 … How to you get people to take the RP … so they can accept reality, throw off their programming and react in a rational way ?
Since #1 was never addressed, #2 will never happen. That’s how you end up with 300 lb obese pigs … blaming men … because men don’t find them attractive.
@ goFigure; HAVE YOU TRIED THIS ONE YET? IT WORKS JUST AS GOOD, BUT KINDA LOOKS LIKE YOU WOULD BE YELLING!!!!!!!!! AM I YELLING????!!!!
Question for you, Bloom. How many women have you actually met in meatspace/not online who are actually capable of introspection? I wouldn’t be surprised if you could count them all on one hand.
@go figure, this post was in no way directed at you personally. My apologies 😉
@mega, most will not take step 1, and nothing I could say could convince them anyway. This blog is meant to intercept those who have or are wanting to take step 1, as far as getting on to step 2.
Never taking step 1 may seem easier at the time but a lifetime of misery is no way to live. But many do.
I can’t save them all, in fact I can’t save any but myself and my own. I hope that someone who needs such encouragement finds these words at that time. It’s really all I can do.
I wish I could fix it all but that’s just way beyond any one person. Hopefully I help some, and like a ripple on a pond it grows far beyond.
Yes, I absolutely agree. Start to sow seeds of positivity, and you will see beautiful results. In many cases people create and escalate conflicts on their own, where it isn’t necessary. I became friends with someone who I hated, I forgave many things and I see the respond back (I have to mention that I am not talking about forgiving everything and everyone. Of course, you need to be cautious and respect yourself, in a first place!). This is my little way to change the world, share positivity and show others that it is possible. So far it has been good 🙂
Oops, above was a comment for a another post, but can’t change it now, sorry…
Either way, for this post I wanted to say that I agree. We can’t blame everything on others (it is SUPER irritating nowadays) and shame them for not loving us for our flaws. “Yes, you are all haters! You are bad!”…. Well, no… you just need to really look at yourself and think with your head….
You may not be able to control everything, but you can control a lot more than you think once you accept your own faults and weaknesses. At that point, you know how to make adjustments and improvements.
It’s so much easier to positively change your circumstances by making changes in yourself than it is to force other people to change at your demand.
Sorry RPG … didn’t mean to be a critic … we are both right. People need to do #1 and most won’t; we agree on that. And you are doing a thing to encourage women in taking the next step. There many sites that encourage men to do that but very few for women … so you are doing a great thing.
Anyway, didn’t mean to criticize. Its difficult for anyone to throw off the chains, take responsibility for your life, and make the changes necessary to make improvements. Congrats to anyone who can do that.
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the comments were good too
@ash a good friend who also happens to be a therapist once said, others are already doing all they are willing. All one can do is decide if it’s enough, or not, and respond accordingly. Anything else is the path of pain.”
You are so right, demanding others change is so much less effective/possible than making changes oneself. But it takes honestly and sometimes facing the hard reality that others don’t want the same change and there’s nothing one can do about that except choose to go along or not. But denial or trying time and again with the same outcome doesn’t change it either…
No worries Mega, I knew it wasn’t personal. The thing that’s hardest for me is seeing people refuse to take step 1, and suffer instead. But I truly believe someone has to be ready for step 2 for it to ever work. It cannot he explained, as much as I wish it could, they almost have to rock bottom w step 1 to even consider alternatives…
Glad always appreciate your insights! 🙂
@ mega I wish there was rp dust that could wake people up to the true cause of their own misery but until then, even if only a few see, even if only one reads here and sees, each one is a win. Even if nobody sees but I tried, I even see that as a win of sorts. Of course I would much rather these writings improve lives but all I can do is write, the reader must do the self work to put it into action.
People rarely make the effort to change until living as they are is more costly than making the change … b/c change is a hard, and not fun, and painful process.
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The one thing that binds all people of the Red Pill together is a rejection of the pandemic of “victim mentality” in the modern West.
Indeed you will often find people at TRP of varying political viewpoints, philosophies, and religious/moral perspectives … but the above is the core binding principle. Lift yourself up. Fix your own shit. Stop blaming others.
re:Copperfox … well said. Reminds me of one of my all time favorites … helped me take the Red Pill and make it taste a little better back in the day. Karen Straughn … she got a blog … its called “Owning your own shit”. When you take the Red Pill … that’s about what its about … accepting reality, taking responsibility and “Owning your own shit”. I got shit. You got shit. Everybody’s got shit. Its part of life. Do you own yours ? If you do … maybe you took the RP … if you don’t … you got the Blue Pill for sure and ain’t ready for what follows next.
https://owningyourshit.blogspot.com/
Thanks Karen !!!
Guess I should post this in case anyone wants to keep up with Karen or watch any of her vids: https://www.youtube.com/user/girlwriteswhat
I love Karen Straughan!!!! I can’t believe she’s been around for so long and still going strong! For women… that’s saying a lot LOL
‘ Lift yourself up. Fix your own shit. Stop blaming others.’
Repent, for the Kingdom of God is at hand.
@Mega: Yeah Karen came over and did an AMA (ask me anything) on the TRP subreddit a couple years ago. You should look it up if you have time. She’s great.
The one thing that binds all people of the Red Pill together is a rejection of the pandemic of “victim mentality” in the modern West.
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We have wildly different RP reading experiences
@SFC Ton: Oh yeah, how so? Where do you mostly do your reading?
There is a new post at Spawny’s
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2018/03/28/they-want-to-believe/
“ Lift yourself up. Fix your own shit. Stop blaming others.”
Because if you don’t, nobody else will.
It seems so obvious and yet it escapes so many….