A woman I know shared the following tale about her son and daughter in law the other day.
The couple dated for several years before getting married four years ago. A little over 18 months ago their baby girl was born.
He works for the National Guard. She is a part time nursing student and stay at home mom.
A little over a month ago, the wife revealed she was having an affair with a high school flame she reconnected with on Facebook. She told her husband she was considering a divorce.
A few days later she changed her mind and now says she wants to work on the marriage. It seems that means, “let’s pretend this never happened,” versus actually seeming to regret her affair or wanting to examine what happened. Rather than it being something big, it simply seems to be boredom.
His parents always worried about his choice, as the girl was prone to drama and conflict. The son made excuses for the behavior because of her, “tough childhood” and “parent’s nasty divorce.” She even worked very hard to win over his family before the wedding, saying how all she had ever wanted was a loving secure marriage like his parents have.
His mom and sister fear the wife is only biding her time, lining things up so she can serve him with divorce papers when the time is right.
Shes’s visiting her parents home an hour away more often these days, who also happen to live in the same area as the man she was seeing.
Of course there’s no way to know will she or won’t she pull the plug on her marriage, or if she’s continuing her affair, but it’s not looking good.
I hope she will come to her senses. I wish I could talk to her myself, warn her about what lies ahead if she persists in this foolishness. It only seems easier to start over, but it won’t be. Not even close.
If I could talk to him I would advise he take control of the situation rather than let her drive it, implement some dread and paint a good picture of what burning it all to the ground would look like if she persists.
Will they be another needless, senseless frivorce casualty? Only time will tell.
What do you think? Please share in the comments.