I bumped into my former neighbor Vixen this weekend and she got me caught up on her love life latest. Not much has changed is the short story.
As she described things, how being torn between the nice guy who is there for her and the bad boy who isn’t, I realized she is a living example of the AF/bb model.
So I explained the theory to her, that some say for most of the month women seek comfort, security, and good guy qualities. But during the ovulation window they might go for the bad boy type. And how women seem to want both, steady Eddie and Harley McBaddy.
Her eyes lit up. “Exactly!” She said. “Why can’t that be ok? Why can’t we all just be honest about it?”
It was a question I couldn’t answer, not being a guy myself, but based on what I have observed it never seems to work out that way.
Perhaps in years past women like Vixen still would have sought this dual mating strategy, but rather than try to openly live it out as women do today, they would have kept things far more covert.
And maybe there in lies the rub — in pushing for the ability to openly pursue a dual mating strategy women have in turn dismantled its underpinnings. Not that an AF/bb strategy was ever very stable but it seems it was far more so under wraps than out in the open.
And it makes sense. Why would the guys go along?
Granted, I am not saying every woman runs around three days a month. Then or now. Hardly. But even those who don’t may feel temptation stronger at certain times of the month than others, especially in her reproductive age years, and if so it’s likely this dynamic at play.
Women openly pursuing this strategy today seem to end up baby mommas. And that likely is the natural outcome.
In any case I found Vixen’s question interesting. The answers I think, are a whole lot more complex.
What do you think? Please share in the comments.