Ladies, are you marriage minded? As in, your goal of dating is to find a suitable mate and to marry, or if you are already married to be so for life?
Sometime in the 1970’s the social contract on marriage changed. It went from something that everyone involved expected to be for the long haul to something people expected to do, “until we don’t feel it” or “As long as we’re happy.” People admit to walking down the aisle knowing they can divorce if things don’t “work out.” In essence, marriage has been reduced to little more than going steady, another stop in the serial monogamy journey. This is not being marriage minded!
At the same time young women were urged to put off marriage into her 30’s. The advice is likely based on knowing young women in their late teens to early 30’s have youth and beauty on her side. If she’s married, some argued, she might “miss out” on maximizing on those assets. In reality, pairing up is much like the game of musical chairs. Over time there are fewer options left, until there are no options at all except a few broken chairs. Many women who followed this advice found sure enough, finding a man interested in marriage in the 30’s is not as easy as it would have been younger. Such women often regret not being marriage minded younger.
And finally, if one is going to marry, she should have her head on straight first about what marriage is really about. It’s about building a life, a partnership, raising a family, leaving a legacy — not something that is based on feelz and being “in love” and “always happy” and “fulfilled” and all the rest. Not that marriage can’t have those things, but they are not the rock to build it on. Understand marriage is a long game, and not every day of it will be fun, fulfilling, and exciting. Lots of it will just be regular, uneventful, maybe even boring. Get that regular, uneventful, and maybe even boring is GOOD because that means things are going ok, there is no crisis, and that’s something to be thankful for!
What do you think? Please share in the comments!
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
I had a boss ask me once when I was a high schooler if I was bored…I said yes. Never did that again.
and they’ll read and watch videos and develop an opinion…….
…….
Nothing good will come out of that shit
i glanced through the comments last night and think i remember someone stating that a married woman’s priorities should be:
1. God
2. Husband
3. Children
i think that needs to be a bit more defined in the church culture these days. women tend to skip Husband in there thinking that God is all they need, so whatever they believe God tells them, that’s what they should do.
God never ever contradicts Himself. He never changes. God tells women that their husband will rule over them in Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said,
“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”
in Exodus 20, God says, 14 “You shall not commit adultery.
God tells the woman in Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
In Ephesians 5:33 God tells wives, and the wife must respect her husband.
and in 1 Peter:3, God tells wives, Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
sooo … in order for a Christian married woman to honor God and put Him first, she MUST obey God’s commands which are clearly written in the Bible. if she ‘believes’ she’s ‘heard’ God speak to her anything that contradicts what is written in the Bible, then what she believes she heard is a lie.
and they’ll read and watch videos and develop an opinion…….
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Nothing good will come out of that shit
there’s some good literature and video out there on stuff. i do talk things over with them to force them to think outside the box on some things. but there are others … like how to do things … that are pretty difficult to screw up.
my Youngest has found some conservative youtube people she likes to watch, but she’s also very critical in her thinking and opinions 🙂
Only thing a girl needs to read is a cool book and the only opinion y’all need is your owners
lol!
well … they can read those, too 😉
Yeah but you ruined them with all that other stuff. Never going to find a buyer to take them off your hands now
lol! you may be right, Ton!
i do read them your, stuff, too … does that count?! 🙂
What you are describing is hypergamy. It isn’t always about money or status
For many it is about tingles
It is hard to avoid the topic of tingles. Years ago, I suggested that young inventors in Silicon Valley were working on a “tingle generator” in their parents garage. That would be a real , and immediate, technical achievement.
I had a boss ask me once when I was a high schooler if I was bored…I said yes. Never did that again.
So never bored you are anymore?
Sveden leads de wae… to Souf African shit hole;
the comments for this vid are gold 😉
GLA,
Thanks. It is another anecdote that people are getting fed up.
re tingles … it’s a lot more fun to be married to someone for whom you have tingles … but what women don’t get is that just b/c they’re married to one man, doesn’t mean they don’t have the propensity to have tingles for any other man … therefore, she must choose to (1) maintain her tingles for her man and (2)end/disregard quickly any tingles she gets for any other man.
somehow there’s this belief that once a woman commits to one man that she will never, ever find herself having a desire or liking or being drawn to any other man other than her one. this simply is not true. it’s not bad or wrong that it happens – only what she does with it. recognizing her desire/liking/being drawn to another man other than her one, dealing with it, and moving on and intentionally keeping herself focused on her one man is wise.
be aware of one’s weaknesses and make proactive choices to avoid them or diminish your exposure and opportunity.
for example, if you are super attracted to blond headed surfer dudes, and your boss is a blond headed surfer dude, you can’t avoid him altogether, but you can make darn sure you’re not caught alone with him, that you don’t spend any undo time with him, that you don’t allow your thoughts to ramble towards him … and if it becomes too much, quit and find another job. it’s worth it to protect your marriage, your relationship with your one man.
What happens to unmarriageable cougars….ok lionesses.
And the youtube comments are hilarious. LGTOW.
‘Years ago, I suggested that young inventors in Silicon Valley were working on a “tingle generator” in their parents garage. ‘
Yeah but once they invent it…the women will quickly get bored of it and demand a better one.
‘So never bored you are anymore?’
I’d never tell my boss that….lest he told me ‘Well to keep you from being bored here’s some heavy manual labor to do.’
There is a new post at Spawny’s
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2018/05/17/dont-expect-to-have-it-all/
Earl,
You have a point. They would soon be bored with it.
Tingles don’t last. Even if you are a major league tingle producer.
I just want to see video of what these guys build in their Silicon Valley garage demonstrated.
@GLA I heard today that over 60% of Swedes work the government, so they “need” to import migrants to do the non-government jobs…
Of course, a few months ago I also heard that there are over 100 no-go zones in Sweden where the cops refuse to patrol due to be attacked and EMS refuse to respond to calls unless they have a police escort.
I agree wholeheartedly that marriage is for the long-haul! I’m so glad that God gave me my husband and I would be absolutely foolish to ever throw that away!
Marriage is supposed to be and can be a beautiful thing. A solid relationship where two people love and support one another is what God originally intended. I think too many people are bombarded with an influx of influences that promote infidelity, selfishness, a skewed view of what love actually is, and wrong ideas of intimacy (a.k.a. porn) and this has ruined the foundation needed to build a happy marriage. 2 Timothy 3:1-5 mentions that in the last days people will be ungodly, selfish, disobedient, self-serving, have no natural affection, etc. and I see this everyday. There’s nothing wrong with being marriage minded. I think it’s natural. But somewhere along the way many of us have lost the basic qualities, values, and virtues that are necessary for a long lasting happy marriage.
Wow…..Really nice