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Regular commenter Earl said the other day, in response to a discussion about how women’s hormonal cycles can lead to some pretty poor decisions (cheating, feuding, drama, and more), some good advice to keep in mind when hormones surge:
“Not everything is about what your menstrual cycle is telling you.”
I had to laugh out loud at that one! Nailed it!
Now granted, it took me YEARS to figure this out. Not that I was cheating, but like clockwork I would find myself stewing and snappy two to three days before “Aunt Flo” arrived, and despite it happening every single month I would be caught off guard and say things I sincerely regretted a few days later when, “Duh.”
But at the time, I swore whatever I was feeling was the honest to God truth. I would even call it my, “moment of clarity!” (Cringe.) When that 24-hour or so moment struck, I swear I would have at times thrown a car across the yard if I could have managed it. I was snarly, grumpy, moody, glum, and prone to argue. Not good. Not good for me, and not good for those around me.
Now one would think it would be obvious pretty quickly, after a year or two, but no. I did not start to put two and two together until I was in my late 30’s. After nearly 20 YEARS of experiencing the same month after month.
Maybe I am just slower than most, but I would guess many women’s hormonal cycles get the better of them a few days a month. Much to their later regret. But the key is — it doesn’t have to!
That’s right, tracking your cycle is easier than ever thanks to apps, smart phones, and gizmos. If you prefer to keep your private life private, there is always the old fashioned calendar method.
Trust me, life gets a whole lot easier when one can identify, “this is probably hormones, don’t make a big deal” versus, “I hate my life and want to blow it up just ’cause!”
Now I have heard women make excuses, that they can’t help it, that they can’t control themselves, that other just have to accept it. No. This is simply not fair and is a very immature way to think. While it’s true you can’t stop or control the cycle, you CAN stop or control yourself. (Yes, you can.) Hormones are not an excuse to wreak havoc on those around you, possibly causing long term damage to your relationships — romantic, work, friends, and family.
If this sounds all too familiar, if you find yourself coming off the rails once a month, try tracking your cycle. Challenge yourself to take a deep breath when you feel off and ask yourself, “Could this be hormones?” Practice some self-control and self-mastery. You’ll be glad you did. And you’ll find it gets much easier with time.
Trust me, doing so makes life much smoother and more tranquil for you and everyone else.
What do you think? Please share in the comments.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
i was much older when i realized these things, too. no one EVER talked to me about it, and i didn’t even know to research it. of course, those days, research meant actually driving to the library and probably asking for help to find the right information – no way would i have done THAT when i was young!
sooo much easier to learn these things now with the internet. our kids have no idea 🙂
it wasn’t until i went thru infertility that i read a book explaining in detail the hormonal changes and what they look like and how to discern them that i truly understood it. i actually got that same book for my girls to read b/c it really explains things well, without a lot of verbiage, and simple, tasteful illustrations when warranted. all young girls should be taught these things in detail so they can understand what’s happening to their bodies every.single.day of the month!
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i think, though, that we kind of forget those bad pms days when they’re over … till they happen again. and therefore forget to pay attention to them – unless someone hits us over the head and tells us to pay attention. kinda like childbirth – we quickly forget the pain 🙂
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teaching/training girls in puberty as they begin their hormonal cycles.
teaching/training my aspie girl when she began hers.
i think that’s when i began seeing gray hairs! nough said (i’m sure the guys do NOT want the details!!!) 🙂
95% of the time I’m a pretty calm and emotionally stable person to be around. Certain people have a tendency to get under my skin and I might be known to have an occasional outburst of passive aggressiveness, unfiltered opinions or rude behavior. It could be my cycle, but I like to just say it’s my inner demons going for a walk outside.
wait till menopause starts. the mood swings in one direction only, and it isn’t in the good direction.
I imagine that it is difficult, when having a strong emotion, to convince oneself that it isn’t *real*, it’s just the hormones…
ye-ah. it pretty much sucks.
the thing about having regular cycles is the predictability … peri-menopause throws your body into the crazies b/c you have no clue what hormones are doing what at any given time.
yeah, it sucks.
my Husband and kids deserve medals … lots and lots of medals.
yes.
Lol Ame so true! Back in our day it was not so easy to get info like today. My oldest already has it figured out, for which I am thankful. She doesn’t spin out every 28 days!
As for forgetting the pain I think yes WE do but those subjected to the fray may not. Like bosses, spouses, friends, etc. even one hormonal moment, like at work for example, can take a long time to recover from if ever. Better to have a handle on it. Especially when entire offices of women start cycling together! Let them be the one who loses it vs you!
At fml bc I got started w having kids later in the game they will be waxing as I am waning . Scary! But actually we already have it pretty well dialed in. I hope!
@david foster, absolutely. When it is happening I would practically bet my very life on it is TRUTH. It was only w time that I saw, actually not so much… It can be very difficult to see in the thick of things though.
my aspie girl can feel things in her body most people can’t. it’s intriguing sometimes, but also frustrating. however, knowing how her hormones are changing ever day of the month and what that means in all parts of her body and mind, is very helpful for her. the biochemistry of it all. she’s very bright and often times understanding the foundational basics of something helps her deal with life better. we’ve spent a lot of time in her life breaking things all the way down and then building them back up – concepts, ideas, truths, etc. she also has an uncanny ability to analyze things across various topics to help her understand a concept.
i’ve heard that guys who slept around a lot understood womens bodies almost better than they did.
my brother would often tell me to call him if i had any questions! lol! ummm … no. but it was/is interesting what he knew/knows 🙂
Just wanna comment and just say … its kinda weird that I met my GF a couple of years after “the change”. She’s pretty stable and reasonable most times with me, which is nice. Kinda wonder what she was like before the change. Get the feeling that it probably along the lines as most women … but not as a bad. Anyway, glad I met her when I did.
And … I looked first to see what the response was to my rant the other day was. Kinda surprised it was so muted. Guess that’s ok. Thought maybe I had offended much of the user base … glad that I didn’t.
@ Mega we are not so easily offended!
I don’t hold what a man says in Drink against him,
nor what a woman does when she is having the Time.
Tell your man what is going on. After the event is fine.
A little vulnerability looks good on a woman.
Saracen you are a good soul! 🙂
I know some of my married friends who practice Natural Family Planning. Not only do they know when their wive’s fertility is best…they also found out when she was in one of her turns. The husband was much more understanding that her moods were going to be a little more foul at those times. It beats not knowing and thinking she’s in a bad mood with you for other reasons.
I get it…the times I’m most vulerable to being in a worse mood is if I’m tired and little things set me off. However I learn to try to control it and not turn something minor like not getting enough sleep into something major like having a coworker or friend pissed off at me.
Thanks to putting women on the pill most of them don’t really know how their body functions anymore. I’m all in favor of them having a better handle on what their body does during their cycles.
This cocktail of the pill and anxiety, anti-depression meds women take I think plays a part in their nuttiness in these times.
@Earl I was on the pill for most of my 20s and I think the pms was extra intense then. Hard to say if it was that or age but if I could go back in time I would not take it bc several friends my age are now going through breast cancer treatment and I wonder if it is related to taking the pill when younger?
Another thing I recently read about the pill, in early studies on mice they noticed the third generation after (the grandbaby era) had a much higher than normal instance of… gender confusion. Sound familiar? I wonder if that’s what we are seeing in humans today?
There is a new post at Spawny’s
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2018/05/19/a-different-kind-of-tingles/
https://www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/article-the-metoo-generation-gap/
“Victimhood culture differs greatly from the two other cultures with which we’re most familiar. Honour culture values reputation and bravery. People are expected to respond to insults and aggression or else lose honour. (Think duelling.) Honour culture tends to prevail where the law is not very strong and people have to take care of themselves to be safe. Dignity culture is the culture that prevails in the modern West. It values restraint, resilience and the rule of law. People are expected to ignore insults and slights and play down their misfortunes. I was shaped by dignity culture, as were my peers.
…It was inevitable that victimhood culture would creep into the #MeToo movement. That’s too bad, because I think it’s best to save our real outrage for real victims, of whom there are far too many as it is. Besides, it does women no good to carry a torch for some jerk and blame it on the patriarchy. They should just get over it. ”
In both honour and dignity culture the uncomfortable (they are not victims) immediately respond to the crude (again not attacker) and to both its over.
Everyone has hormones and moods associated. Yes menstration is a big one but there is also weather related ones, age in both sexes, seasonal changes, stress triggers.
Do guys get a pass on being pumped full of testosterone and adrenaline after a hard won game for being rowdy? In ancient times pillaging happened because captains could not control the testosterone of men who just won at deadly hand to hand combat.
Thus enter bushido and other honour codes; an honourable man most controls himself after victory in battle to protect innocents in the enemy. Chivalry (in combat) was this self control then extended to normal life as romantic chivalry to self control men when socially slighted or tempted.
Victorian propriety was a similar code for women to equally control themselves. Today it is seen as repressive. Because It Was. It repressed these emotional or sexual outbursts women don’t want (yes want, not unable to) control.
If I say yeah but chivalry and bushido is for men I am giving women a pass but being observationally realistic.
If I say women should be equally self controlling under propriety I am being rational but mean to the helpless women.
But I Chose anyway.
Which really is what it comes down to all female “I couldn’t help it, it was blah blah.”
Rationalization for behaviour they do not want to control.
Women in general, many man now CHOSE to not control themselves, yes doing nothing is a choice. Having a code just makes the choice easier.
And I call bullshit every single time I hear the “I dont know why I did that.”
What you have Alzheimers! You know 24\7\365 what you are doing, its s question of self control to overcome raw emotion, whatever the cause.
Imagine metoo now makes it an offence to even look at a slutty girl in a short skirt let alone comment on the obvious sexual display.
Is the surge of testosterone at the sight any less then menstration hormones?
But the standard metoo puts on men for self control 24\7\365!
So all this women can’t control themselves
Rationalizing Bullshit!
Imagine being FIRED, Publically shamed, Unemployable a decade from now for something you said in passing during your period.
Happens to male Pulitzer Prize winners…
“These allegations of misconduct – public rudeness, jilted lovers, and one unwanted kiss – have cost Mr. Diaz dearly. He has been branded in the public eye as a serial abuser. Mr Diaz is a Dominican-American writer who won the Pulitzer Prize in 2008. He’s now facing investigations into his conduct by his employer, MIT, and by the Pulitzer board, where he has resigned as chairman.”
So sorry if we have zero sympathy for the poor women having to control their emotions.
Bloom said
“david foster, absolutely. When it is happening I would practically bet my very life on it is TRUTH. It was only w time that I saw, actually not so much… It can be very difficult to see in the thick of things though.”
I am not saying these feelings, distortions are not real, really felt.
It is why men are colder, unemotional, detatched.
Imagine if you had the strength of a man during your period.
Imagine if the safety of your tribe depended on decisions during your period.
Imagine facing predetors during your period.
We had to control ourselves. Survival depended on it
Now we are told to get in touch with our feelings
But then who is responsible for all the bad emotional decisions.
Very few men can successfully navigate the waters of a woman’s hormonal cycle. I understand women very well (via years of experience and red-pill reality), which is why I’m able to adapt/adjust to my wife’s hormonal moods. A younger man would not be able to rise to the challenge. Moreover, a man schooled in academic equalism will also fail in this dynamic.
“Do guys get a pass on being pumped full of testosterone and adrenaline after a hard won game for being rowdy? In ancient times pillaging happened because captains could not control the testosterone of men who just won at deadly hand to hand combat.”
In a less-lethal venue, there is some evidence that stock traders who succeed at high-risk deals experience a temportary increase in testosterone levels, which drives a tendency toward further-increased risk-taking, which (if successful!) drives still-higher T level, which drives…
John Coates, a trader turned neuroscience researcher, wrote an interesting book (‘The Hour Between Dog and Wolf’) on this and other factors having to do with the embodiment of mind.
(Concerning women in the financial world, Coates dismisses the common argument that the short supply of women in trading jobs is due to their distaste for the rowdy trading-floor environment, pointing out that there are plenty of women doing well in sales positions on those very same trading floors. He suggests that women may not be as good at, or as inclined to, very-short-cycle decision-making of the kind required of traders, but are equally good or perhaps better at longer-cycle risk-taking as is required of asset managers, and cites the much higher % of women among asset management companies than among traders. (He also argues that trading skill will be of diminishing importance as this function is increasingly performed in microseconds by algorithms.))
‘several friends my age are now going through breast cancer treatment and I wonder if it is related to taking the pill when younger?’
I’d almost guarentee it. It’s meant to suppress a woman’s fertility and her breasts are part of that equation.
‘Is the surge of testosterone at the sight any less then menstration hormones?’
Glad you brought that up horseman…because I was going to go there.
I couldn’t control myself when I grabbed/sexually harrassed/raped her…I had a surge of testosterone.
I couldn’t control myself when I punched him in the face…my testosterone was through the roof.
Men don’t get a pass for saying something like that. You hurt someone and you chose to do it.
That being said I think we do have more emotional control than women do (being that they are the weaker vessel and all)…but hormones and your cycle are no excuse to be a bitch to everyone.
‘Another thing I recently read about the pill, in early studies on mice they noticed the third generation after (the grandbaby era) had a much higher than normal instance of… gender confusion. Sound familiar? I wonder if that’s what we are seeing in humans today?’
Well you pump a bunch of artifical hormones into someone it’s bound to cause significant changes.
The pill IMO was definitely the cataylst to explode feminism to the terrifying levels we see today.
I’ve been pregnant and or nursing for the past 7 years, and I just recently had my cycle return which has just been crazy. I have to continually remind myself to chill out! My hormones are finally going back to “normal” and I think I prefer the breastfeeding hormones! But yes, hormones are never an excuse foe bad behavior.
Put it this way…my foot is firmly down on any wife or daughters of mine being on the pill.
Not being on the pill that is…my foot is down.
@horseman: “And I call bullshit every single time I hear the “I dont know why I did that.”
It is not possible for one person to know everything there is to know in this world. That truth makes me humble rather than arrogant when faced with things that others experience which I have not experienced. Because they probably know something that I don’t and won’t ever know based on my first-hand experience.
A simple thought experiment: even the brightest person begins to lose inhibitions and reduced executive control over their behavior as the blood-level of certain drugs begins to rise (alcohol, etc.) That is proof positive that behavior responds to depression or stimulation of signals along specific neural pathways. Men and women both legitimately can claim “I don’t know why I did that”.
There is a part of the brain that exerts executive control over incoming stimuli to regulate the body’s response. That executive control either inhibits or stimulates the body’s response to the stimulus.
Some years ago I read a research report regarding evoked potential (can’t find it at the moment). The thing that was obvious from that research is that, in response to a stimulus, men tend to clamp down / dampend down the evoked potential; women tend to ramp it up – to the point of becoming confused / fainting.
Some argue that the only difference between men and women is that women can make babies (as though the body sytems required to enable that are only insignificant differences). Others claim that there are more differences between men and women than the ability to make babies.
Horsemen, if you believe the second of those, then you cannot legitimately argue that the executive control and evoked potential functions operate the same in men and women. Well, you can argue that, but you wouldn’t be correct.
I meant to include Hepatitis C brain fog as a third example of real situations that demonstrate the fact that behavior responds to depression or stimulation of signals along specific neural pathways – alongside the executive control and evoked potential links provided in my previous post.
My point: the brain fog that can be part of the menstrual cycle has its counterpart in other circumstances that affect mental clarity – decreased mental clarity that can lead to legitimate expressions of “I don’t know why I did that”.
Just let everyone be who they are but be responsible foir the choices and associated outcomes.
1. I can’t control my x.
fine, admit you have no agency and therefore submit to the decisions of those that do.
2. I am a strong independent X.
Fine, then enjoy the fruits of your x but don’t expect help when your x is lacking.
3. I need to share my x with someone.
Fine, then expect to give up some of yours and accept their individual need of it.
4. It was the x
Fine, it is a force in the world and adjust to avoid it or adapt to its influence.
5. I don’t need no x
Fine, then don’t bitch when x disappears or fails to respond
6. I need to have x in my life
Fine, then admit x or those with x have power over you and bow accordingly
X could be green, left handed, latvian shoelaces.
It doesn’t matter.
Choice:outcome, action:reaction, decision:responsibility.
Just own it. Honestly.
Richard
Agreed
Either adapt alternatives to overcome or avoid situations that are affected.
Why pilots have checklists even after extensive training.
“You will not rise to the occassion, you will default to your level of traning.”
And why I am against women in combat roles.
The biological difficulty of them seperating emotion from action.
The drill instructor court marshalled for making a female recruit cry in bayonet drill.
Think about it.
Bayonet drill.
To get you emotionally, physically ready to KILL hand to hand with an edged weapon. To be close enough to see their eyes as you Take Their Life.
The training of last resort. If you ever need it you either win Or YOU DIE.
Damn straight she cried. And a number of men too if the T.O. was any good.
You dont get more intimate, intense than that.
The training is to overcome that emotion, channel it, use it, and do what is needed.
Similairly cops, firefighters, ATCs
If you cannot detatch, control the emotion normal people would have, then you are useless and fail the training.
Sully on being afraid ditching in the Hudson.
“We didn’t have time for fear.”
@horseman…
That’s a male privilege. I don’t want women to be like that. They have what they have to be helpers, supporters, and nuturers.
What’s the spirit of the bayonet?
To kill, Kill, KILL without mercy drill sergeant!!!!!!
@Bloom, when I was studying biology for my undergrad I took several human reproductive courses. In one of them, this was back in 2009, it dawned on me that the excess estrogen can cause cancer – which was already proven, although never linked to taking those hormones for birth control.
I brought it up in class, and the professor kind of freaked out on me and defended the birth control pill as “not able to do that… just no!” But it always stuck with me as something that probably needed more research.
i think the more we find out about birth control pills, the scarier they get. i was on them the first two years of my first marriage. they made me sicker than anything, but i so didn’t want to get pregnant at 21. i finally got so sick i had to get off of them; i could hardly hold myself up.
i think it’s scary all the hormones and chemicals they’re putting into food, too, that alter us in ways we’re not aware.
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from what i’ve read and heard, it used to be that women cared for each other and taught one another about being a woman, including all these hormonal changes. i have no clue b/c neither of my grandmothers nor my mother were at all ‘motherly’ or ‘caring’ or ‘helpful,’ and none of the three passed down or onto me or my sisters anything remotely helpful when it came to being a woman or a wife or a mother or our bodies and health, and certainly not anything related to cycles.
i think, too, in feminism’s desire for women to be like men … in taking the pill … all denying a woman’s body as it was created and designed, we’ve made it all a negative thing rather than something to be celebrated – not as in women are better, but as in it’s beautiful how we were created, and we should enjoy who we are rather than trying to deny our femininity and try to be like men or whatever other gender thing they’re coming up with these days.
Biology is biology, I get it. However, it really yanks my chain when people try to excuse behaviour by saying “it’s my hormones” “it’s that time of the month” or “I’m a guy, what can I say”. Humans aren’t animals and we aren’t ruled by emotionsor physical responses. We do have the ability to reason.
That means women, in the PMS cycle, have the ability to recognize the urge toward a specific emotion and fight it.
That means women, in the throes of tingles, have the ability to recognize the urge and recognize tingles aren’t a long term thing.
That means men, when seeing a pretty girl, can recognize the urges for what they are and manage the emotion, or physical urge.
Just my two cents. Own your reactions and decisions.
https://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/love-sex/102541999/dating-frustration-the-men-who-ask-no-questions
“Ultimately, it boils down to curiosity. If you are genuinely interested in another person, then you will be curious about who they are and what makes them tick. And if you’re not curious, then you’re not interested in them in a meaningful way, though you may be happy to take them home for a night or a few.’
Women are waking up to the fact that more and more…
The average guy you meet, really isn’t interested in getting to know you at all!!
And its not just disinterest,
if I…
Ask about your job, am I a chauvanist
Ask about your dress, am I a rapist
Ask about your family, am I a racist.
Better not to bother asking….
Earl-
Agree wholeheartedly about the pill issue. Pill = bad. Don’t go on it. Keep everyone you know off of it.
Instead, remove the reason for the pill. If you aren’t married, don’t be in a procreation position. If you are, consider the blessing children can be and put yourself in the right place.
The pill is not a good thing.
Yes Earl. I found the idea that my taking the pull could lead to my grandkids being affected in any way (not just gender confusion, but in any way) to be a truly terrifying thought
@wordsofgold, very interesting that is to a degree you notice it! But now that you mention it, I was very even keeled during both my pregnancies and while nursing, too! I never though hormones might be the reason! 🙂
@stephanie interesting… I think increased risk of breast cancer may be in the fine print of potential side effects even, along w blood clots, thrombosis, stroke, and other not good things…
So true Ame re embracing our femininity as beautiful. And now that you mention that, isn’t it ironic that feminism both says men are ebul and yet women should strive to be more like them?!? The ebul fem-patriarchy?!?! Lol.
Delusion at its finest, Bloom ☺
The men who ask no questions…….
Could it be women are just boring as hell unless they are nekkid and lubed up?
L.O.L.!!!
They think the patriarchy is evil because of the authority it has…authority they want.
But sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken. Cutting your hair off, getting tats, cursing, ballooning up (being fatter does not make you look stronger), oppressing your fertility, and trying to act like what you think a man acts does not make you a man.
The pill from the research I read…is basically putting in artifical hormones into your body to trick it into thinking it’s pregnant. So you get all the great joys of pregnancy without ever actually giving birth. That must be real fun and ironic. Avoiding pregnancy by making your body think it’s pregnant. At least women off the pill get a break from all that when they give birth.
So as such you get things like your brain shrinking (just like pregnancy), sickness, and it affects your choice of mate because it affects your sense of smell. You tend to choose the man you would be attracted to when pregnant (the so called ‘beta’)…not the man you’d be attracted to during ovulation (the so called ‘alpha’). So if a woman is on the pill and attracted to me (to this point I’ve never had this confirmed)…that’s not a good sign for me.
The average guy you meet, really isn’t interested in getting to know you at all!!
From where I stand, maybe 10% of the female population 18-35, is a 6 or better. 35-45, ~5%. Out of those tiny minorities, ~80-90% are just your garden-variety basic bitches, so there just isn’t any “there” there to be all that interested in.
Which is not to say that the majority of men are bad-ass, rockstar, James Bond balls-of-fire, but they are plenty good enough for what women are actually offering themselves.
LOL
‘Women are waking up to the fact that more and more…
The average guy you meet, really isn’t interested in getting to know you at all!!’
Probably because they have as many red flags as Markel that getting to know them makes a sane man run for the exit.
‘From where I stand, maybe 10% of the female population 18-35, is a 6 or better. ‘
And from where I stand the easiest way a woman can be a 6 or better in that age range is to not be obese. On top of that stay away from the tats, the clown colored hair, the odd piercings and you know look like a woman…I’d give you at minimum a 6.
And from where I stand the easiest way a woman can be a 6 or better in that age range is to not be obese. On top of that stay away from the tats, the clown colored hair, the odd piercings and you know look like a woman…I’d give you at minimum a 6.
See, its just not that difficult ladies. Being fat is a CHOICE. Tats and clown hair are choices. It doesn’t “just happen”. You can choose to be at an attractive weight, keep your skin un-blemished, and your hair a natural color, and then YOU would be in the top 10%, and actually might have shot at a decent guy.
“Roman Lance wifey”
Awwwww is this who I think it is?!?!?
Roman Lance’s WIFE!?!?
Awwwww, so nice to virtually “meet” you and hear your point of view!
Sending you virtual flowers!!!!!
“So as such you get things like your brain shrinking (just like pregnancy), sickness, and it affects your choice of mate because it affects your sense of smell. You tend to choose the man you would be attracted to when pregnant (the so called ‘beta’)…not the man you’d be attracted to during ovulation (the so called ‘alpha’). So if a woman is on the pill and attracted to me (to this point I’ve never had this confirmed)…that’s not a good sign for me.”
^^This does make a lot of sense!
@stephanie when laid out it really doesn’t make a lot of sense. But when women are young there can be a tendency to not take a long range view? Plus it’s so heavily pushed it’s like NOT being on bc pills is cray cray!
Stephanie
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May 20, 2018 at 6:15 pm
“Roman Lance wifey”
Awwwww is this who I think it is?!?!?
Roman Lance’s WIFE!?!?
Awwwww, so nice to virtually “meet” you and hear your point of view!
–Yup. I don’t often get on anywhere and post, but was feeling the love. 🙂
Welcome Wifey! Happy to have you join us 🙂
It’s not a privilege to have a menstrual cycle, but it is a privilege to blame every poor decision you make on it. A lot of women think they can say something awful and chalk it up to their period, but that’s flawed thinking, and so annoying. I think it’s one reason why guys don’t take periods seriously.
I remember when I was a kid I would get a little upset before my period and people would outright accuse me of being on my period. And then they thought, “It’s okay.” No, no it isn’t! If someone is being snappy, don’t suffer it. I think we teach a lot of young girls that it is okay to be snappy because of hormones instead of dealing with it, and that’s bad. That’s how you make bad decisions and justify it on your menstrual cycle.