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And I mean that’s in an extreme culture of Patriarchy, and where abuse is allowed, and even then, within that kind of frame, they want to kill each other.
Granted maybe it’s because their culture is so violent anyway. I don’t know.
“Granted maybe it’s because their culture is so violent anyway. I don’t know.”
Agreed, Stephanie, you don’t know. “their culture is so violent anyway”; on what basis or fact do you justify this statement?
Stephanie, I lived and worked in the middle east for many years so I think I know something about the culture of the people. Unfortunately, the vast majority of men do not have, OR WANT, multiple wives. Many would like to be rid of the ones they are stuck with!
If you are trying to paint a whole culture as naturally violent, just take a quick glance at the oh-so-much-better-and-civilized West. Pot, meet Kettle. Kettle, meet Pot.
Stephanie – i’m always a bit skeptical about using cultures that do not follow God as realistic examples of what a situation would look like if practiced with a biblical mindset/worldview.
though i’ve read about others who live in poly families with a biblical mindset/worldview, the only real poly relationship i know of is Ton’s, and from what he shares, his family is nothing like what we read from the middle east.
so … i’m not saying that all polygyny families living in a biblical mindset/worldview would be perfect and rainbows, but i wonder if they wouldn’t be more desirable overall? idk.
Best I can tell hajjis are very beta about running there house holds.
I know that doesn’t make sense but mostly they do the extreme stuff because they don’t rule over their familes with any kind of frame. They do it girl tactics and want not
Ton – this makes sense to me. this describes my first husband. it seems when one does not take the authority given them and develop and maintain their frame, they are reactive rather than proactive, which can cause all sorts of sordid behavior.
And mostly what I see is hajjis leading with their wallet. Do this or I won’t….. fill in the blank. A poor hajjis will say not feed her, a rich hajji will say not buy you a new necklace
Their social dynamics are just plain fucked
To help Stephanie’s argument, the Chinese ideogram for trouble is two women under the same roof. My guess is that polygamy across cultures has the same drawbacks. It can only make sense when a significant number of women would not be married because there are not enough men to go around. Socially, it is not good to force celibacy on either sex.
I’d rather have one God fearing woman than two to 700 Jezebels.
The more women you bring into the fold the higher chances one of them will be a Jezebel.
when a man cannot manage his woman/women, he must resort to manipulation in some form to try to save face. my husband didn’t beat me physically, but he was a master of mental, verbal, emotional, spiritual, and other forms of manipulation more subtle and difficult to articulate. and if he didn’t like what i did, i ‘paid’ for it, dearly.
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and if a man cannot manage one woman well, he sure as heck can’t manage multiple women well. perhaps that’s why we see so many reckless teenage girls whose fathers don’t step in and tell them no? the fathers likely aren’t managing the wife, so the wife is ruling the roost and the daughter has no fear of her father?
“the fathers likely aren’t managing the wife, so the wife is ruling the roost and the daughter has no fear of her father”
And so here we are again … back at the beginning … the same place we started. Its all men’s fault for not managing their women. When society and the legal system is 100% against men doing it. Attempt to manage your woman and you can end up broke or in jail … any time she wants it. You are bargaining your life that she doesn’t do it. And who wants take that risk ????
Ame and Stephanie … have you learned ANYTHING from #metoo ? A woman can wake up 40 years later decided she didn’t really want to have sex … accuse the man with rape with absolute no evidence whatsoever … and the man is convicted … i.e. Cosby who is wealthy and can avoid the best lawyers on the planet. The average man has NO CHANCE. That’s why divorce rape happens to almost all men. All men. Read that again … ALL MEN. You get married and you will end up like EVERY OTHER MAN … DIVORCE RAPED. All she has to do is say the word and your life goes up in flames.
So how in god’s name … can you expect men to … “man up” and do what it takes to manage women ? Any man who tries is a fool. Why can’t you understand that ?
This is not a man problem … IT IS A WOMAN PROBLEM AND A SOCIETY PROBLEM. It is a problem only woman and society can fix. Not men. Men don’t see women as the enemy … just like they don’t see their own children as an enemy. Enough women DO AND HAVE CONSIDERED MEN AS THE ENEMY FOR DECADES AND HAVE MORPHED THE LEGAL SYSTEM INTO A WEAPON AIMED AT MEN.
What is it you can’t understand about that ? Women created this problem. Women need to fix it.
IndeecStephanie, in Chinese culture this was common too. The movie “Raise the Red Lantern” is really good and covers this poly dynamic… somewhat.
Mrg,
This may be a bit like a plumbing problem, at least as women see it. While they created it, it is left for men to repair. I had a terrible thought as to what kind of a fix women might come up with. It is hard to imagine a situation made worse for men. For now, I would be happy if they came to realize, like the proverbial bad guest, that they had really “screwed the pooch”.
Most men are doing worse then miss-managing their women folk
Most men are actively encouraging women to go feral. Ex Recently the collective we were talking about college. When my daughter graduated high school I refused to pay for college unless she stayed local and lived with me or her mother. I also refused to pay for any stupid classes or degree programs and I refused to pay unless she applied for 100 scholarships/ grants etc.
So called conservative and anti feminist mem/ women around us thought I was literally worse then hitler.
“going feral” – Ton, I like it. Your story reminds me of what happened at the Pool party last weekend when the soy-boy tried to get the 12 yr old girl to dress appropriately. Over-ruled by a mob of women. No men around. And if there had been men around … they’d have been neutered anyway … and probably wouldn’t have stuck up for him anyway … as you said “worse than hitler” … for men wanting responsibility, decency, accountability. So, today, women get to make the rules and the rules are … women get to do whatever they want … which means … go feral … like an animal.
In all of human history, this interaction would have gone something like this. MAN: woman … take your kid up to her room and don’t bring her back until she’s dressed appropriately. The woman would comply because she knew she must. If she didn’t she’d get told once again more firmly and if she didn’t comply then … she’d get smacked upside the head. If she fought back, she’d have gotten punched in the face and knocked unconscious, dragged by the hair to her room, the hysterical child would have been forced to change, and the woman would have been disrobed and dragged back to pool party naked. When she awoke … she would have learned her lesson, and be allowed to go get dressed. Would probably not come back, in shame. And she would never do something like that again. The girl would have learned a lesson too … the man is in control and the mother isn’t and neither is the child. Neither would have questioned the man again. He leads and sets the rules, they get to follow. All would be far better off because the rules are known and understood by everyone.
Now … we have powerless men and feral women running amuck.
Because, in today’s society, every one of these acts is now illegal. Verbal abuse, assault, domestic violence, even child abuse for forcing the child to change and witnessing the mother get humiliated. Each would result in severe penalties on the man and nothing but cash and prizes for the woman … while the man is in prison, she’ll divorce him, get custody of the kid, have the court order the man support the child and while jail he can’t … so the child support stacks up until he gets out. And he can’t repay it when he gets out … because nobody while hire him because he’s now a felon and on the sex offender list.
Why would any man try to set rules and enforce them ? Yes, it is in our nature and our job to do … not women. But with NO REWARDS and SEVERE CONSEQUENCES … why the hell would any man take that risk ? So men haven’t. For decades.
Most men under the age of 30 have never seen a real man. Don’t know how a man is supposed to act. All they know is they are powerless, get treated like shit by everyone, all day, every day and they don’t like it. And there is nothing they can do about it. Its why we end up with school shootings. Fucked up in the head boys and young men. All they know is they are tired of getting shit on, want to end it, and want to cause as much pain on those they blame for it … as they can … before they move on.
Ladies … you created this problem … its on you to fix it. Men are only reacting to the hand they’ve been dealt. For example, when soy-boy wanted the girl to change … every woman around should have backed him. They didn’t. And even when some women … like Suzanne Venker try to tell women what they are doing wrong and how to fix it. Women REFUSE TO FOLLOW.
I want to follow with an example that is relevant today. That of Tommy Robinson … which illustrates why MEN REFUSE TO LEAD.
In case you don’t know the Tommy Robinson affair … in summary he is an activist and independent journalist. He isn’t perfect by any means; no man is and no woman either … even if she has the magic vagina and thinks she does. She isn’t. Anyway, like all men … Tommy is protective of women and children. That is men’s role. We don’t hate women. We love women and children and want to protect them.
So Tommy was helping expose a tremendous evil going on around the UK. Gangs of Muslim men … who were coercing and grooming young white girls to be sex slaves. Actual, real … human trafficking of the worst sort; forcing young girls into prostitution. A bunch of Muslims got arrested for this (after decades of doing it) and the government was trying to prevent people from knowing what was going on because they feared a backlash against the Muslim community. Yeah think ???
For supporting women and children and trying to make the public aware of what has been going on around them … for that … Tommy Robinson got arrested and put in jail for 13 months.
A real man. Acting like as a real man does. Standing up for women. Doing the right thing. Standing for decency and honesty and the truth. And like ALL MEN IN OUR SOCIETY TODAY … HE GETS HIS LIFE DESTROYED.
So where the fuck are all the women, supporting Tommy ? Why aren’t there thousands of women outside the courthouse protesting ??? And outside the jail where he is being held ??? Protesting in the streets about the gag-order the judges ordered to try and keep the public from knowing what’s going on ???
WHERE ARE THE WOMEN STANDING UP FOR MEN … WHEN MEN CHOOSE TO LEAD ???
There are none. That’s where they are. Women don’t give a shit about men; except what they can get from them.
That’s the problem. The problem is women. And their behavior. It ain’t men. And men didn’t create this situation, women did.
Women … this whole mess is on you. You wanted freedom, you wanted equality, you wanted to tear down the old rules and make them favorable to you. Well you did. You didn’t make up any new rules, did you ? The only rules were … you could do whatever the fuck you wanted and never be held accountable for anything. And anything men did to rein you in … was made illegal.
And then you wonder why men don’t lead. And blame them when they don’t. Cry me a river. Its no wonder the marriage rate has plummeted, the birth rate has plummeted, and the men have checked out and gone MGTOW.
Mega,
He never got any support from any of the women, it must be the herd instinct. As for the feminine imperative, maximum permissiveness for women and maximum restraint of men. Was that incident a good example?
As for reaction to Tommy’s imprisonment, there is to be a demonstration June 9th. A lot of people are pretty mad. Let’s hope it will be well attended.
Fuzzie, there were some women who supported him but I don’t know… the “silent majority” at least here in the US, they aren’t really the kinds to go protesting in the streets. Not that he doesn’t deserve that.
But women, if they’re married, usually follow their husbands’ leading on political stuff (not talking about the feminist women, but more the anti-feminists these days). They aren’t out there going to protests and trying to fight in that way. It doesn’t mean they’re not fighting, it’s just not in ways that are so obvious because 1) it could get their own husbands put in jail or fired from their jobs, and then where would they be, and 2) it’s just more dangerous physically for women to act like men and start a culture war physically.
“When my daughter graduated high school I refused to pay for college unless she stayed local and lived with me or her mother. I also refused to pay for any stupid classes or degree programs and I refused to pay unless she applied for 100 scholarships/ grants etc.”
That’s almost exactly what my parents did 🙂 except for the “100 scholarships/grants” thing. But they would not financially support me going away. I had to live at home and go to a university nearby.
For whatever reason my daughter was in princess mode over college so I crushed that shit. Apply for all those grants etc was part of crushing her shit test.
Hey Stephanie, got a question for you. You posted last night a cute little gif … dancing on men’s graves and blaming everything on men. MEN AIN”T MANAGING THEIR WOMEN … SO ITS ALL MEN’S FAULT.
So I point out you’re wrong. It ain’t men at all. Its women. Women created this mess. And its women’s responsibility to fix it. It ain’t men’s fault at all … for creating it or fixing it. In fact … given the situation … MEN CAN”T FIX IT. And shouldn’t even try. Cause the odds of success are minimal and penalties for failure or even trying are extreme. So why try ? Why should men even try ? So they don’t of course. Its why so many men check out and give up … it only makes sense. Made sense for most of the last 30 years … which is how we got here.
So I point out you’re wrong. And give reasons. And use logic. And examples and antidotes … and you completely ignore everything. You’ll respond to Fuzzie. And you’ll respond to Ton. But not to me.
The one dude who tells you truth and calls you out on the lies. That’s the one dude … me … who you ignore. Why ?
Because you’ll have to take responsibility for the mess that you and other women have created ? And you’ll have to take responsibility for sitting on your lazy ass and refusing to do anything about it ? Sit on your ass and blame men. While millions of men are ruined and enslaved and thrown into jail. And while our families and communities collapse ? Children get raised without fathers. Whole societies collapse really … all of western civilization … thousands of years of history and the most successful culture and technology ever invented is going to be flushed down the toilet because lazy cunts like you refuse to do your job. Refuse to do a fucking thing. Sit on your ass. Do nothing. And claim your privilege for being born with a vagina. That about right ? Yeah. I thought so.
How about this instead. Accept responsibility for what your fellow women created. Stop participating in the lies and stop blaming men. And start doing something to help the situation. Yes that means getting off your ass and actually doing something. And even worse it means being culled from the female herd and telling the rest of the herd they are headed in the wrong direction. Unlike men … you won’t be arrested and thrown into jail. You may get ignored by your fellow women … but you got a better shot at making a difference than men do and you have none of the risks.
‘ While they created it, it is left for men to repair.’
How can men repair it if everything they do to try and repair it is considered illegal or abusive? That’s what Mega is saying.
Women created the leaky pipe and then get the state involved to throw the man out when he tries to fix the pipe. Now she’s alone in a water filled house.
I know everytime I tip toe into stating something a woman is doing is wrong…women are the ones who give me backlash. It’s a rock and hard place scenerio.
Either you point out why going feral is wrong and they’ll slam you or you let them be feral and they’ll slam you. Now I think the first option is better for a man to be because that shows leadership…however you aren’t going to be rewarded anymore by displaying leadership skills because they are now deemed ‘abusive’ by the herd.
If women don’t want a leader to prevent them from going down the wrong path and want their feral instincts rewarded…then that’s the path they are going to take.
If I had the power to do so…I could fix this leaky pipe of society real fast.
1) Ban contraception/abortion
2) Strike No-Fault Down…get rid of it completely
3) Repeal Wimminz Suffrage
I’d be thrown in jail and called all sorts of insult terms if I ran on that platform.
All you need to do is repeal domestic violence laws. Bring back the pimp hand and everything else will fall into place
Mega – Ame and Stephanie … have you learned ANYTHING from #metoo ?
i find it interesting that some out here still think Stephanie and i, and sometimes Bloom, do not support men, do support the metoo movement, and totally don’t ‘get’ what y’all are sharing.
i also find it interesting that some out here don’t understand why we respond with respect to men like Ton.
Ton, and men like him, do not blatantly lump all of us together and tell us how stupid we are. rather, they call us out on our BS, correct us when we’re wrong, and support us when we get it right.
we are not hiding in our own little worlds. we are speaking the Truth. each of us write often about the truth out there … against the current of culture that tells us we don’t have to honor or respect men. but we do it anyway because we know it’s right. we honor and respect not only our own men, but all men, anyway because we know it’s right – even when we don’t want to.
we have never purported to know it all or to have all the answers. we have remained teachable and willing to learn, and we have adapted and adjusted our lives accordingly.
For whatever reason my daughter was in princess mode over college so I crushed that shit. Apply for all those grants etc was part of crushing her shit test.
and she is super blessed to have a Daddy who recognized that and taught her through it rather than giving into her or letting her wander without direction.
Yeah I’d add that too…or at least revamp it from what it is now. What is considered domestic violence in the law is way too vague that it’s basic intent is to undermine the husband’s authority.
Making a woman feel bad because you yelled at her is not emotional abuse and domestic violence.
I want more women to start voicing being against feminism and what it is all about. Start preaching the Gospel, Jesus, and what Scripture says the roles should be…and don’t back down when the harpies start with their delusions. There are some out there and I fully support them. But that’s the truth and people who stand up for it are going to face persecution because it is hated in the world.
5:30 in why men cannot fix this. Whole thing is brilliant
And we can rebuild society by……
Men don’t want to build that bridge women burnt down because many women still have contempt for men and they’d just burn it down again.
And the main catalyst is no-fault. Too many men have either experienced, seen, or heard what happens when a man is thrown into the grinder because she isn’t happy being married anymore and gets rewarded from the treasonous state for burning the bridge. Nothing gets fixed until no fault is out and off the table.
Horseman at 12:33am,
More feminism is not going pull up the birthrate. Feminism is the reason it is falling through the floor.It is hard to believe how deep the hive mind has infiltrated, and what people will buy.
As for men fixing this, one of the significant things that has changed is that feminism has made wise women relinquish control of the herd. It is not for men to fix. Since women won’t do it, and men can’t do it, it will crash and crash hard.
I remember a post about doubling down.
That’s all feminists know.
‘Want more babies…become feminists…we’ll sex you all the time then’ I think they tried that bit with prohibition too.
A new post at Spawny’s there is
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2018/06/02/red-pill-movie-review-soylo-a-star-wars-story/
I want more women to start voicing being against feminism and what it is all about. Start preaching the Gospel, Jesus, and what Scripture says the roles should be…and don’t back down when the harpies start with their….
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Talk about wanting fried ice.
but … but … how about fried ice cream?!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Profiterole? One of the great mysteries of the world. How do they bake the pastry around the ice cream without it melting away? Please don’t tell me. Let it forever remain a mystery. Yum!!!
Fuzzie Bear – it IS yummy!!! especially when they make it with cinnamon ice cream 🙂
Mocha ice cream with whipped cream and chocolate sauce. My favorite!
YUM!!!
‘Talk about wanting fried ice.’
Wanting fried ice is wanting them to do that and be a feminist.
LOL they are all feminist Earl. They are all rebellious. Hell Eve wasn’t satisfied and she had the best deal in the history of mankind. Or at least until Christ came around. Not sure where I stand on that bit of theology but my point stands
Poly…. last night The Girls started aruging over something stupid. I painted both of their back porches red for disturbing the peace here at Camp Ton Coastal.
From what I have seen in hajji land, some hajji dude would have picked a favorite and tried to pull of some Machiavellian power play. You can’t play favotires like that and besides, my Lady Pit is my favorite
I’ve heard that’s effective 😉 … is it something you have to do often? I would think the longer y’all are together the less frequent?
Yesterday I was talking w a gal I know is quite liberal. Her older daughter (16) wants to be a SAHM. That led to a discussion how it’s best to do babies young and then career later and I was shocked bc she totally agreed!
@mega observing that men’s hands are tied and that when we women want men to “do something about this mess” we often don’t understand how men are dammed if they do. But please, no personal insults. Let’s keep the discussions in general, not directed at anyone personally. K?
Men and women WILL sort this out. Like different species in a complex ecology we will learn how to exist in the same landscape without having to fight over how we access its resources. I suspect that the current problem of 3d wave feminism fighting for dominance, rather than equality, only occurred because MEN started slipping away from the traditional masculine qualities; rationality, objectivity, stoicism and physical strength. If the definition of a man became reduced then it is not surprising that women would choose to compete; the ecological niche seemed open to colonization and they were as fit as the flabby, petty, whiny, emotional men.
Men naturally have particular strengths but we used those strengths to make the world comfortable enough so that we could began to lose them. We need only reclaim what has been traditionally ours; our competence, logic, fairness, physical fitness, morality and resolve, and wait; though how long is an open question. Eventually, a crisis will occur, that last 5% of civilization will fall away and things will straighten out.
“Let’s keep the discussions in general, not directed at anyone personally. K?”
Nope.
Stephanie can get some big girl panties. And so can Ame. I didn’t attack either one of them. I pointed out to Stephane that she was wrong. Men didn’t create this problem. And men can’t fix it. And blaming men doesn’t do her or women or men or society or anyone any good. If she wants to make a difference she should get off her ass and start talking to women, getting them to change and quit blaming men. That’s not a personal attack. Its treating someone like an adult. If she doesn’t like being called out when she’s wrong … then she can grow the hell up or go back to her own blog where people can kiss her ass and if they don’t suck up to her … she can ban them. Live in her own little personal validation bubble where she’s always right. In the real world … sometimes people are told they’re wrong.
Bloom … I will say this … its called the Red Pill and it doesn’t taste very good going down. In fact, most men practically puke when they take it … but they didn’t have a choice … it was shoved down their throat by a divorce court judge. For women, its different … really not sure how they come to take it. Its hard and yucky and distasteful … who wants to learn that pretty much everything they’ve been taught since they day they were born … was wrong. They were fed lies and the truth is … that what they were doing was wrong and they didn’t even know it. Wanna know who takes the Red Pill voluntarily … pretty much nobody does, that’s who. That’s why I have a lot of respect for women like you. And Suzanne Venker who I referred to earlier. Or Karen Straughan. Women who take the Red Pill understand what it means and use that knowledge to try and teach other women the truth. What brought you to the Pill, I do not know. But I respect the hell out of you for taking it and trying to do what’s right.
Anyway, if Stephanie wants to deny the truth and call that a personal attack … then she needs to be told to grow the hell up … by you. You shouldn’t be telling me to cut it out. If that’s what you want … for men to shut the hell up and defend women, even when they are wrong …. then I’ll just quit posting here.
As for Ame, she and I have had our differences … she recently accused me of treating all women as if they are stupid. I don’t. What I do is treat them exactly the same as I treat men. Awhile back Ton and I had our differences … and I called him out … just like I did Stephanie. If people act out and do stupid things I’ll call them on what they did. I don’t care if they have a vagina or not. I’m not going to stop being me. If you don’t want me to post here anymore … just say so.
Mega
It almost never happens Ame, but we have a lot going on and I habe been remiss in my duties
i kinda see it like parenting. we keep our kids corralled, but every once in awhile things get away from use, and we have to straighten it back out again – let them know we’re in charge, and we mean business. or at least that’s how it feels and looks from my pov as a woman 😉
for the love of the music 😉
Yeah that how it goes. The sooner a man understands women are basically children the sooner he can deal with them in the correct manner
Which starts with initial contact. One of the best ways to flirt with girls is to play stupid kid games from back when you were 8 years old. Don’t let the step o cracks, play not it, say they have cooties etc etc
I’d bang them bitches
Ton … would you bang this ?
The chick in the video has been blind since 3 months old and been playing keyboards since the age of 2 1/2. According to her wikipedia … she plays all kinds of music … all written by men. Anyway, wish there could have been vocals to go along with it … but she did manage to play it very well.
Chick looks a lot like a my GF, in case anyone cares.
The original song along with the vocals …. wanna hear the emotion the song was meant to carry ? Its here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xr4Zi_BQZeI
2 yrs ago, Keith Emerson who wrote this song … at the age of 71 blew his brains out. He was to play an extended tour of Japan and due to nerve damage … could no longer even play his own music. And he could not live with that. He played over 50 yrs until he could no longer go on.
Ame, maybe you’ll appreciate the vid I posted. If not … Ton’s got a club and a cave to live in.
And, no, Ton … the GF is mine. Stay away, lol, she’s mine. And I definitely got the wife googles on.
Thank you Ame for your response defending my writing and stance on red pill truths. You’re so sweet 🙂 .
You’re entitled to your own opinion, Mega, if you think this badly of me, then nothing I would say would probably help change that.
As for Ame, she and I have had our differences … she recently accused me of treating all women as if they are stupid.
Mega – when did i do that? i honestly don’t remember that, but please feel free to point it out.
that’s … amazing.
Ame … “please feel free to point it out.” …
“Ame said: June 1, 2018 at 11:18 pm”
message was addressed to “Mega -”
“Ton, and men like him, do not blatantly lump all of us together and tell us how stupid we are.”
Implying of course … since it was addressed to me … that I do. I lump all women together and tell them how stupid they are.
https://notesfromaredpillgirl.com/2018/05/22/dating-dilemmas-decoded/comment-page-3/#comment-26669
The context, of course, was me telling Stephanie she was wrong for blaming men and wrong for expecting them to fix it. I referred to #metoo and pointed out how horrible that is for men. I was pointing out how women were wrong and what they were doing was wrong. What they should be doing is looking at themselves. And at other women. And if they wanted to change things positively … that’s where it starts. Women telling other women … they are doing it wrong and women need to make changes … not expecting men too.
And you essentially said I was lumping all women together and calling them stupid. That’s the way I read it anyway.
you’re right. i did write that because when i read what you wrote, i read that you had lumped us all together. please, though, correct me if i’m wrong. here are things you wrote that, at least when i read them, sounded like you lumped us all together:
(Friday, June 1, 2:31pm)
It ain’t men at all. Its women. Women created this mess.
Because you’ll have to take responsibility for the mess that you and other women have created ? And you’ll have to take responsibility for sitting on your lazy ass and refusing to do anything about it ? Sit on your ass and blame men.
Accept responsibility for what your fellow women created. Stop participating in the lies and stop blaming men. And start doing something to help the situation. Yes that means getting off your ass and actually doing something. And even worse it means being culled from the female herd and telling the rest of the herd they are headed in the wrong direction.
i *think* you were responding to my comment on Wed, May 30, 11:43pm:
Bloom – polygyny is something i can’t wrap my head around. i accept it. i know it works for some – like Ton and his girls. but it needs a VERY strong man to manage multiple women 🙂
and i stand by my statement. not many men could manage multiple women – not a good or bad thing, simply an ‘is’ thing.
also … you have blatantly stated that, regardless of my story or what happened in my life or what he did or did not do, or what i did or did not do, you stand by my ex husband giving him a blank ticket of being right and good simply because he is a man. what i have heard from you is that men are never wrong, men are never evil, and that men can never do any wrong, and that it is always a woman’s fault regardless of the situation or circumstances. therefore, if there is ever any conflict, it is always the woman’s fault and the man is always in the right.
i disagree with you here. i do not blanketly believe all men are bad based on my personal experiences, but what i hear from you is that you believe all women are bad based on your personal experiences and those of many other men.
therefore my statement that you lump all women together, because that’s what i’ve understood from what you’ve written.
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Bloom and Stephanie and i have all stood up and spoken for men and against what herds of women have done and are doing. we have done it publicly and privately in our own real life circles. speaking the truth is one thing … expecting it to be heard and adapted to is another.
i remember teaching some women in a bible study many years ago – probably close to 23+ years ago now, and we were talking about the place a woman’s mother should and should not have in her marriage according to the bible. i cannot remember the exact details now, however i remember we were reading straight from the bible, and one woman looked up and said something like, “I see what it says, but I’m not going to do it.” flat out. this is long before ‘red pill’ or even the internet was what it is now – we didn’t even have a home computer at the time! but i knew what the bible says, and i would read it and honor it to the best of my ability. imo, the bible is the first ‘red pill’ book.
in the bible there are many times when a prophet or apostle spoke on behalf of God, and the people living in sin turned a deaf ear towards the truth. often times, that’s what we experience when we speak the truth. sometimes we have to be patient and plant seeds and watch and wait many years while they make poor choices until they’re finally ready to hear.
i’m sorry for what you and other men have gone through at the hands of liberal, feminized, women and a culture that supports them and demeans men at every turn. being a woman, i cannot relate to what it feels like or the experiences of a man.
There is a new post at Spawny’s
https://spawnyspace.wordpress.com/2018/06/04/a-sad-siw/
Ame …
“i *think* you were responding to my comment on Wed, May 30, 11:43pm:” – no, pretty sure I was responding to Stephanie.
I never responded on the Polygamy discussion to you, Ton, or anyway. I’m against it and think it wouldn’t ever work. So rather than rock the boat, I said nothing.
“Also … you have blatantly stated that, regardless of my story or what happened in my life or what he did or did not do, or what i did or did not do, you stand by my ex husband giving him a blank ticket of being right and good simply because he is a man. what i have heard from you is that men are never wrong, men are never evil, and that men can never do any wrong, and that it is always a woman’s fault regardless of the situation or circumstances. therefore, if there is ever any conflict, it is always the woman’s fault and the man is always in the right.”
You are misconstruing what I said. In no way, shape, or form have I ever said there are no evil men and its all women’s fault. Never said that and don’t believe that. What I believe is that there are plenty of evil men AND … there are plenty of evil women too and that is what most women deny. They blame men and deny that women are responsible for anything … its all men’s fault. And that … I disagree with.
I do think women are responsible for most of what has gone wrong in society and when a situation arises … like divorce or domestic violence … women are just as responsible as men. Say 50/50 or maybe more. Yet women deny it all. NEVER THEIR FAULT. Anyway … never sided with your hubby. Never said he didn’t do anything wrong. Never gave him a blank check for being a man.
But when it went wrong between you too … you claimed you were completely blameless and it was 100% his fault. Bullshit. That’s what I called you out on. Blaming 100% on him and claiming you were completely innocent of everything is bullshit. You had some part to play in it. 10%, 20%, 50% … hell maybe all of it. I don’t know. All I know is you claiming 100% innocent and it was all his fault is not believable. Not by me. Not by anyone with 1/2 a brain. Hell … even if he was satan incarnate … the fact that you marred him at all means you are somewhat responsible for getting into that situation. Yet you claim you are 100% innocent of everything … sorry, don’t believe it. AND THAT DOESN”T MEAN I”M TAKING HIS SIDE … which is what you apparently can’t understand. Maybe he was responsible for 90% or 80% … whatever … but that you had no part in it and it was all his fault … that is what I cannot believe.
Anyway, I’m done for the night. Stephanie seems pretty convinced I hate her too. Not sure why. You know, the women here ask for guidance, for men telling them when they are wrong and how they can get things right. That’s cool. But when men say something like … “its not mens’ fault and expecting men to fix it won’t work. So … why don’t you talk to your sisters … other women and tell them the truth … this feminism stuff doesn’t work and its just ruining things for everyone. So instead of ripping men up and blaming men … why don’t you give them a break. And maybe even start treating them with respect. So, yeah its up to women to change their behavior … not men.”
And holy shit … now I hate Stephanie and everyone else.
ahhh, Mega! you don’t hate us! you love us!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
to my knowledge, i have never said it was all his fault … and i have often said i was not at all perfect and made my share of mistakes. there are *some* things that are all his fault and his responsibility – i didn’t make his choices for him. there are *some* things i did that irritated the crap outa him, but i’m guessing that’s true of most of us with men! lol!
i think, Mega, that we simply misunderstand each other out here. that’s easily done when we can’t see faces and ask questions along the way or know one another’s personality.
i’ll be more cautious when reading what you write from here on out 🙂
sweet dreams, Mega!
looks like a mass migration over to Spawnyspace
Yeah, I need to write a new post! 🙂
It’s not so much that you need to, but that it would be welcome. I wonder what the topic will be?
I’m impressed with Larry’s social skills! Truly a hidden gem 😊
Some good news…a wimminz who made the claim of rape which turned out false might be getting some justice handed to her.
https://www.dailywire.com/news/31403/college-student-who-accused-two-football-players-hank-berrien
This needs to happen more often. There needs to be serious consequences for lying about this type of crime. It does not make real victims of rape more afraid to turn in their accusers…it makes real victims of rape more likely to not be believed.
Earl,
Sadly, they only seem to be nailing the ones that own up to it and admit it. What I would like to see is some of the ones who are in denial get nailed on incontrovertible evidence. There have been a couple of recent incidents where policeman’s body cameras have told a far different story than what the women told. Still, the women are let off the hook.
RPG, “Yeah, I need to write a new post!”
Now just a suggestion, ok? I’m fairly sure that if a certain female blogger were to write a topic about “No Hymen, no diamond”, that may stir up a pot of shit quite quickly.
Or perhaps a positive article about all the wonderful, supportive things women have done/said/thought/wished for to support their men….on second thought, two sentences would hardly be an article I suppose.
Breaking News – Miss America is scrapping the swimsuit portion from its pageant
https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/05/us/miss-america-swimsuit-trnd/index.html
No more wiggle, T&A display…sigh. Now we have to endure their mindless answers on world peace, feminism, “politics” as they understand the subject instead of marveling at the well kept bodies being paraded on stage for male approval. Guess I’ll just grab a cold one and watch The Simpsons instead.
LarryG,
Disgraceful! Feminists have taken over and what few men who still watch it are gone forever. The next thing that we hear is that Big Red wins.
New post at my pad, would be useful to Big Red: https://notesfromaredpillgirl.com/2018/06/05/the-power-of-gentle/
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