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Looking back, I can now see some “friends” who surrounded me during times of struggle earlier in life did not give good counsel. I wish now I had forgone their company for that of others who were on a more constructive path.
Now don’t get me wrong, they weren’t obvious degenerates as in they weren’t on drugs, into crime, or violating huge moral codes.
And yet their world views were very much shaped by the world, views I can now see lead people down disastrous paths.
The whole progressive movement of the past few decades has very much an on the surface sounds good quality. Increased rights, tolerance, equality, empowerment, personal freedom. What could go wrong?
Well, such thinking has (perhaps inadvertently, perhaps purposely) led to many of the social problems our society struggles with today. Not just between women and men in building healthy relationships, but in many other areas as well. Such as debt being now widely accepted as a “necessary evil” of modern life, to bring up just one example people may not think of connected to this.
A sliding moral compass eventually leads to an “anything goes” and “live and let live” mindset. But ironically rather than leading to increased harmony I can’t think of a time in my life I have seen people more divided, nor such hostility toward those who don’t embrace an “all paths are equally good” mindset.
I am not blaming others, nor am trying to encourage lack of personal responsibility for ones own choices. But looking back I wish I had associated less with certain people who held “of the world” views that in retrospect influenced my own choices and decisions. And many of these friends attended church, professed faith, mind you.
Most of these people I no longer associate closely with although we are still on friendly terms or I hear from them from time to time. But I no longer seek them out as I once did. And my life is honestly better for it, without the drama and angst some of them are constantly in.
Its not really new advice but I think it’s tried and true — surround yourself with people who are living good, successful, admirable lives — people who you aspire to be more like yourself.
Likewise, beware the company of people who are negative, toxic, always complaining or dissatisfied, making destructive choices themselves, etc. Not to say one shouldn’t love and care for such people but too much of their company can infect your own thinking with the same, I have found.
If I could give my younger self some good life advice it would be this — beware the company and counsel you keep — it shapes your own views and choices more than you may know.
What do you think? Please share in the comments!
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
RPG: “The whole progressive movement of the past few decades has very much an on the surface sounds good quality. Increased rights, tolerance, equality, empowerment, personal freedom. What could go wrong?
A sliding moral compass eventually leads to an “anything goes” and “live and let live” mindset. But ironically rather than leading to increased harmony I can’t think of a time in my life I have seen people more divided, nor such hostility toward those who don’t embrace an “all paths are equally good” mindset.”
After spending a lot of time on the left coast the first thing that your post reminds me of is what I’m starting to call “the California problem.”
For over 200 years California was isolated both from the US and Mexico. Blessed with a great climate it was a place where people ended up if they were too “different” from their neighbors. Mountain men, prospectors, people who wanted to start odd religions, gays, jazz and rock musicians … it was a place that welcomed outcasts. The movie business relocated there from New Jersey to avoid paying Thomas Edison’s patent enforcing thugs. Scientists and engineers moved there to be near other free thinking inventors. By the 1950s California was the home to the greatest and most liberated minds in the country. Hot rodders built radical new cars, the hippie haven of Topanga Canyon was also the place where many wildcat rifle cartridges were invented.
It was one of the most cosmopolitan and open minded communities the world has ever seen. It’s worth noting that the same environment that attracted Jonas Salk, who created the first polio cure, also attracted Charles Manson and the Symbianese Liberation Army. The California free-for-all was wonderful but it was a mixed blessing.
Basically, it was a place where people went to be weird in peace. And then … all that changed. California started legislating EVERYTHING. It was just rules, rules, rules. The children of the people who came there looking for personal utopia started forcing a single vision on EVERYONE. Now the same sort of free thinking people who originally migrated to California are fleeing. True they leave behind what we think of as cutting edge businesses like Google and Disney … but these have become the Standard Oil and Carnegie Steel of today; oppressive and protected bureaucracies.
When California was a live and let live place it was an electrifying version of what civilization could create, when it started trying to enforce one group’s version of same values it headed down the road to tyranny. It’s hard to blame any specific person. On the Right, industry was so rampant that the air in LA was barely breathable; on the Left, violent crazies were everywhere. It’s just that solutions turned into opportunities to create huge and abusive power structures but supposed liberals who couldn’t apply a light touch and then leave well enough alone.
I really doubt it’s a Left/Right thing. I’m guessing it human nature and we are just in one particular phase of a long cycle … that doesn’t make it any easier though!
One of the realities I’ve learned over the years is that, most people are given their opinion, they don’t have one of their own. Most opinions and rhetoric I hear are shaped by world view, media, what someone else, redundant cliche, and “non-critical” thinking.
When it comes to advice, I seek out those that think independently. Those are choose to challenge typical, status quo level thinking. In many cases, our friends and family do not think this way. They can offer some truly biased and typical advice based on what everyone else is doing, (or what they did in a similar situation) not based on what you need.
I’m also in agreement with you about certain social movements and how they’ve impacted interpersonal relationships between men and women. Many people won’t talk about this, but relations between men and women haven’t been worse than they are today. Divorce rates and marriages are at an all-time low, while homosexuality is on the rise. I’m not knocking homosexuality, but I believe there is some correlation.
Great post.
It’s one of the reasons I attend Eucharistic adoration almost daily. Christ is the best comapny & counsel you can get.
@alan yes, I would have liked to see California 100 years ago, 60 years ago, even 40 years ago. I can only imagine how beautiful it must have been before it became so heavily populated and developed.Perhaps it’s natural beauty was both its attraction and then demise.
Along the same lines I happened to be in the city last week and while waiting for dinner at a casual outdoor eatery a guy seated nearby struck up a conversation w myself and another guy waiting for his order about the state of things. (It was amazingly red pill-ish, I was surprised to hear someone talking so openly about things discussed mostly anonymously online like S0ros influence and such.) Anyway, he also brought up CA, and how it was settled by people who were different, non-conformists, etc. Then he said, and this was controversial but interesting, that he felt a higher than average amount of folks who had some form of mental illness had moved west and that we are now seeing this play out a few generation cycles later as an ever increasing number. Not sure about that but it was interesting. Then my food came and I wished him well. He said as I departed to remember to pray!
@ Alan I would also agree it’s not so much left and right as an urban/metro and small town/rural divide maybe?
@ jay agreed w you re things between men and women never being worse than they are today. Hopefully we’ve reached peak cray and things will start to go in a healthier direction.
Successful, how?
Money? Work? Because I know many co-workers who were more “successful” career wise, getting promoted to higher levels than I got to. But they also did things that they should be ashamed of, IMHO.
I’d rather know that I did the right thing, even when it didn’t help my career.
Fml yes by successful I did not necessarily mean financially, more like life-well-lived wise.
Tonight I’ll be writing about someone who didn’t give me the best counsel, as this person frequently does, but I’m not going to cut her out of my life, but rather I’ve been making my point with her that way the she thinks I should do things simply doesn’t work for for relationship.
Sometimes you just have to say, thank you for your concern but I’ll take it from here.
RPG: “he felt a higher than average amount of folks who had some form of mental illness had moved west and that we are now seeing this play out a few generation cycles later as an ever increasing number.”
Or there just wasn’t a conformist culture forcing them to “act normal” … if someone is a bit nuts a little bit of pressure to act normal could be a good thing. I guess my whole point was that you can really go too far when normalizing things. California was free and crazy (and staggeringly well run) for a long time. Then people began to rest on their laurels and try to codify that “freedom.” What we ended up with was dumb asses cashing in on the brilliance of their forebears and a legal and regulatory hall of mirrors where damn near everyone is violating something at every minute. All the state has to do is pick and choose who they want to crack down on.
Alan Kardec—very good comments.
Not sure the California political class realizes that most startups can locate just about anywhere—at some point, all the burdens and expenses make it difficult to attract & retain good employees. There is already a law firm with an intellectual property practice in Silicon Valley which has its employees lives somewhere else (Arizona, I think), and brings the to SV via corporate jet when they are required there. Easier to pay for the jet, apparently, than to pay the extra costs needed to get these lawyers to actually live in the SF area.
Steve Case (AOL founder and VC) now has a fund called ‘Rise of the Rest’, which is focused on funding startups which are *not* in SV, NYC, or Boston.
Also, I suspect the heavy-handed political correctness which infects many large SV companies will encourage many creative potential employees to look elsewhere.
You become like the aggregate of your five most time spent with friends.
Not closest, time spent. Includes social media time.
As they do, you do. Shared experiences repeated become the norm. Shared views repeated become the accepted worldview.
Epidemiology and causality studies have shown the contagion of social groups. Divorce, religion, political views, obesity.
Part of why hypnosis and propoganda works: repetition of the same principle in different messages reinforces the neural pathways in the brain.
No wonder my five are The Mrs, me, myself, I and my gods.
You become like the aggregate of your five most time spent with friends.
So if you have kids, best to steer them towards good friends
FB: “So if you have kids, best to steer them towards good friends.”
Remembering my childhood and watching parents today I think that it is a VERY good idea to find some quality parents with kids your kids can be friends with. Too many parents allow their social scene to become the parents of their kid’s friends. These may or may not be good people and the same can be said of their children. Regardless, these people and their kids WILL be in your life because your children will make friends but if you can create a foundation out of your choice of people with solid character then, at least your children will be around them sometimes. With luck most of their kids will be good or at least not bad influences.
Looking back on it I suspect this is how my family survived the 1960s and ’70s. There was a core group that hung together, they weren’t always the closest friends or the people we spent the most time with but they were always around and they provided the rock that the waves of the culture of those times could crash around.
The flip side of this: be worthy of good counsel.
I’ve seen plenty of people who treat their life goals as some sort of Pure Land Buddhism in which they’re trying to do all of the things correctly so they may reach a kind of ideal place, after which their lives becomes “easier” as if by magic. While doing this, they shred their health, they irritate their friends, and they generally become unpleasant to be around.
So much that when they “arrive” in their blessed Pure Land of the future, nobody wants to be around them anymore because they’ve changed into something else that isn’t as fun, enjoyable, or even just plain friendly to be around.
With this comes an understanding that if someone is offering you good counsel, it is up to you to recognise that this is coming from somewhere that is meant with good intentions.
It is most assuredly not an invitation to offer critiques of the person providing good counsel, because this is an invitation for that person to ask why he or she is making the effort in the first place.
Bottom line: in order to be given good counsel, you must first show yourself worthy of it.
Also, this is for Jay Thomas: there is an excellent book by José Ortega y Gasset called “The Revolt of the Masses” in which he makes a more detailed case for what you’ve described about opinions. The short version is more or less as you describe, that what most people have are not hard-earned or fought-over opinions, but instead a series of easily won sentiments.
The unfortunate and regrettable truth is that most people live lives in which they are nearly completely opinion free, if not entirely free of opinion.
I recommend this book for anyone with a conservative or libertarian leaning, and I recommend liberals stay away from it because the culture shock realisations about their opinion-free lives may lead to extended psychiatric hospital stays. 🙂
Since redpillgirlnotes mentioned California, I thought it might be interesting for you to see what Los Angeles was like over one hundred years ago …
Here’s a picture of Harry Pidgeon’s “Islander” sailing from Los Angeles where he built it mostly uninterrupted on the beach itself.
LA didn’t have a crime problem back then.
I can’t find my pictures of Harry Pidgeon actually building the “Islander” on a Los Angeles beach, and my sailing books are currently packed away, but there are well-known pictures of him building the boat at various stages on a Los Angeles beach.
Also, you could easily mistake Los Angeles of the late 19th century with any Midwestern town of moderate size.
The cultural rot is relatively recent.
@ Alan, you have a perspective I do not, never having lived there myself.
@ post alley crackpot, welcome! And indeed the best of counsel is of no good if the recipient is not willing or open to hearing it. Well said… I have learned this, I will invest in mentoring someone willing to learn, but if someone doesn’t want to hear it — I gladly save my breath and wish them the best.
@ post alley crackpot, thanks for sharing the images!
It seems that with increased population density comes perhaps another set of problems. And maybe even this need to have an “anything goes” mentality for the most part, until of course things reach peak cray and then sometimes there really do need to be lines people can’t cross in order for civilization to stand. Like not lying, cheating, stealing, murder, coveting the neighbors wife and stuff, etc. etc. The top 10 so to speak. And even those, civilization can probably absorb a small amount of people breaking them (which will always be the case), but if breaking them becomes the norm? No. It starts to unravel. And whatever those top 10 may be, it does seem that in order for social order to exist they need to mostly be agreed upon values. And perhaps this is the rub today — some want X values, others want Y? I dunno… there seems to be increasing polarization rather than increasing harmony anyway. Why I cannot fully explain but ponder often.
wisdom.
truth.
interesting.
of note … whether it means anything or not … Cali was where my mom fled to when she left my dad and then moved her girlfriend out there with her … attracted by mental illness?1 LOL!
“… but if someone doesn’t want to hear [good counsel] …”
This is a different concept than that, so I’ll explain a bit more.
What this concerns is whether the person who would receive the good counsel actually is worthy of it, and this means being deserving of it as well as being able to use the counsel in a way that isn’t a waste of time and energy.
The difference is worth pointing out because it’s the difference between first-order effects and higher-order effects in a sense: not wanting to hear good counsel is just a first-order filter.
Another way of looking at this is to recall a scene from the first “Matrix” film in which Morpheus has a “walking talk” with Neo — it’s the scene that features the Woman in the Red Dress.
To make use of good counsel you must first be in a metaphysical and existential position to be able to understand how it applies and how to use it.
Anything else is analogous to “not wanting to be unplugged” …
BTW, thanks for the welcome — I’ve been around here a few times, but I suspect the reason why I’ve been around recently is that for some unknown reason we’re seeing the same patterns around us …
This is more than just your average garden-variety zeitgeist though.
I think the common theme is easy enough: how is it that some people are messing things up so horribly when it’s relatively easy to avoid the hazards?
The intersect for me with this blog post of yours is probably something like what Mark Twain once wrote: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
It takes some adjustment to realise that you have to give up otherwise noble pursuits in “unplugging small people” for the sake of doing better things …
“how is it that some people are messing things up so horribly when it’s relatively easy to avoid the hazards?”
Oh, that’s so easy to explain.
They never learn how to fail, so they never learn the repercussions of making bad decisions.
Forget participation awards, it’s quickly becoming a society filled with existence awards.
Post Alley Crackpot…” something like what Mark Twain once wrote: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
True, one should stay away from those who belittle your ambitions. OTOH, when giving advice it’s important to try and bring some realism. If a woman is looking for fried ice in her mate search, it would be good to point out to her gently that the combination of attributes she is seeking unlikely to be found in a single individual. If someone is thinking about quitting their job and putting all their assets into a business venture which has obvious flaws, it’s better to ask “have you thought through X and Y” than to just say “Yeah, sounds great, go for it”
Some good counsel
https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/article-when-couples-separate-in-todays-housing-market-both-are-going-to/
“Relinquishing the two-income life is a rude awakening for divorcées. Those who can afford to buy property again face a sobering downsizing. Many others can’t afford to buy back into their neighbourhoods. Some will rent for the rest of their lives, ship off to more affordable towns, or move back home with mom and dad until the dust settles.”
“Fleming and other realtors see deep denial about downsizing in the divorcing set. People don’t understand that they don’t get to have the sprawling backyard for their kids or the two-car garage any more.”
I’ve told them in no uncertain terms that if they sell this house, they will never own real estate again,” Fleming said. “They will be lifetime renters. So they’re chewing on that. Eventually something has to give.”
“Another roadblock for divorcées? Canada’s new federal regulations for home buyers, passed last January, mean that lenders must “stress test” peoples’ finances to make sure they can pay off their mortgages should interest rates climb higher.”
Yeah!
I got the 4000 sq ft mcmansion!
But I had to give a 200k lump sum for half its value.
And I have to requalify for the mortgage
On one income
At 5%
And pay property taxes
And fix the roof myself
Waaaaaaaa!
““Lenders are wanting me … to explain why I don’t have more money put aside, but don’t seem to understand that it all went to the divorce process and support payments,” Robertson said. “The lenders don’t seem to consider that to be a very valid excuse but that just happens to be reality.”
Big for women to understand!!
Lenders dont give a fuck about you as a person, your trauma of the divorce.
All they care about is ” will we get our money back with interest?”
Oh and your friendly neighborhood handyman wants cash or a good cheque before he leaves the property.
Guess she’ll have to eat pray love in her one bedroom apartment with 5 cats.
At least when your single after uncle Sam takes some…you have the rest of your labor to use on what you want. Not forced by the courts to keep the life propped up for an instigator of divorce.
Goes equally for both sexes, just men tend to be moire financially aware.
“Goes equally for both sexes, just men tend to be moire financially aware.”
Yep. It sure does. 92% of all children get primary custody awarded to the mother. Men get to pay for kids they can’t see and can’t be a parent too. Or they can go to prison. Men get to pay. Women get a free pass. And get rewarded with Child Support, Alimony, and Government welfare checks (ebt). MEN GET PRISON. AND THE SEX OFFENDER REGISTRY.
Yep. Its sure equal in our society today. Feminism won. Ain’t you happy about that ? Oh and in case you are wondering … no, 92% of children awarded to the women does not mean men get 8%. Its actually 4%. The other 4% have the children being taken as wards of the state because BOTH PARENT ARE DEAD OR IN JAIL. And you read that right. The same percentage of children get to live with their dads as BOTH PARENTS ARE DRUG ADDICTS WHO END UP DEAD OR IN JAIL.
Isn’t equality a great thing.
Feminism won and the children lost.
Marriage lost.
It will be a quaint thing old timers do.
Like ballroom dancing.
Here is some good counsel. The GF and I had a very heated discussion last weekend. Almost an argument, closest we’ve ever come to one. It came after in insulted Obama for the 18th million time and referred to him as the LIAR IN CHIEF. So i went off on her. We both ended up pissed but got over it. Yes, I went on a rant and some of it went like this.
Liberals are MENTALLY ILL, ALL OF THEM. Barack Obama was the worse president in history and the only reason he got away with what he did was because he was black and the media was on his side. He was one of the most visible people on the planet for 8 straight years and NEVER SPOKE THE TRUTH ONCE and NOBODY CALLED HIM ON HIS SHIT … because they were afraid of being called a racist.
If you like your doctor, you can keep your doctor.
If you like your doctor, you can keep your doctor.
If you like your doctor, you can keep your doctor.
If you like your doctor, you can keep your doctor.
If you like your plan, you can keep your plan.
If you like your plan, you can keep your plan.
If you like your plan, you can keep your plan.
If you like your plan, you can keep your plan.
Your health care costs will go down.
Your health care costs will go down.
Your health care costs will go down.
Your health care costs will go down.
Its not a tax. Its not a tax. Its not a tax.
Its not a tax. Its not a tax. Its not a tax.
Its not a tax. Its not a tax. Its not a tax.
Its not a tax. Its not a tax. Its not a tax.
Till it went to the SCOTUS who determined that RATHER THAN THROW IT OUT AS BLATANT OUTRIGHT FRAUD … that is was in fact legal … BECAUSE IT WAS A TAX.
You didn’t get to keep your doctor.
You didn’t get to keep your plan.
Your costs went up by 20-40% a year … year after year after year.
AND IT WAS A TAX !!!!
She countered with “Conservatives never want to try anything new, nobody realized Obamacare would be so bad.”
I countered with a full frontal assault on Feminism and Liberalism. Referenced the Bible and that men should be in charge and it got heated about the GLASS CEILING … to which I replied … THERE IS NO WAGE GAP, WOMEN MAKE THEIR CAREER CHOICES. MOST WOMEN DON”T WANT TO BE IN CHARGE BECAUSE THEY DON”T WANT THE RESPONSIBILITY OR TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE. AND MOST WOMEN WHO ARE IN POSITIONS OF AUTHORITY HATE IT.
She countered with NAWALT. To which I agreed … BUT THE VAST MAJORITY OF THEM ARE LIKE THAT.
I went on about women stealing men’s children and then using the legal system to force men to pay for them. MEN HAVE NO REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS. My body, my choice applies to women. NOT MEN. MEN HAVE NO RIGHTS … EXCEPT TO PAY AND BECOME A SLAVE. What Rights do men have if he doesn’t want the mother of his child TO HAVE AN ABORTION ???? OR NOT HAVE AN ABORTION ??? He doesn’t have ANY RIGHTS AT ALL … EXCEPT THE RIGHT TO BE A SLAVE AND PAY FOR A KID HE DOESN”T EVEN WANT. OR ACTUALLY WANT A KID AND HAVE IT MURDERED AGAINST HIS WISHES. MEN HAVE NO RIGHTS.
And then I went here.
See … the Bible recognized the role of women. Its to be a companion to men … NOT TO BE IN CHARGE … most women don’t want to be in charge and even if they are … most of them are lousy at it and end up hating it. But rather than get into a literal interpretation of the bible and all that (and frankly I don’t believe in all of it either) … I went here.
Look, sweetie, before their was the Bible their was the Jewish bible. The old testament went way, way back … like 3,000 years. So lets just say that between the old and new … 5,000 years of human history. During which we went from living in a cave with no running water or a place to take a shit … TO PUTTING A MAN ON THE MOON. And Liberals want to flush all that down the toilet.
In the last 50 years … despite all the technology we have, all the education we have, and the population is a thousand times greater than it was in all of human history .. in the last 50 years we have slowly destroyed pretty much what was created in the prior 5,000 years of human history. Liberals declared blacks deserved special treatment. Women were better than men. Marriage was slavery. Children no longer belong to their fathers. Immigrants where better than citizens. And the mentally ill like homosexuals or transvestites or pedophiles are to be admired and worshiped.
Liberals are hell bent on destroying what civilization created … conservatives are only trying to prevent that destruction. And, yes, we are probably heading for a civil war; so you’re going to have to decide. If you think a man has no rights to his own children AND WOMEN DO … you’ve decided … you’re on team VAGINA … and why in the hell would any man want you on his team (marriage) … WHEN YOU HATE HIM.
It got pretty testy … she got pissed off and then I did and went on my rant. We apologized. Neither one of us likes to fight and that’s the closest we’ve come to it.
I even hit her with the true nature of women: their “Primordial Fear”. Why all women think alike and act alike and why the “in-gender-bias” exists. ALL WOMEN WILL AGREE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, EVEN WHEN SHE IS FLAT OUT WRONG. Its because of the nature of women. It goes like this: imagine its 30,000 years ago. Woman is 28 yrs old and has been married since 14. She is illiterate, has no job, no skills, no money. There are no schools or daycare or doctors or medicine. She has had 8 kids, 3 of which have already died. The other 5 are all younger than 12 and range from diapers (if they had any) to approaching adolescence. AND SHE”S PREGGY again because there is no birth control. Husband went out on a hunt and never came back. Ambushed by another tribe. Wanna know how she and her kids survived ?
TEAM WOMAN, THAT”S HOW. No man is going to want her … OR HER KIDS. And if she makes a fuss and causes trouble for the tribe … like sleeping with another wives husband … the men will throw her out of the tribe … TO STARVE … along with her kids. So how did she survive and her kids survive … to pass on her instincts ? TEAM WOMAN, THAT”S HOW. And that’s how women got those instincts. APPEASE OTHER WOMEN, make them like you, act like them, speak like them, tell them they are right when they are wrong, whatever other women say … AGREE WITH IT … because if you do … they will lobby for you against the men so you can stay, lie for you, steal food for you, watch your kids if you need to fend for yourself. AGREE WITH OTHER WOMEN AND YOU SURVIVE … DON”T AND YOUR DNA DIES OUT.
I read about this several years ago and still have the link, its below.
So I told her about it. A woman’s primordial fear … is to be cast out. To be exiled from the tribe. Women will say and do ANYTHING TO FIT IN … NO MATTER HOW STUPID THAT IS. If a woman did that … she had a better chance of surviving. Simple as that. So that’s how we got Feminism. Another woman tells a girl to fuck 8,000 men before getting married and don’t get married until age 30 … AND SHE WILL DO IT, BECAUSE TEAM WOMAN. A woman says the WAGE GAP EXISTS … then they will believe it. Why ? Because she doesn’t want to get cast out. Whatever stupid shit another woman tells another woman … she will do it, believe it, no matter how stupid it is.
YOU WANT REAL ADVICE, then don’t ask a woman, ask a man. Most men realize this when it comes to dating advice … whatever a woman tells you about dating … is probably WRONG. And many times, the opposite of what you should be doing. Here’s the deal.
If you want real advice. Real counsel. Good, solid advice … then ask your FATHER. Or ask your HUSBAND. Or maybe an older brother. Ask a man where sex is not involved. You might not like the answer, but at least you’ll get the truth (most of the time). Ask a woman … and she’ll repeat the same screwed up lies and bullshit that other woman are repeating. What she reads in the media. And, yes, this goes for your own mother in many cases. There have been good older ladies in years past. Grey haired women passing down their life experiences to younger women and giving good solid advice … but that’s a rare, rare thing these days. Why ? TEAM WOMAN … THAT”S WHY. They don’t want to buck feminism and give advice that is contrary to what other women are saying. So the grey haired ladies stay silent and take their wisdom to the grave.
So there is the best “counsel” or advice you are ever going to get. If you are woman … and getting advice from other women … IT IS LIKELY WRONG. And in fact, many times, the complete opposite of what you should be doing. That’s the best advice I can give: Don’t listen to what other women are telling you, cause its probably wrong.
Here is the link to a “Woman’s Primordial Fear” – surprised its still available on the interwebs: https://avengingredhand.wordpress.com/2014/03/06/womans-primordial-fear/
my advice, as a woman, is to listen to men. but … don’t take my advice, b/c i’m a woman 😉
tehehe 😉
So … going to continue my rant. And, yes, somebody, somewhere should make this a sticky. Human nature: the ugly truth. So in the prior post mentioned a woman’s hubby who went out on a hunt and never came back. Why ? Killed by another tribe, thats why. And here is where human nature gets ugly. And, yes, discussed this with the GF because knew she’d understand this. There are a million different varieties of dogs; little ones, big ones, short ones, fat ones, short haired ones, long haired ones, … HAIRLESS ONES, black ones, white ones, spotted ones. Jesus all sorts of dogs. And wild ones too; dingoes. Wolves. Coyotes. Etc. Lots of varieties. Same with cats. Cows. Horses. Pretty much all animals. Trees. Grass. You name it, in nature … lots of close relatives. Except for humans. No close relative except an ape ? A monkey ? Why ?
Because we kill off all our competition, that’s why. Speak a different language. Different culture. Different religion. Different skin color ? Doesn’t really matter … you different from MY TRIBE … then its genocide for you. Constant warfare. Mostly over resources. But constant warfare … men fighting men. Women, mostly on the sideline.
So how did that work ? It worked like this. Constant tribal warfare … men fighting men. And when the men won (killed the majority of the men in the other tribe), they got access to the other tribes women. They kept the attractive ones. And the younger ones who were fertile or about to be. And mostly killed the children. Or made them slaves. Along with whatever men survived; made them slaves or just killed them.
But the other women … the attractive and younger ones … yep, they were made the wives of the victors, and had their children. Raped even. Wanna know why most women have rape fantasy’s ? Because if you were conquered and raped and you enjoyed it and got pregnant … YOU SURVIVED. If you were raped and fought it … you died. Brutal ? Ugly ? Yep, sure was. Human nature, when you understand it, is pretty ugly. If you got raped and liked it, you survived. Didn’t like it … you ended up dead and your DNA didn’t make it to the next generation. Doesn’t get more brutal than that.
Now … do that for 50,000 yrs or so. Hmmm, yeah, you’re starting to get it.
Human kind is ugly.
And … so, got a question for you. When a female of an opposing tribe was captured … how did the women of the conquering tribe respond ? Good question, right, because that is usually what happened. The majority of the time. The men were killed, along with the children. Some of the women were kept. Here is how it worked. If the captured women … learned the language of the new tribe, acted like the women in the new tribe, dressed like the women in the new tribe, and appeased the women of the new tribe, to become their friends … no matter how false and duplicitous that might be … THEN, AND ONLY THEN, DID SHE AND HER CHILDREN … SURVIVE.
Get it ? If you do, you now understand human nature.
Ever wonder why some stupid cunt posts a picture in a magazine/instagram of a woman wearing some outrageous outfight … and suddenly there are millions of women doing the exact same thing ? Ever wonder what the Kardashian’s have anything to do with anything? Ever wonder why men don’t do this ? YOU JUST GOT YOUR ANSWER.
No, it ain’t pretty. Sorry to burst your bubble.