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addiction, alcoholism, dating, red pill, single mom, sobriety
The other night I happened to be at a big wedding for a friend of a friend. Early on I noticed a beautiful blond girl in a flowing black formal gown. To say she was stunning was an understatement. She looked like some sort of goddess, I am not kidding. On the looks scale I would say she was a 9 or maybe even a 10. No joke!
Later I saw her with a baby and a young man I assumed was her husband. They looked like a dashing young couple and their daughter (maybe 10 months old) was adorable.
The next time I saw her she was surrounded by a crowd, drink in hand, telling stories as friends gathered around. She seemed to be enjoying herself.
A bit later I saw her again, another drink in hand. Still telling stories, her voice starting to slur. Her man and baby were gone.
An hour or so later she’s stumbling around. Not making much sense. People start to avoid her except for a few guys who seem to be hoping to take her home.
Another hour goes by and she’s been cut off from the bar. I hear her baby daddy (turns out they weren’t married, for this reason) had left with the child. He’s in the process of trying to get custody. Had he videotaped her behavior, I am sure it would not have looked good in court.
She asks several times for another drink at the bar but is turned away. She starts going around and drinking half finished beers left behind on tables. Twice she nearly falls as she trips on tables and chairs in search of another half empty can. Waiters at the event notice and start picking up any abandoned containers before she can.
The wedding ends and I overhear people trying to talk other people into giving her a ride home. Nobody wants to except for a guy who seems to want to take advantage of the situation. Finally someone else agrees to give her a ride. I overhear long time friends say, “She always does this. We are so sick of it!”
The mother of the groom says the girl dated her other son briefly but because of her behavior he had broken things off. The son was there with his now wife and baby. The wife wasn’t as striking as the blonde but she was pretty in a less flashy way, was clearly better wife material, and was the picture of a devoted happy young mom. She had married well, into a very successful and nice family.
I wanted to talk to the blonde but realized that in her stumbling, fall down state it would have done absolutely no good. I am pretty sure she would probably not remember much of the night.
Some people just shouldn’t drink and this girl seemed to be one of them. I hope someone says so to her, and soon. And if so I hope she listens. If not the girl is headed for disaster. Sadly, her daughter’s future doesn’t look too bright either.
Don’t be that girl!
What do you think? Please share in the comments.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl 
LIfe’s actually a lot more fun when you don’t take everything terribly seriously.
Yup. But.
The secret to success in any endeavor is knowing what to leave undone. Adapted from Oswald Chambers.
The secret to fun in any life is knowing what can safely be not taken seriously.
So say the guys in the Space Station now that there are no rockets available to bring them supplies. And the woman climbing up on the balcony rail in order to flap her arms and fly away. And the head of Duke Energy in Panama City. And …
True words, Richard.
how’s Mike enjoying civilian life? i imagine y’all are really thankful he’s not having to deal with any of these storms 😦
She was at work when the call came. Her elderly mother had slipped and fallen in the bathtub at home and had seriously injured herself. Her boss excused her from work and, distraught, she got in her car and rushed to be with her mother. She didn’t even see that the light was red.
I, on the other hand, only saw that the light was green. We met in the intersection. She hit me just forward of the driver’s-side front door. My car spun around three times and was stopped by a light pole on the other side of the intersection.
It was years later and my wife still asked me Why are you slowing down to stop? The light is green! Liz might have wondered why I wasn’t having more fun, since the light was green (just making a point; no criticism of Liz intended).
Any guy who has had his ass raped in divorce court is going to have trouble for years figuring out what can safely be not taken seriously – kinda like me and green lights. Not a concious choice; a subconcious reaction, born from trauma.
I had a quarter in my pocket that unded up under the gas pedal (like the straw driven through the wood fence post in a storm). I banged my head pretty hard against the driver’s side window. I was majorly sore for a week or so, but otherwise uninjured. I did go to the hospital and have my head checked for concussion, but there was nothing. I can only imagine how many years more I would have still been stopping at green lights if I had been seriously injured.
I was writing while Liz posted. I see that she gets it.
Yeah, I’m taking a break.
Have a great day all.
Forgot to add: Thanks Ame. Civilian life is very very good. 🙂
I feel a little guilty it’s so good.
Think I should do more to help people (there were a lot of volunteer opportunities to try to help out and give back in military communities, I need to find something like that again, or take some classes in emergency medicine to brush up or something.
Anyway, hope all is well with you and yours.
ahhh, Liz, that’s awesome! enjoy these days 🙂
the right thing will come along for you to give back.
I loved the post. I will be soo thankful if you check out mine
https://thoughtsofacollegestudentdotblog.wordpress.com
“it is so much nicer to be around men who accept women as women.”
Be afraid, be very afraid or not ;-D
https://www.amren.com/news/2018/10/why-men-women-different-brain-sex-biology-genetics/
“LIfe’s actually a lot more fun when you don’t take everything terribly seriously.”
should not be conflated with
“Life’s actually a lot more fun when you don’t take anything terribly seriously”
Somehow it seems like it was.
Or your comment was just used as an excuse to keep the thread going for a little longer (as is this comment). Consider that I started off this way, quoting you:
LIfe’s actually a lot more fun when you don’t take everything terribly seriously.
Yup. But.
*those moments when you realize God still wants you alive and well in this world*
Thank you for the great read 🙏🏾 I’d appreciate if you could read my little attempt at writing lol https://wordpress.com/view/iwasthinking300320691.wordpress.com
Well, Richard…candidly, it took me no less (likely more) than 20 reads of your story to understand that you weren’t implying I’m a drooling mouth breathing moron who thinks accidents are fun.
I’m serious.
But after the 20th+ read, I actually understand the point you were making.
As you say, we are what we perceive.
it took me no less (likely more) than 20 reads of your story to understand that you weren’t implying …
I’m genuinely sorry about that. That is one of the drawbacks of this type of communication. We can’t read body language or anything that might help us interpret what we are reading / hearing.
One of the reasons I emphasize the Luke 17:3 approach to things. If I think someone has done something against me, go and tell the person. If they repent, then forgive them. As a byproduct, I have the opportunity to learn that the other person did not intend to offend me.
Is it unkind of me to point out that I did say (just making a point; no criticism of Liz intended)?
“Is it unkind of me to point out that I did say (just making a point; no criticism of Liz intended)?”
To tell you the truth in the context I was reading it…the apology kind of made it sound even more condescending. Honestly, I was pretty miffed…”what did I do to this guy?”
I was reading it entirely wrong.
Interesting….reminds me to really pay attention (to what I say and how I interpret things). That was a really rookie mistake, and your point was a good one.
Sorry, not “apology”, “explanation” would be a better term.
Kind of like a pat on the head after calling someone a dumbass. LOL 😆
I’ve never found it useful to call someone a dumbass or to be condescending to folks. So if you ever think I’m doing that to you again, call me out.
Good Lord….SAME old entry on Bloom’s Blog? Did she croak or run off and get married? Well, no matter; send me a memo if she drifts back in again…back to listening to some oldish rock n roll…
hmmmm…come to think of it, I’v been seeing Bloom out slumming on the wrong side of the tracks lately over at Spawny’s Place….
Hi guys all is well, just have been super busy! New post to come soon…
Also I found the social media account of the blonde in this post and while I can’t post it here (sorry!) I did bounce her photos off a trusted source who confirmed she’s a hottie. But a disaster. Many photos show her w a drink in hand, or doing handstands in a keg, that sort of thing!
Alcoholism among American women is the most under-reported statistic and trend in America today.
Think about movies and TV shows and tell me how often do you see the female characters drinking booze or around bottles of alcohol around them? Even goofy TV shows like The Big Bang Theory show the women always drinking, with Penny as the main female protagonist and serial alcoholic. Now contrast the male geeks on the show…they rarely drink and act goofy when they do because cannot old their liquor when they do. The women drink constantly and are always fine. Penny even gets Bernadette to loosen up on the drinking as time passes.
I work in the legal field and have for years and the female attorneys I have worked with are all, 100% alcoholics as far as I have observed. You see them come to work hung-over to work after 10am even in the middle of the week. What is more troubling to me now living in a stupid State that legalized weed a couple years back, the number of female staff (paralegal, secretaries, receptionist, etc – overwhelmingly female) are always discussing how hammered they got that weekend and how they “could not get wait to get home and hit a bong”. -_-
10 years ago, it was unheard of. No one would dare talk like that in the law office and only the attorneys were closeted alcoholics and no one would dare say a word, not to embarrass the elites coming to work from their ivory towers alcoholics. Now, female alcoholism and even drug use is so glorified in the media/music/movies/TV, no one even bats an eye.
I have been on a date recently with a female attorney who is 31. We met for an early lunch as she had a deposition at 1pm. She ordered 3 Margaritas on the rocks…. before 11am! And she drove herself to the depo after oiur brief lunch. 😮 Yeah, that was it for me and I ended the lunch as “I am glad we finally got to eat lunch and not have to talk work when we see each other. It was fun and we will have a victory lunch with our clients nest time”. Because I have a client that works with her law office, I spoke to that female lawyer later. When I asked her later in conversation about setting up a bar in my house she said “if you do and it is better than mine, I will never want to leave your house”. Clearly, she has a problem and does not seem to think she does.
I think that is why AA always demands their members to admit and say “I am 9name) and I am an alcoholic”. Admitting is the first step to fixing the problem.
Thanks for bringing this up. 🙂 Female alcoholism is rising rapidly as we remove social stigmas from bad behavior by women…. and because women rarely identify themselves as alcoholics (when they actually are) and are less likely to admit to this then men, statistics are skewed and this is a serious growing, under-reported problem.
Drunks, male or female, are almost always unpleasant and many times are abusive and violent in private. They should be called out on their behavior accordingly and should be helped, if they want to improve themselves and live happier lives. 🙂
“and because women rarely identify themselves as alcoholics (when they actually are) and are less likely to admit to this then men, statistics are skewed and this is a serious growing, under-reported problem.”
I think you’re right. After I had our 2nd, it was clear to me how many mom-friends I had who were basically alcoholics… and very vocal about it! It’s almost like it was an expected thing to accept that moms, especially after having more than 1 child, drink lots of wine every evening.