Something I have been pondering a lot lately is this concept of a lost generation.
Thanks to effective birth control, like many women of my generation, I was able to avoid pregnancy young, as I had been urged by my mom and others. They advocated to put off having children as long as possible. “Don’t waste your potential,” they said. “Invest in yourself.” As a result I had my first child at age 33 and my second at age 40.
I was very fortunate both times that I had no trouble conceiving, but I know many friends of my generation who are unable to do so in their 30s even with expensive medical assistance.
I have a 25-year-old helper who works in my business. She’s a go-getter, very enthusiastic, and is not afraid of getting dirty or doing whatever it is that needs done.
Her mom is the same age as I am, but obviously started younger. The more time I spend with her the more I realize I easily could have grown children her age, if I had started having children younger. And how much I would enjoy it, if so.
When I ponder how much help she is to me and how much help a son her age might also be, I am not sure the advice to put off becoming a mom was so wise. Her young 20s energy is a great fit with my middle of the journey experiences.
Sure I enjoyed my 20’s, travelled, built my career, did things I maybe could not have done with little ones. And yet, was it worth it? Not really.
When I did finally become a mother I realized I actually enjoyed it quite a bit. Even pregnancy it was not the misery I was expecting it to be, and had been warned that it would be. Perhaps I got lucky there but I never felt so good in my life as when I was expecting my two children.
And don’t get me wrong, I love my kids a lot and they are a source of great joy and are getting more helpful with age. No regrets! Yet I could practically be their grandmother, versus their mother, no matter how young I may look or act for my age.
Although I did not notice it in my youth, I now notice the “missing generation” more with time. I wonder how many others have this same longing later in life, recognizing what could have been that will never be?
There are some who believe every child is a gift, a golden crown. Planned or unplanned, perfect timing or not. The older I get the more clearly I see this is true.
Do not fear or put off having children, would be my advice. Celebrate each and every one! Surround yourself (and your good man!) with them if you can, and raise them up in a happy intact home. Build your tribe!
Sure, you may have to put yourself aside, but the return on that investment simply cannot be matched. To enter midlife and the elder years surrounded by a supportive family unit that you have invested in is gold. Not that this alone as a reason to have a family, but it is a good one!
I feel for my friends who have put careers first and never married or had children and who are seriously regretting that now. They post pictures of their fur babies and try to make it look like everything’s good but I know the sorrow in their hearts. Maybe not all of them, but more that way than not. And by the time that realization came, the ship had sailed.
And of course on top of birth control, there’s a whole other lost generation, the generation lost to Choice. Millions and millions who would never be. Many developed countries are grappling with this loss now.
Perhaps it’s all the unrest we have experienced over the past few months that brings this front and center. I find myself reevaluating what’s important, and looking back on what was important, and what was folly.
As I have written in the past when you were young it feels like life offers many chances. But with age you see every choice is a door opened or closed and there is rarely the opportunity to go back on the path and make different choices. We are all progressing along a linear line that is our life time.
Choose wisely so it adds up to a life well-lived!
What do you think? Please share in the comments!
(p.s. speaking of comments, while there are many worthy topics of discussion today, please try to stay on the topic this blog is about! Thank you!)
“Ask me about demographic suicide”. Thank you for a great post. I fear for women that wait too long. It isnt out of selfishness I say this. I honestly think that this among other things adds to the common instability we see.
Slightly on topic:
Have you ever heard Anthony Dream Johnson speak about some of the things that you mentioned?
Hi Matt, I have not but will look into it!
I would also agree that much of the instability we see today may be linked to this “arrested development” and stretching out of the teen years another decade rather than advancing into true adulthood. I know becoming a mother forced me to put myself aside in a way that I think was actually very healthy and helped me grow as a person. It’s suddenly wasn’t just all about me and that was actually a good thing! Thank you for commenting!
Im not sure if you have heard of 21 Con or the Make Women Great Again event. I remember him echoing many things you said in a few of his interviews. A woman has to be inquisitive enough to understand him but he has said a lot of what you bring up.
I see that many of the rioters working for BLM/Antifa are young women. How much better would our society be if their lives were dedicated to raising children instead of burning down society? Also, it seems the lack of children is part of what is driving them crazy.
Okrahead, the reason so many of those rioteds are women is that they want to be having children. You have looting, rioting, and arson going on. How does that saying go? Rape, pillage, and burn? Crazy how a bunch of scantily clad women are hanging around violent men? Not at all. They want one of those strong, virile men to take her and knock her up.
The problem is that Antifa isn’t strong or virile, they just have the cops protecting them from normal Americans. Those women aren’t going to get what they need. Some of them are too far gone from college indoctrination. Some of them will get close to the wall and settle down. Some of them will end up in prison. But make no mistake, all of these women are following ancient programming that is intended to get them knocked up.
I wasn’t expecting another post from you. The “Lost Generation” is a real concept, but it is part of the past. So many were lost in WWI and to the Spanish flu that it did have currency. In some villages in France, all you could find were old men and boys. We have been here before. What solved it then was to end WWI and the Spanish flu ran its course. After that, we had to wait a generation for demographic balance to be restored.
This is different. This is entirely female driven. There is no war to end. You did say that I wouldn’t like female nature once it was revealed. This is a part of it. Feminism has liberated it and it’s not very nice nor is it good for an ordered society. In the long run, it amounts to a death cult that has suborned society.
b g said:
Who remembers a tougher but somehow gentler time ;-D
I do, but my Dad lived through it. It was cute, how at the end of the program, they all said good night to each other.
Well, I think we saw a lot of it. The younger ones may have seen their children but what we should have learned from them was destroyed by nasty ideologist Marxist Leninist feminist dogma. Does anybody see any oppressed person in that picture?
Although I was my mother’s last child at 38, I turned out to be the best of the four. However, statistically speaking, earlier children usually are less likely to have problems and are likely to be superior specimens. Not every mom will be as lucky as mine, to save her best child for last. One of my sisters held off getting married, to have a brief and frustrating career, and her last child has a profound case of Down’s syndrome. I think we’d all have better kids, statistically speaking, if we had them earlier. Putting off having kids until later just further increases their chances for genetic abnormalities, and gestational development issues which older mothers are far more prone to have. Plus there is the whole issue of older parents parenting more like grandparents. I can count on my hands the number of times my father played sports with me. He was plumb worn out by the time I was old enough to play sports. Thankfully I had an older brother and lots of friends to play sports with. It is sad that my sons are now intentionally being raised without their father, and with videogames substituting for sports. That can’t be good for their physical, emotional, and mental, development.
This is for RPG, personally. These people are nearly the last outfit in Canada not taking money from the public purse and they cover events that no one else will touch. There is an interesting discussion about how protesters don’t get to choose who covers them. Beggars can’t be choosers. When I was younger, all press were welcome. They helped get the word out. There is also some discussion about how they have suborned City Hall and, by extension, the police.
There is something very wrong when protesters run off journalists. If they do, do they deserve credibility? I have felt this way since Melissa Clark pulled her tricks in Missouri.
For Fuzzie https://www.twitter.com/RandyResist/status/1277096269974958080
Big grin! While they not very fussy and don’t cause much trouble, I don’t think they tip very well. I will be a happier bear when all this Covid-19 stuff is behind us.
Correction. It was Melissa Click who caused trouble in Missouri in 2016.
This got me in hot water over at Sunshine Mary’s. It was off topic, I have to admit. I don’t think that you have seen it.
There is an interesting discussion about how protesters don’t get to choose who covers them. Beggars can’t be choosers…. There is also some discussion about how they have suborned City Hall and, by extension, the police.
And then there is Beverly Hills, CA. Which has a large population of wealthy Iranians who settled there when the Shah fell. They don’t put up with nonsense.
About Beverly Hills, I have seen too many videos and the police there do play fast and loose with the Constitution. I guess they presume that the city can afford attorneys to represent them when they step over the line.
The right to free assembly was hard won. Before he founded Pennsylvania, William Pitt was put on trial for his life for attending a Quaker meeting. Jury lawlessness acquitted him.
Any Iranians who don’t want to live under the Constitution are welcome to return to Iran. Benjamin Franklin once said, “Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.”
I got carried away with my last comment. That was William Penn.
fuzzie, you said: Any Iranians who don’t want to live under the Constitution are welcome to return to Iran.
Umm, no. They would be killed upon re-entry.
But what has the Constitution to do with the link I posted? Nothing. The U.S. Constitution, by way of the First Amendment, says only that Congress shall pass no law … States and local governments are free to pass whatever laws they want.
From the article I linked to: Several weeks ago, Beverly Hills officials issued an order limiting gatherings to 10 people or less “between the hours of 9 p.m. and 8 a.m.,” defining an assembly as “any gathering or group of 10 or more people on a public street, sidewalk or other public space if those 10 people have a common purpose of goal.”
Like I said, the Beverly Hills folks don’t put up with nonsense. So they issued the order just quoted. Which gave them the ability to deploy the Beverly Hills police to enforce the order. Again, the U.S. Constitution is not involved in this story at all – except to the extent that it leaves to the States all powers except for those few that the Constitution expressly gives to the Federal government.
The weekend of May 30, rioters – exercising their First Amendment right of peaceable assembly – broke into the office of a Dr. friend of ours, who is Iranian. They trashed his office, stole all his medicines, and the medicines from the Pharmacy next door. Dr. called in help to restore his office, and was open for business on the following Tuesday. Wednesday night, rioters – again exercising their First Amendment right of peaceable assembly – broke into his office a second time and trashed it, along with the pharmacy next door.
Our doctor friend was not the only one who had this happen to them. Which is what gave rise to the order I quoted above.
For those who missed it, the First Amendment does not grant the rioters the right of peaceable assembly. The First Amendment only says that Congress shall pass no laws that restrict said right. The First Amendment leaves States and local governments free to pass whatever laws they wish to pass regard rights to peaceable assembly. And the Constitution leaves it to the States, not the Federal government (except in special circumstances), to enforce those laws.
fuzzie, I’m pretty sure you know all of this already. Which is what makes some of your comments (like the one about the Constitution) so baffling to me..
So you are fine with the city council of Beverly Hills abridging rights guaranteed by the Constitution? The law is, on it’s face, unconstitutional and, therefore, illegal. Don’t worry. City Councils do stuff like this all the time. They are not charged with enforcing illegal law, and a law this blatant, that a child could see, should subject the police to prosecution for enforcing it.
I stand on what I said. If they do not want to live within limits imposed by the Constitution of the United States they are welcome to return to Iran. I believe this is a requirement of their residency and, if they chose to become American citizens, they swore to it.
I am sorry for your doctor friends, but would they want to live here if this were the police state you would have?
Also, there are laws already on the books that deal with burglary. I understand that it is a felony in California.
Enough. We don’t need autistic squabbling over minutiae of constitutional law. Fuck the police for protecting the rioters. Fuck the rioters for being degenerates in need of summary execution. Fuck the Iranians for being in America and not Iran. The constitution is dead, no one cares.
Bloom, in other news, one of the most important right wing blogs is down. Not sure whats up, so look out. I might reach out soon, and I’ll let you know if I do. If you can back this blog up offline you should do so, just in case.
But what has the Constitution to do with the link I posted? Nothing.
Fuzzie has made it very clear he has not read the Constitution, and doesn’t care. He has stated this plainly.
He only cares what they say about the Constitution in the videos he chooses to view and spam us with.
TSK: Which blog was shut down?
Maybe this is actually brilliant and Fuzzie is engaging in some sort of pro-police psy-op. Because I’ve never in my life felt so unwilling to watch or read another anti-police propaganda piece. Punchdrunk on the first 500 videos. If that is truly the case, you win. I cry uncle. I will never believe another police brutality video or news piece again. Good work.
One police brutality video is a tragedy, 2000 videos are propaganda.
To tie this into the topic, very difficult to raise a family in a crime ridden environment. As history, the ghettos and barrios, and many other countries, has shown us again and again. If you can’t run a business, clinic, et al or even sleep soundly in your own home without fear of rioters destroying your property and/or hurting you, you don’t have either freedom or security in any real sense of the word.
Liz, it was Jim’s Blog. Its pretty far out there, but Jim had a lot of influence. He was the head of neoreaction, which is the only truly right-wing intellectual movement remaining. Now his blog is down, and no explanation is forthcoming. It has me worried.
Thanks TSK, I’d never heard of him (or neoreaction).
That is strange for it to just disappear like that.
Yeah, its part of a larger purge.
Looks like they are pulling out all of the stops to shut down Trump. Some far left stuff got hit, too, so it looks like the elite left is starting to purge their enemies. The far left looks to be getting to out of line and so the elite left is cracking down. Seems like they are hitting all of their enemies all at once.
Roger Blakely MGTOW said:
I had a friend of mine die some years ago. She was a successful doctor. Her husband was also a doctor. At the time of her death she had been divorced for a few years.
I argue that the cause of her death was her mother’s Baby-Boomer single-mother feminism, which promoted the message that it wasn’t enough for a woman to be the wife of a doctor and the mother of his children but that she had to be a doctor too.
It is clear to me that women between the ages of 20 and 65 years old are unwilling to rethink feminism. The reason for their unwillingness to rethink feminism is that feminism during the period in which they lived allowed them to have their cake and eat it too. They got to enjoy the benefits of feminism before the consequences of feminism set in. Young women of today are forced to live with the effects of feminism, and they are rejecting it. A lot of young women are sick of hearing from older women.
I heard a woman explain why women over 35 years old refuse to reverse course. They refuse to reverse course because it is over for them anyway. No man wants them no matter what they do. So why should they admit that they were wrong if it wouldn’t do them any good?
David Foster said:
One big problem with fertility rates is the pressure not just to attend college, but to attend some form of graduate school….2, 4, or more years…as well. This adds considerably more difficulty to any attempt to get started in one’s career before having kids.
I know some women who have employed that strategy successfully; a common thread is that they didn’t go to grad school
It must be that you can’t think of any more defenses for what cops do that you have taken to attacking me directly though ad hominems. Don’t feel like the Lone Ranger. The Youtuber Donut Operator is tired of defending cops too and he is YT’s biggest cop apologist.
Something happened on the streets of Minneapolis the day George Floyd was murdered. That was the day the cops used up the last of their good faith.
Sorry, I tried, but I was provoked.
To get back to the topic, while we are usually looking at women and discussing what they are thinking, it might be a good idea to look at the men. I think that they are walking away from this sick SMP. With hypergamy in overdrive, it will take a while for women to see this.
@bloom – remembering you and yours in prayer. Keep us informed, if you can.
@liz – yup.
@fuzzie – just letting you know that I saw your responses to me.
Although I was my mother’s last child at 38,
ahhh, you’re the ‘baby!’ that explains everything 😉 😉 😉
Roger Blakely – I argue that the cause of her death was her mother’s Baby-Boomer single-mother feminism, which promoted the message that it wasn’t enough for a woman to be the wife of a doctor and the mother of his children but that she had to be a doctor too.
had an interesting conversation with a woman older than i today. i think she’s precious because she has a tender, teachable heart, and is willing to learn and change direction accordingly, even in her 70’s?. anyway, she was lamenting teaching this to her daughter who is consequently very career driven. this woman (and her husband) live close and take care of their grandchildren, but she knows it’s not the same and the children would rather have their own mother. their daughter is married, and all the children are theirs, but their daughter’s focus is on her career.
This runs a little long, over an hour, but if you want to know what men see as the reality on the ground, this will give it to you. Remember, men didn’t ask for this.
Here is more from Aaron Clarey. It’s not a video but a post. To sum it up, the boys only get to stand back and watch. The girls are in the driver’s seat and, if they don’t like where they are going, don’t blame anyone else.
I had heard that Ghislaine Maxwell was arrested. The question is, will she survive her time in prison as well as he colleague, Jeffry Epstein, People are already speculating and it doesn’t look good for survival.
I just saw a press conference with the DOJ people who are accusing Ghislaine Maxwell. In Jeffrey Epstein’s case the newest charges dated back to 2005. In Ghislaine’s case, they are even older. I looked up statutes of limitations for both New York and federal crimes. In NY, it was two years for misdemeanors and five for felonies and has recently been doubled. For federal crimes, there is no statute of limitations on anything that involves the death penalty, five years for most everything else, and there are exceptions for certain sex crimes. I couldn’t find out more without downloading and reading a pdf. I am going to take a wild guess and say that the statute of limitations has expired and the feds are going ahead anyway. That goes a long way to explaining Jeffrey Epstein’s death in custody and it doesn’t look good for Ghislaine. Bringing a case like this to trial would be a terrible embarrassment for the Department of Justice. In any event, whether I am right or wrong, time will tell.
As for prosecuting beyond the statute of limitations, it has been done before. Al Capone was prosecuted for Income Tax Evasion after it had expired.
Roger Blakely MGTOW said:
A large percentage of today’s women are going to die homeless in the street.
The Baby Boomers who adopted Second Wave Feminism are getting old. While these women said that they didn’t need a man, they never earned enough money or saved enough money to take care of themselves in their old age. Most of those women assumed that eventually some man would marry them and take care of them for the rest of their lives.
If what women like black dating coach Nicole Michelle say is true, that women have four things to offer men, youth, beauty, fertility, and femininity, old American women have nothing to offer men. We have two generations of women who cannot admit this universal truth: Women cannot survive without the love and protection of men. Old American women have no youth, beauty, or fertility to offer. Old American women have no femininity. Old American women cannot even pretend to be nice to men.
There is an homeless old woman in my town. She never needed a man. She was a Second-Wave-Feminism Kool-Aid drinker. Today I see her on the street. She is wearing a wig (because her hair has fallen out) and makeup (because her face has lost all of its color). She shuffles the street and talks to herself. I have seen this look before; it is the face of death. She will be dead in a matter of days.
Younger women will see this. Younger women will see the result of the Kool-Aid that they’ve been drinking. But I doubt that it will help.
We should prepare ourselves to be stepping over old women dying in the street for the rest of our lives.
@fuzzie – this is off the top of my head, so I am speaking generally, not specifically. In response to the “metoo” agitation, I think the statute of limitations on sexual assult charges have been done away with. Don’t remember if that is controlled at the State level, or the Federal level, and I’m not going to look it up. You may know better whether I am right or wrong here. But, if I am more right than wrong, that might explain arresting someone for deeds done before the statute of limitations kicked in.
Not very long ago, California caved into the feminists over #metoo and eliminated the statute of limitations on sex crimes. There is a problem with this, over the course of time, it becomes more difficult to prove innocence. There is also another problem. Corrupt governments can use this as a weapon against political opponents. I know of a First Amendment Auditor in Texas who divorced decades ago. I am going to guess that his wife tried to use the “silver bullet” in the divorce, claiming that he sexually assaulted a child. It didn’t work then, but since, police have tried to use it against him. Texas is weird on sexual assault of a minor limitations. They have fifteen years after they turn eighteen to accuse, that is up until their thirty third birthday. The auditor is very close to getting out from under this and I hope that he blows the lid on a very corrupt police force.
As for Jeffrey and Ghislaine, if they are charged under federal law, the federal statute of limitations that applies in the one in force at the time of the alleged crime. One that was written into law later would be “Ex post facto.” I think Jeffrey Epstein died in prison before trial because feminists would go crazy if he were set free on something they would see as a technicality. I think Ghislaine may be next.
Roger Blakely MGTOW said:
@fuzzie Aaron Clarey put it well: “You guys keep asking me, the waiter, for a pretty, supportive wife, nuclear family, and children. I’m sorry. That’s not on the menu. Stop wasting your life asking for it.”
It’s not like the boys didn’t try. We tried hard.
Hi Fuzzie, Yes we will have to see, I believe NY passed something about a year ago that gave an exemption for sex abuse but I am not sure.
I know police and govt. corruption is a big topic for you, but several people have asked me to keep comments on topic. So if you could do that for me, I’d sure appreciate it.
Happy 4th to you, and everyone! Stay safe!
Roger Blakely MGTOW said:
Aaron Clarey provided an epic live rant on YouTube this morning, the Fourth of July, called Ladies, Men Are Not Coming To Save You. He covered a lot of ground. The premise was that women cannot expect Gen. X and Millennial men to overcome two generations of feminist indoctrination to save American women from the hell that they’ve created for themselves.
Until just a few years ago guys like me believed wholeheartedly in feminism. To do otherwise was to risk social death. Now we come to find out that women actually want something different. In their heart of hearts women want to be traditional wives and mothers for patriarchal men who dominate them physically, financially, and emotionally. But men cannot operate on what may or may not be in women’s heart of hearts. Men have to behave according to what women say in the real world. If women say that they want feminism, men have no choice but to believe their words.
Men over the age of thirty-five years old are not going to risk their lives and livelihoods trying to rescue women from feminism.
Aaron Clarey talked about men going out with escorts in a way that made sense to me. Things have gotten so bad, and American women are so awful, that a man who wants to spend a few hours on a date with a pretty woman who behaves kindly toward him is going to have to pay an escort hundreds of dollars. And I am not even talking about sex.
You forgot the link, but I found it on his Youtube channel. It runs over an hour but it is a gem and it is addressed to the ladies. He admitted that it won’t change anything. Women are going to ride this all the way to the bottom. They won’t go against the herd and they are more comfortable with the lie that the truth.
He talked about “The Girlfriend Experience” which involves renting her services for a weekend just to know what it is like to be treated well by a woman. It’s close to the end.
So, the pearl clutchers are getting to you by private message? I have to wonder what kind of a person takes the side of corrupt, murderous cops? While feminism needs to be supported by a totalitarian regime augmented by redistributing wealth and an unquestioningly obedient enforcement arm to enable something as unnatural as feminine social primacy in a species with sexual dimorphism, in the long run, it’s just not going to work. These people are not your friends. These people want you to reinforce their delusions.
I found out something interesting about Ghislaine Maxwell today. She is in the same jail where Jeffrey Epstein died. His death was the first for that facility in thirty years. I don’t like her chances. Does anyone remember the grim joke going around before Covid-19 and all the riots? Did Jeffrey Epstein kill himself? The official autopsy said yes, the second one said that bones were broken in his neck that could not be accounted for by suicide. At the root of all this must be feminists that can’t tolerate any men having sex, no matter what their position is in life.
@fuzzie said: So, the pearl clutchers are getting to you by private message?
Maybe. But the comments I’ve seen about your posting overkill are quite out in the open.
I’m pretty sure most folks aren’t taking the side of corrupt, murderous cops. I’m pretty sure most folks want to see those cops brought to account.
I’m also pretty sure that most cops are not corrupt and murderous. Of the millions of encounters per year between police and the public, the questionable behaviors that your videos show account for a tiny percentage of those encounters. Pretending that the statistics show otherwise is being exceedingly dishonest.
I didn’t think bears were dishonest.
If you know cop culture, you would not be apologizing for it. You complain about the volume of material that I find, then say it is only a tiny portion of cops.
I don’t think that I am the one being dishonest. So you have taken to ad hominems.
In any event, what you or I say here will do nothing to affect what is coming down the pike. The cops are not going to change and one of them is bound to embarrass the whole profession again. They can’t help it.
I think the general rule of telling ladies not to hold off having kids isn’t right. Everyone’s situation is different. For some, they can go straight into motherhood without having any career first, for others, a degree and to experience a career is better, so that there’s something to go back to after the kids grow up, or maybe the partner loses his job, or to take care of herself if they divorce etc. The rule should be – have kids when you and your partner are ready.
You had your first at 35yo when you must have thought that was when it felt right. Don’t regret that decision now. That 25yo from work is a one off great young lady. Not all are like that! Imagine if your 25yo daughter now was a rat bag. You’d be regretting having any kids at all haha