As you may or may not know, this blog came out of my stumbling across the manosphere, listening what to these gruff and sometimes grouchy men had to say, and then realizing that it was information being said nowhere else that women like myself and those I knew needed to hear.
And I also knew that most women probably wouldn’t be able to stick around the manosphere long enough before they got offended, or in an argument with the men, and rejected the message entirely.
Because guys see things in a different way, it’s almost a different language, my I’d ea was to take the information that the men were sharing and then translate it into language that women could understand, would find helpful, and would not reject because of the way that it was phrased or who was saying it.
I also wanted this to be a welcoming space for male readers, just as they so graciously allowed me to hang around the “men only” manosphere and answer my million questions and not just run me off. Maybe I (and we) can give them some insight into the female brain, just like they gave me insight into the male brain.
And here I am, I don’t know how many years later, 6 or 7 years later, and I find myself writing less not because I don’t care about this anymore or I don’t believe in these things anymore but because I really feel like I rarely have something new to say that I haven’t said before.
If you are new here I would encourage you to dig back to the beginning of time and read from the bottom up or just poke around and read stuff as you see fit or use the search box and find things that you have questions about. There’s a lot of information here.
Today I was thinking about this concept of how girls just want to have fun and how it’s both an upside and a downside.
But for better or for worse it is the way the Creator has designed woman, and I truly think the world needs their levity when it is a positive force. The feminine nature is at its best inspirational and what makes civilization get built by men who like these silly happy creatures and making them happier.
But it can be also a huge blind spot and weak point for women who do not understand it themselves.
The naturals and cads of the world understand this about women intuitively, and know that appealing to a girls just want to have fun nature is a big part of connecting with them.
The downside to this of course is that women often get involved with the wrong kind of man, the love ‘em and leave ‘em cad, just because he’s witty or charming or knows how to talk to women and “be fun.”
In the past the man in a woman’s family would sort that out because they can see it better than women can and they would runoff the men that had bad intentions and not let them get close to their precious women They were trying to protect and wanted good future’s for.
Along came feminism which told women these men are trying to control you and you should be able to make your own choices.
It all sounds good but it’s kind of like Eve and the Apple. And what seems harmless can cause great harm indeed, including to her. Although she may be having so much fun at the time she doesn’t notice.
But if you look around and you observe how many women are being used and misstreated and ditched and hurt because of this, you will see the obvious downside and how it’s really not that fun except initially.
So ladies remember girls just wanting to have fun can have drawbacks. So make sure you’re sticking to the good fun side of things.
And to any men folk reading here I would say remember girls just want to have fun and so if you can somehow couch your interactions with them in the guise of fun you will probably find it is very effective, indeed! It’s like catnip! Use this knowledge well and wisely and for good.
Goodness knows with everything else that’s going on in the world we could all use a little more fun in our lives. Just make sure it’s of the productive sort.
What do you think? Please share in the comments.
I just saw this. It is a mash up of music videos, one with Deborah Harry, and the other with Miley Cyrus, doing Heart of Glass. Draw your own conclusions.
Fuzzie
Hmmm, I was largely raised in the ’50’s and early ’60’s. Life wasn’t perfect but there wasn’t much stress between the sexes.
b g,
I wonder if it where you grew up has something to do with it?
Fuzzie
Yeah, there is no doubt about that, I had never even heard of feminism until ’66-67′. As JudgyBitch observed, and I translate her words into fluent redneck, ” there is remarkably little bitchin’, pissin’, n’moanin’ when a bimbo is inside frying the bacon while her man is outside shoveling the driveway at forty below ;-D
b g,
I grew up in California. The thought of forty below horrifies me. That is Siberian cold, Polar Bear cold, COLD!!!
Fuzzie
Yeah, there is a good reason why we moved to the Island aka California North ;-D
b g,
You do have the Japanese current working in your favor. 🙂
I am shivering from just being reminded. Brrrr.
Fuzzie
Yeah, and although the early mornings are cold, the afternoons are often in the 40’s. The green leaves of my wife’s Snowdrops are already up a couple of inches, they often flower in late January. And with any luck in weather, her earliest crocus flowers will bloom in early February…not that are pleasant thoughts.
b g,
Don’t tell any of your friends or family that live in the interior. Here, we’re lucky. We haven’t had any snow stick. I just looked up the temp and it is 36 Fahrenheit.
I read a post today saying that men who wear wedding rings have better luck in bars with women. It just made me sick. RPG did warn me that the more I learn about female sexuality, the less I will like it. That is taking preselection way too far and it is a good reason to stay out of bars.
Suzanne Venker put up a post yesterday to her Facebook page with the following topic: If your husband feels that he’s just sperm and a wallet, you’re doing it wrong. One day later there are 43 comments to this post. Suzanne Venker is targeting women, not men, and yet all of the comments are from men. Men are on Suzanne Venker’s Facebook page looking for hope. Suzanne Venker’s sympathetic-to-men post generated an avalanche of grievance from men. What does it mean that this post generated silence from women?
All of them were from men? I think that women are doing it wrong and they simply don’t care. Their silence is speaking volumes.
Years ago, I stopped by a doctor’s office to get a check up and read a couple of copies of Women’s Day. Something was missing. I went through both magazines and found only three pictures of men. This was a magazine aimed at married women. I think that women don’t want to be reminded that men exist.
Because of direct bad experience, an awful lot of men are dropping out of the sexual marketplace. The end result is that a lot of women are going to find out what it is like to be involuntarily celibate. Geneticists have discovered that while only forty percent of men who have lived have passed on their genes, eighty percent of women have. This is unprecedented.
I have two things knocking around in my brain today. Last night Kevin Samuels mentioned that Oprah Winfrey interviewed a set of female CEOs on one of her shows decades ago. Kevin said that Oprah did something that you are never supposed to do on live television: Never ask a question that might give you an answer that you don’t expect. Oprah asked these women what they would do if they could do it all over again. Every one of them said that she would rather have been a housewife. Oprah’s face dropped on live television. They quickly cut to a commercial. That television show cannot found on the internet.
Yesterday someone asked Aaron Clarey why American women are so angry. Aaron’s answer was that American women are so angry because they know that they were lied to. American women are so angry because they are stuck in a life that is unfulfilling, but they cannot swallow their pride enough to admit that they were wrong and reverse course.
Roger,
They may be angry, but they are still taking it out on men.
I don’t think that you will ever find the Oprah clip.
I wish that I had the answers, but all of this started and has continued with women. I think that all the unwanted men, those who would be husbands and fathers, need to go to the sidelines and let women drive the bus over the cliff. They can take Chad and Tyrone with them.
Cappy wrote a post that knocked it out of the park. Ladies, should you read this, take it in small doses.
http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/2021/01/the-cartel-that-worked-too-well.html
A roundtable discussion with Bettina Arndt, Diana Davison, and Janice Fiamengo mostly over how Woody Allen’s career was destroyed by accusations from Mia Farrow in their divorce that got aired in public. It runs fifty three minutes.
This was supposed to be some sort of prank in Las Vegas. I have no idea what it is all about, but it does underline the fact that the marriage marketplace is a complete mess.
Ladies, you did this to yourselves.
“… but because I really feel like I rarely have something new to say that I haven’t said before …”
Well, it’s been a fun water cooler, but perhaps you should also serve beer. 🙂
Before I go, consider this: what if all of this mess that’s been talked around is the result of corrupt people bootstrapping systems so they’re built out of corrupt inputs?
Couldn’t you reboot them somehow? What would that look like?
Maybe the point of not having anything new to say is that the solutions that may exist happen to be bigger than any one of us.
Maybe the feeling that things can’t be fixed leads toward realising that attempting to fix them is someone else’s entrapment strategy in action.
“… make sure it’s of the productive sort …”
Ah, yes, the myth of progress, ever advancing, producing onward.
But what if what we truly desire is to watch most of it burn?
A thought experiment then: suppose you have a private vault under bank control with eleven metric tonnes (24 250 lb US) of silver in it, present market value roughly 10 million USD, total volume just over one cubic metre if it were stacked optimally, which it isn’t since the vault consists of hundreds of small safety deposit boxes.
It’s heavy, it’s valuable, it’s really obvious when you move a lot of it, and it’s safer in that bank under someone else’s control, or so it was until you noticed that the bank has been placed under corrupt management.
Given that you have relatively free but limited and monitored access to the boxes to which only you can access the keys, how would you arrange to shift it all in such a way that it wouldn’t be immediate cause for alarm with the bank’s management or noticed by interested observers who may make arrangements to steal it in transit?
Now see whether that solution could be applied to removing the few bits of good left within the corrupt systems while nobody is noticing.
Nota bene: your first few answers will not work.
They’ve already thought of those scenarios and constraints.
Now what?
Imagine another vault operated by different corrupt people holds your keys in hundreds of small safety deposit boxes if this is starting to feel easy at any time. 🙂
Heh ;-D
And Suzanne Venker shuts down her Facebook page, just like I said that she would. That’s what happens to female-oriented red pill spaces. The kitchen gets too hot.
white privilege
Boys would likely to be in the mines, but most everybody had to work. Young oyster shuckers, Josie, six years old, Bertha, six years old, Sophie, ten years old, Port Royal, South Carolina, 1912. Work began at 4 AM.
Do you not think that men – ie the patriarchy is alive and well…and trying to control us? Or have I misread?
Hamm, well, almost everybody here lives in an anglophone country so you may be misreading some of the commentary. Almost everybody here considers second wave feminism to be a cancer, one that many consider may ultimately destroy Western Civilization itself. As for supposed patriarchy, I was raised in the ’50’s and most female and much male social control was by older women…a gentle matriarchy operated by grandmothers and older aunts ;-D
you just want to have fun. meanwhile, you’re inlt sleeping. with men with sexual experience and leaving the good guys behind. being a nice guy is now a death sentence. because when your life is devoid of love…. your mental health breaks down and you die. not the assholes… just the nice guys. now they’re dead.
that was fun for you? you watched good guys die ans were entertained. so you could be baby mama number 5 to a guy who’s never held a job?
FOR REAL?
rhen complain about men
You see, i’m one of them. I dated the same girl from preschool up through college and all the girls around me told me what a good guy I was. Even when she didn’t wanna have sex until marriage and I was so frustrated I would let out screens rage into my pillow at night for the physical pain that her teasing caused. But I was encouraged by the women around me and buy the other girls he told me that I was doing the right thing. My parents paid for her college education if we agreed to wait till after graduation to get married. I wanted to explode explode. But I sucked it up and made it another four years. In four months before the wedding and graduation she turned up pregnant. And I found myself a hot educated wealthy young man who was a virgin. And completely Undateable. And though I’ve tried for the last 15 years to find a woman who would see past the fact that I was a virgin and not hold it against me, I never have. I dated girls for weeks, But once they find out and dumped on the spot. Screaming things like “I haven’t got time to teach avoid the fuck! “, Or reacting by swinging their entree dish around at Olive Garden over and breaking my nose, Landing me in the ER.
in the words of a cardiologist I went on a date with recently after i declined sex on a first date “You’re gorgeous, more talented than anybody I’ve ever met, well spoken, and would likely be a great provider for my kids. But none of that matters. I want someone that can dick me the fuck down. And you can’t. If I was you, I would just kill myself and be done with it.”
what can i say? jokes on us. and fuxk you too.