In time I will write more here, but for now I’ll just jot this down quickly.
I am a divorced single mom in her early 40s who has a great education, a successful career, and all things considered a pretty great life. But there is a big something missing. A successful relationship. After doing everything I had been told to do to become a successful “modern” woman, I looked around one day and realized it wasn’t working. Or at least when it came to men, I didn’t “get it.”
So I went searching for answers. And I found the Red Pill. I spent months reading everything I could on the topic, mostly written by men, sharing what they really think about women, dating, and relationships in a place called “The Manosphere.” What I found was completely the opposite of what I had been told my whole life was “how it works.” Yet at the same time, all kinds of things that had never made sense, suddenly did. Almost all the advice I had been given on dating and relating to men, turned out to be the problem. And I got mad. And I fought it. And then one day, as I started putting it all together and combined that with my life experiences, I realized it wasn’t just a bunch of angry men. It was truth. And they were trying desperately to communicate this information to the women in their lives, with little success.
While I am still getting my mind wrapped around all this myself, I realized that if I didn’t get it, chances are a lot of other women didn’t either. So I started this blog to share what I have learned about the Red Pill life, and what women can learn from it, in hopes sharing my journey will help other women make sense of a world that’s not making sense, too.
(Update: I am now happily committed now to a wonderful guy. My single days seem done. But I have promised not to discuss “us” in this blog, so I don’t. Let’s just say things are going great and we have a Captain and Co-Captain style dynamic that works really well.)
A note about comments: Please keep the following guidelines (borrowed and adapted from another blog with great forums) in mind:
My goal is to provide an open-minded yet respectful forum for deep and robust discussions that reach to the root causes of what we’re seeing in society and what can be done. The focal point will be the dating/mating marketplace and intergender dynamics. Truth is what is most valued here.
I appreciate and welcome opposing viewpoints that help hone in on the truth–in fact, and chances are we will not agree on everything–but it is essential that conversations remain civil. Many of the topics will be controversial, so chances are passions will be raised and disagreement will exist. But under no circumstances will I tolerate direct threats, displays of hostility, or excessive abusive language. I fully intend to be as hands off as possible but certainly reserve the right to delete any comment that contains threatening material or that does not align with the overall goals.
While the blog is aimed at women, I welcome both men and women here, both as readers and commenters. I believe and that doing so will lead to richer, more well-rounded discussions. Fact-based disagreement over ideas can lead to greater understanding of reality. I hope to spend minimal time moderating comments or disputes, and ask commenters to take a “let’s agree to disagree” attitude when views conflict or tempers flare. Thank you in advance for helping me out with that, as I barely have time to write the posts!
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